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Accepting Yourself


By +Diane Petrella on Oct 01, 2009 12:00 PM in Dieting & You

By Diane Petrella, MSW


Do you know the best way to reach your weight loss goal?

Make peace with where you are today.

When you accept yourself the way you are, you paradoxically allow yourself to change. When you criticize and fight with yourself, you remain stuck and prevent change from happening.

Acceptance means honoring and loving yourself just the way you are. Maybe you feel confused and think that accepting yourself means you don’t want to change. You may think, “I don’t want to accept myself – that‘s why I want to lose this weight!” But it’s just the opposite. Making peace with where you are is the launching pad that gets you where you want to go.

Remember this: What you resist persists. When you become upset with yourself for carrying excess weight, feel embarrassed about your dress size, or demoralized at how long it will take to release those fifty pounds, you’re fighting with yourself. This stops you from making progress. Your thoughts and attention remain negatively focused on where you are rather than eagerly anticipating where you want to go.

Think of it this way: Whatever you focus your attention on grows. So when you condemn yourself, your condemnation grows. This results in self-punishing behaviors. You stay stuck. But when your attention is on where you want to go, and you accept yourself the way you are, your behaviors lovingly reflect the new life you’re creating. You move forward.

You know you want to release weight. Great! Make peace with where you are and you will reach your goal more quickly.  Where you are today is irrelevant. Your current situation carries no power over you unless you offer it negative attention. Accept where you are and remain focused on where you’re headed. You then become free to change.

Accept yourself right in this moment with no regret for who you were in the past and without self- reproach for not yet being who you want to be in the future. If this is difficult at first, that's ok. Try this. Gently say to yourself, "Wouldn't it be nice if I loved and accepted myself no matter what?" This statement offers less resistance and creates an inner blueprint for that message to become your truth.


Here’s a powerful exercise to gently guide you towards self-acceptance.

Write a love letter to yourself.

Find a comfortable, cozy spot. Make a soothing cup of tea. Breathe easily, relax and write a loving letter of acceptance to yourself. Remind yourself of the qualities you admire. Tell yourself you are committed to making positive changes. Congratulate yourself for successes already accomplished. Apologize for being hard on yourself. Write, “I love you”. Even if you don’t fully feel this yet, write it anyway because your intention to love yourself is very powerful. Promise to be patient and kind with yourself and to speak to yourself in gentle, loving ways. And thank yourself for doing the best you can with the resources you currently have.

When you’ve completed your letter put it in a safe place. Re-read it periodically and write more love letters to yourself often.

Your thoughts....

How accepting are you of yourself?  What would your love letter say?

Diane Petrella, MSW is a psychotherapist and life coach. She offers her clients a spiritual approach to weight loss and helps them develop a loving, respectful relationship with their bodies. Receive a free copy of Diane’s Seven Easy & Effortless Weight Loss Secrets by signing up for her monthly e-newsletter, Living Lightly, for spiritual insights and tips to release weight with confidence and love.  To contact Diane directly visit her website at www.dianepetrella.com 

 



Comments


Thank you so very much for what only could be called an extremely motivating e-mail. Acceptance of yourself is so extremely important in making improvements to yourself, we are what we digest. I lost somebody I loved very much after being with her for quite a few years and considering myself important after that point seem like a mute subject but as we begin to accept ourselves the truth becomes self-evident, we are only human beings and our faith in ourselves as well as the God we may see is the only important thing.

 

Neil



This is really great. This, I think, is the idea behind the fat acceptance movement. Accepting yourself so you have the room to grow and change. I still have a lot of trouble with this. No matter how much I lose, I'm still a fatty, but I have to get over it, and this email really helped.

Thanks!



This is really great. This, I think, is the idea behind the fat acceptance movement. Accepting yourself so you have the room to grow and change. I still have a lot of trouble with this. No matter how much I lose, I'm still a fatty, but I have to get over it, and this email really helped.

Thanks!



What has helped me to is try and see myself as God sees me.  We were all created in His image and we need to be able to look in the mirror and see what He sees.  That's about as positive as it gets!



