5 Tips to Feel Great in Summer Clothes
For those already sensitive about their weight, the summer season adds extra pressure. Replacing pants and sweaters for shorts and tank tops often triggers body insecurities. It doesn’t have to be this way. If summer clothing causes self-loathing, change your mindset to embrace hot, sunny days with confidence.
Obese since childhood, Sarah routinely hid her body in over-sized shirts and loose pants. She dreaded the transition to summer and bathing suit season. While her friends looked forward to beach days, Sarah wished for rain.
After changing her attitude by learning to accept herself, Sarah no longer fears summer days. “I used to feel embarrassed about my body, but not anymore,” she says. "I wear a bathing suit with shorts to the beach. When I’m at my parent’s pool, though, I’m comfortable taking off my shorts. I don't care what anyone thinks. I may wear a bathing suit; I may wear shorts. I do what’s best for me depending upon each situation.”
Sarah lost twenty pounds toward her goal of releasing seventy. As she practiced the following strategies, she not only began to feel confident wearing summer clothes, she stopped battling with her body. Releasing weight became easier.
Practice these five tips as Sarah does to not only feel self-assured in summer fashions, but to give your weight loss program a boost.
1. Replace “Should” with “Want”
Resist being controlled by what you think you "should" wear and take charge of your choices. Sarah developed the habit to be mindful of her needs. She takes time to look within and asks herself, “What do I truly want?” She disregards the opinions of others and only wears clothes that feel comfortable. Do as Sarah does and strengthen your own confidence by honoring your true wishes.
2. Compliment Others
Sarah makes a point to compliment at least five people while at the beach. “This woman smiled so brightly when I told her I loved her bathing suit that I simply stopped feeling self-conscious,” she said. “At that moment something switched and it no longer was about me. I was relaxed for the entire day.” Ignore your insecurities and spread love and kindness. By uplifting others, we uplift ourselves.
3. Stand Tall
If you feel self-conscious while walking along the beach, uplift your mood by making even a minor posture adjustment. Research shows when you position your body in a confident stance, you actually begin to feel more confident. The next time you feel insecure, pull your shoulders back, stand tall and smile. If need be, "fake it 'til you make it" and you’ll most likely notice a subtle shift that helps you move in a positive direction.
4. Imagine Confidence
Use visualization to imagine feeling self-assured in stressful situations. Before attending an activity where she anticipates feeling self-conscious, Sarah uses an imagery technique called mental rehearsal. “I visualize myself looking great and talking with people easily,” she says. “It makes a difference when I’m there because I’ve already practiced it in my mind.” When you mentally rehearse a challenging event, you plant seeds of confidence that remain with you in the situation.
5. Be Thankful
Sarah’s relentless negative thoughts about her body overshadowed her love for the beach. She made the conscious decision to shift her focus. “I now make a point to appreciate how beautiful the ocean is,” she says. “I feel grateful for the opportunity to be at the beach and I give thanks for my healthy body.” Acknowledge your feelings, but don’t let them consume you. Focus attention on what you appreciate in life and your insecurities will diminish.
What helps you feel confident in summer clothes?
Diane Petrella, MSW is a psychotherapist and life coach. She offers her clients a spiritual approach to weight release and helps them develop a loving, respectful relationship with their bodies. Receive a free copy of Diane’s Seven Easy & Effortless Weight Loss Secrets by signing up for her monthly e-newsletter, Living Lightly, for spiritual insights and tips to release weight with confidence and love. To contact Diane visit www.dianepetrella.com.
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