Which means accepting yourself as God sees you. We are successful at jobs, raising children, running a house, etc. etc. but when it comes to weight loss we often say we can't do it. I have resigned to saying "As long as it takes" instead, for whatever it is I am trying to accomplish. I have never struggled so much with something I am totally in control of! I am a single mother who has bought a house, new cars, raised a great son and putting him through college, helped others, and used to say it was impossible. I never gave so much thought to doing things as I do dieting, eating right, exercising, I usually just did it. Yesterday I read just leap in with both feet! That's what I used to do and everything turned out okay. Now when I mull things over too long I get stuck. I have learned to put a time limit, make a decision and move on, right or wrong! As long as it takes, I will buy new clothes (I had stopped shopping unless absolutely necessary) and go out. Have faith in yourself and do accept that you are this weight today, but with work and perserverance next month and next year you will not be! But it really does start with accepting what you have and who you are now to be able to move forward.



Often, the food isn't the issue.  We get into self-destructive habits very early in life, like beating up on ourselves for not being exactly what others expect, (not smart enough, not thin enough, not pretty enough).  We're so used to treating ourselves badly that we're no longer aware of it.  We get into a pattern of putting our own needs last, behind the husband's, the kids', friends, co-workers, really anybody that lets us avoid meeting our own needs.

  Attack those problems, eg. self-esteem, self-worth, and the symptoms, like overeating, become far less important and manageable.  It is an uphill battle but the journey to true happiness with oneself is well worth it.  It's not just learning to treat food properly; it's about changing the emotional, spiritual, and physical. 



"accept where you are and who you are now"

Funny how this was the focus of todays news letter. My 13 1/2 month old son has been a virtual cling on these past 2 weeks.  Waking up in the middle of the night screaming, when he's been sleeping threw since he was 4 months old. Then waking up @ 5:30 to start his day with his new favorite words: "gatta go gatta go"

I'm exausted & I feeling sorry for myself.  Wishing for the old days when I could sleep in and just do as I pleased on a days off.  Those days are gone, as is my career, as is my old body. 

However, after mourning my old self for the past... oh.. YEAR!Undecided I have found new life in a different area of my career.  So I will do the same with my new found wake-up calls. Maybe take advantage of those extra hrs to do some yoga and have an even better, healthier body. 

Change has always been hard for me but every time I alow it to happen it's been for the better. And I wonder why my son is so .......how to put it nicely....determind. *LOL*

Here's to accepting and going with the flow. 

 

 

 



I like what you said about making a decision.  We take that first step and make the decision to be healthy and then the test comes... what do we choose?   Hamburger no mayo... or water to drink instead of pop.  That first decison helps with the choices we have to make every day.   I just joined calorie count and I am excited to win by losing.   I have a goal.  A cruise which I have never been on before.  I am going to get into a bikini! 



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I think that that was beautifully written. And it has definitely helped me to feel this way. before I started, I was very mad @ myself for regaining weight. I fought with myself, and got no where. Self hatred or anger is the worst prison cuase it is 24/7.

After I started here, had a plan and visualized myself back in my small clothes, I had too much energy going towards that to demean myself. I have not said ONE bad thing about my body in months, and it makes me feel free. Even when I was still 40 lbs overweight. I see so many people talking about how they hate themselves for letting it happen, but I realize now that those thoughts once hampered me from an optimistic beginning, and it makes me sad. I realize now how powerful those statements are.

Love is the most powerful weapon!!! Not anger. Thanks for the reminder.



I KNOW YOU ARE TIRED & PROBABLY WISHING HE WOULD GROW OUT OF THIS SOON. I PROMISE THERE WILL COME A DAY WHEN YOU WISH FOR THESE DAYS/NIGHTS BACK. IN THE BIG PICTURE THIS IS SUCH A SHORT TIME IN HIS LIFE, YOU WILL BLINK TWICE & HE WILL BE GRADUATING. CHERISH THESE TIMES WHEN HE WANTS ONLY MAMA, IN THE NOT TO DISTANT FUTURE HE WON'T LET YOU HUG ON HIM & WON'T WANT YOU MUCH AT ALL.



I also don't think it's the food, it is really the mindset. I too have a trip plannecd to Hawaii of next year, an all girls getaway! I hope to wear a bikini also! I had never worn one when I was thin, I was too shy, now it's my goal! Wink I am trying to be more positive and go to the gym and look at it the way I look at going to work, it is just something I have to do to get what I want. I was also mad at myself for letting myself go, but I can only start where I am, no use in beating myself up now. I am going to use the energy to better myself. When temptations come I just say 'this isn' part of my plan to lose weight and better myself' just like spending money like crazy will not get me closer to my goal of being debt free. One decision at a time, and if I give in then I just make sure I 'love' whatever it is I decide to eat, but smaller portions and I congratulate myself just for not eating the whole thing! I decided no more buying junk food but I can eat what is left in the house, which is not much, so I have to make it last a long time!



Before you leave in the morning look at your self in the mirror and pick out something ... compliment it out loud ... once you start doing this you will actually feel better for the rest of the day!

"WOw my hair looks good today" or "my butt looks FABULOUS in these jeans!"

Or if all else fails, fake it till you make it ... the more you say it the more you will believe it. 



Great advice!  Always being the chubby one in my family has been such a burden to me.  But now that I'm 52 years old I have decided that I'm a pretty mature women and love who I am in Christ.  Yes, I need to lose 20 pounds for health reasons, but no longer for vanity or pressure to be skinny like my 2 sisters.  The pressure is off!  Thank you for your wise words.



Great advice about the 'compliment yourself' and I also accept compliments more readily from others instead of trying to say something negative after someone gives me one. Sometimes what you see is not what others see. And accepting yourself frees you from having to make excuses to yourself for your faults. I had to ask God for strength to go to the gym yesterday, but I went and stayed my whole hour!



It took me 40 years to get the concept of self-acceptance and self-love down.  Until you are able to get to this point, everything else in your life, including weight issues will be a battle.  I wish more people could realize this about themselves-and sooner. 

I try to be an inspiration to those around me, without being preachy.  It is so hard when people come up to me, compliment me on my weight loss and then beat themselves up in front of me.  I just want to hug them and say "it's ok-you CAN do this!", but sometimes they just aren't ready to hear it. 

Thanks so much for this positive message.  I hope that everyone is able to take a little bit from it and apply to their lives today!



I totally agree with this article.  I  turned 50 and kept denying it and everything else.  Then I turned 51 and realized I change being 51 and everything that came with it.  So once I accepted it, it was so easy for me to quit smoking and I then pounds started to come off slowly also.  So just accept and you'll be amazed at what will happen.  Kiss



Great article!  Eating is so emotional and if you can't let go of all those negative things that you feel about yourself, then you can't let go of food as a salve for those feelings.  Over the last few years, I find that I have become much more regretful of things I have done in the past, even things that I said to someone 20 years ago - a little obsessive- huh?  I try to rationally talk myself out of those feelings because they take up valuable time and space in my brain that could be used for more positive thoughts and interactions.  When I get obsessive, I want to eat. 

Hopefully, I will be able to use some of these techniques to conquer my negative feelings.  Thanks!



Thank you for this article. I recently experience what is described in the article.

I am on a weight loss journey and I have been losing weight  at a rate higher than I first anticipated, however I experience 3 weeks of  experienced where my weight has reached a plateau. I was viewing myself in a very negative manner and i was a call away from ordering a large pizza and binging; until one night I decided to reassess my weight loss goals. I realised that instead of getting upset I actually needed to accept and appreciate my own achievements so far. I have lost 24 lbs within a period of four month which is a great achievement. Even though the last three weeks were without any results.  I acknowledged that and wrote down how proud I was of myself. A week later I stood on the scale and I saw that I lost 1 lb. It may not be much, but I was gratefull and happy that lost something, although it could be attributed to the fact that I increased my cardio, but I still believe that accepting where I am so far is giving me the motivation to continue my journey and continue to exercise and eat well rather than binge. I still have about 30 lbs to get to a healthy BMI but I will tackle this journey one day at a time.

I will definately use the information in this article as a constant motivator.



Dear Diane Petrella

Thank u for ur article. I am relly touched by your statemnt "Whatever you focus your attention on grows". This article is perfectly for those like me are unnecessarily worried about their own perception.

sincerely

mukti



It's great to have this site to see we all are just humans.  Thank you everybody!  Have a great day and fun with your love letters!  Smile!



In a love letter to myself I would say, "you are an intelligent, caring woman who knows and feels for others. Please extend some of this caring to yourself and others will love you even more."

The upcoming issue of Glamour magazine shows a dozen models who are "normal" size; many were anorexic models before they woke up and smelled the nutrition. Many went on to feed their minds and are more than just a stick rail for clothes. How wonderful that many are sizes 12 and 14 (which is where I am headed). So in the letter to myself I would also say, "See? they finally learned what you knew all along!"



What a great article! True change comes from the inside out! We all know it, but it's good to be reminded every once in awahile. Cool



I really needed that this morning, thankyou!:)



Intellectually I know exactly what you are saying and have been able to talk myself into other progressive behaviors. I stopped smoking, drinking, got a phd, etc...However, I cannot seem to do the same thing with food. My addictive personality effects my eating behaviors and one cannot give up all food. So, last night I binged and today I am so disgusted with myself. I am a life time WW member and absolutely KNOW what I am supposed to do but I lack any type of motivation. This article has given me a step that I can reintroduce to myself and that is positive self talk and fake it until you make it - I am going to try to stop my neg head AGAIN and move on - what have I got to lose but the weight?



I think not accepting myself in the past, and wanting to make quick changes in my weight has been a big reason why i haven't been able to really los eall the weight i need to, and why i fall off the diet wagon after a few short weeks, or when i stop seeing progress. 

I keep reminding myself that sticking to the diet is just one decision at a time, and that if a make one bad decision, like the starbucks latte instead of the green tea, i just have to accept it and move on to the next choice and not keep beating myself up about it and feeling guilty because that just makes the next choice harder to make the right decision about.

 



Self Affirmations (I'm worthy. I'm healthy and fit. I have control over what I eat and the amounts of it., etc) direct thinking.

Absolutely what you're thinking is What IS or will be! Every dream, every aspiration, every goal started with a thought.

Love and respect yourself by interrupting and replacing negative thoughts with positive ones. Your behavior will change to align with your thoughts in order that you might reach your every desire.



See as a human being we write letters to other and apraise them. By writing a love letter will be really good as human beings love them self most and apraising self for the the efforts which one make to loose wight will help him to do better.

 

Iwill try on weekend  and will shrare the feelings

Thanks for wonderful idea.



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I am having a hard time with this, I feel as I gained weight I am no longer attractive and I get so insecure.  I think it's going to ruin my relationship. I just cant get over being fat and I really cant stand my self and know that my man wants to look at slimmer looking women



Wonderful article.. "But as for me, I will have always have hope"  Psalm 71:14



i noticed there are a lot of religious comments to this and it made me think.

i like this article because it covers an important idea and a method of attaining it that will work for everyone, even people who dont believe in a god. these are important lessons that transcend religious diversity, and that makes it easier for me see that i CAN feel good about who i am and the choices i make. it really is hard sometimes to feel like its alright to be myself and like myself for it because so often am i treated like there is something wrong with me, whether because of my stance on religious faith or my weight.

this article has helped remind me that hope and optimism are things ive always had, and ive resolved never to forget that again.

THANKS!



Original Post by: cyndie036

I am having a hard time with this, I feel as I gained weight I am no longer attractive and I get so insecure.  I think it's going to ruin my relationship. I just cant get over being fat and I really cant stand my self and know that my man wants to look at slimmer looking women


May I share my thoughts about the following statement?

"I think it's going to ruin my relationship"

These words sound fraught with anxiety and can be triggers for binge eating. This kind of worry about the security of a relationship potentially creates a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Confidence and self-assurance are not dependent on numbers on a scale. Strengthening your confidence and self-worth will be more attractive to your partner than your dress size. See what happens when you write yourself a love letter as I suggested in my article. Set the intention that from now on you are your most precious priority. Then take your time and little by little shift your focus  from what you weigh to doing good things for yourself.

All best wishes,
Diane



thank you Diane , I will try that



I think this advice is good for so much more than losing weight. When I read your article, all I thought about was how my disease, MS, is currently progressing to a level where I'm really having trouble walking. Of course, this is not new. However, this time, it's so bad that it's really changing my life.

For twenty five years I've been a fighter. It's never gotten me down. Fighting has always served me well. Maybe I need to take your advice.

  



your post reminds me to love me always, be comfortable with where I am, and not to worry so much about where I'm going.  There was a time in my life when i was smaller, I had lost about 40 lbs,  but I wound up becoming bulimic, and worked out over 2 hours daily, and never once took a moment to enjoy my life, the foods I ate or the clothes that I wore.  I was always so critical and at 130 lbs all I saw was fat. 

Now almost 50, and about 45 lbs overweight I hear what you are saying and understand why it is important to love me right here, right now.  Tomorrow is not promised to anyone, and if it weren't for the pictures of my slimmer self I wouldn't have even known that at one time I was slim and I did lose weightl.  I didn't lover myself at that time. Now is the time to be glad in the blessings that i have received, for i have received many; a new husband who is an absolute joy, our children who also have been a blessing, not angels but far from horrid, my sisters and brother, all of whom are supportive and accepting. 

So thank you so much for those words of wisdom, today is the day that i love me for me and not what I was or what I will be, just because I'm blessed and loveable.



Thank you for the love letter idea. I was just released from the hospital with new early onset Atrial Fibrillation. The drs. got my heart back in rythmn. I am 59 yrs. old, have high cholesterol, high blood pressure, and am also 100 lbs. overweight. I keep saying to myself how did I get to this point in my life. I am always helping others and never focused on myself what I was doing to my body. I have never looked into a mirror and said to my reflection that I love myself. I have made a decision  today that this is the best day of my life because I am still here. I am going forward with a positive attitude. I will focus on myself more and not feel guilty about it. God does love us, so I should follow in his steps and love myself. No looking back, looking forward to the future. Keep up the good work everyone!!God loves you and so do I. Healthy Eating everyone!!!!!



Beautiful! I don't know where the light turned on-- changing my mindset has never been easy for me. I had an ideal childhood but being emotionally and physically unhealthy spiraled itself over and over weaving into depression and obesity. When I finally said, "Screw this, it's not worth hating myself or my life over", things started to change. I was less stressed when I started 8th grade in public school, and in fact I was confused and almost scared when I would find that I was enjoying myself. The esteem came later, when I decided that there was nothing wrong with me and I didn't need to be ashamed. As Bryan Kest would say... "Be where you're at cuz you're already there".

I'm still beginning my journey, just a few pounds down... but I'm so impressed by my own follow-through. I've been counting calories for well over a month. And what makes me almost tear up-- I think I'm actually going to do this!



Original Post by: cynsop

I think this advice is good for so much more than losing weight. When I read your article, all I thought about was how my disease, MS, is currently progressing to a level where I'm really having trouble walking. Of course, this is not new. However, this time, it's so bad that it's really changing my life.

For twenty five years I've been a fighter. It's never gotten me down. Fighting has always served me well. Maybe I need to take your advice.

  


"Accepting what is" and "fighting" MS aren't necessarily mutually exclusive. If I'm understanding you correctly, when you say "It's never gotten me down" it sounds as if you've done a great job being a "fighter" and accepting what is. My interpretation of your comment is that you have been fighting MS but not fighting yourself.

But I wonder if you may benefit from a softer approach. What if you substituted the phrase"I take exquisitely good care of my self" for "fight?" How does it shift things for you to think of yourself as accepting what is while devoted to absolute loving self-care?

All best wishes to you,
Diane



"How accepting are you of yourself?  What would your love letter say?"

I am not accepting of myself as I want to be. I am someone who believes in loving the world (all of it's inhabitants as well as the globe and the universe it sits within) because it exists. I want to love everything for the simplicity of its existence along with the intricate complexities and all that lay in between. 

I have thought of myself as a removed being of this wonderful universe for most of my life. I hated myself because I did not want to feel anger or hatred with the world I saw and loved. I felt hatred for myself because I could not comprehend the way that some things happened and how they hurt me. 

But I AM a part of this world. I love all those things which brought me harm because I know that pain is not the be-all-end-all. Because I know that the things which I could not comprehend or the actions of those I love which hurt me will always have a positive affect- even if I cannot see it or feel it.

I want to love myself. I want to appreciate myself as a being in this universe and as an individual all on my own. I want to love for the quintessential sake of loving and being able to love.

If I had to write a letter to myself I would say this:

Self, thank you. I have no idea how many times I caused abuse to you for instances which you had no part in. I berated you for the actions of the world I love so much. I forced you to want for food when there was opportunity to eat. I forced your stomach to become bloated and sick from too much food; again and again. I made you drink water until you were immobilized from the pain. I could not understand the way that you suddenly were at an unhealthy weight. I said I was ashamed of you when it was my actions which took you there. I forced you on your knees and made you purge unreasonably big and unreasonably small portions of food from your stomach and told you it was all your fault. I screamed at you. I clawed at your excess weight. I have threatened to permanently end our existence together. Thank you for ending your menstrual cycle to conserve your energy. Thank you for putting up with my accusations. Thank you for allowing me to cry. Thank you for giving me a voice, two legs to walk on, two arms and hands. Thank you for allowing me to draw and paint. Thank you for allowing me to sing, dance, run, laugh, and hug. Thank you for allowing me to be in this magnificent universe; to be human; to love others. Thank you for always accepting my love when I could give it to you and for tolerating my hatred that was laced through all these years. Thank you for listening to me when I told you I hated your reflection. Thank you for you. Thank you for changing and growing. Thank you for being alive and letting me become who I am within your birth and growth.

I love you. With the indelible ink of my heart and thoughts I will love you forever.



Thank you Diane Petrella, I really needed a prompt to write that to myself. This is a great post. I hope everyone here on CC reads it and takes it advice.

Much appreciation, -Kat


How synchronistic Kat - I was just about to respond to your post.
Thank you for sharing your letter. It is very moving.
Peace to you,
Diane



Thank you so much for this post Ms. Petrella. I haven't cried this much in a long time. I feel like there is hope for me, not just in weight loss, but in all aspects of my life. I am so happy to see that I am not alone in struggling, and that we are all worthy of love no matter what. That simple thought has made my world so much brighter. Thank you so much for your e mail. It came in a nick of time. God bless you Diane, your loved ones, and everyone who reads these posts.

Karen



This is a wonderful post and all the comments are....well, amazing.....

The letter posted by myvstarpops moved me so deeply, thank you for sharing such an intimate response.  I related to what you said and for me that's a long honest look at my relationship with myself that I've never had the courage to face.

I've also struggled over the years with acceptance of who I am.  When I look back at the times I was 'thin' I remember looking in the mirror and seeing 'fat'.  It didn't matter that the scale said I was 125 lbs on a 5ft 8in frame, I could not accept myself as I was at that time, I really believed that I was FAT.  I can honestly say I have no concept of reality when it comes to my physical size.  I see what I want to see and that is dictated by my emotions and thoughts. I don't know about you, but those change pretty quick for me on a minute to minute basis.

So, this thing about acceptance is that is like an anchor.... no matter what crazy, out of control storm of emotions is rocking my world, if I am anchored in the moment, grateful for what I have and accept that things are exactly the way the are supposed to be-at this moment-I'll be okay.  I may not like it, I don't have to like it, I just have to come to terms with the simple fact that it is, what it is, and go from there.....  I hope....

Thank you.....



Awesome advice.  Writing  a love letter to myself will be a difficult challenge, but I can see that I need to focus on myself.  It is very hard for me to say anything positive about myself, and that is something I need to overcome.  Wish me luck.



Thank you for writing this blog. I have been practicing positive thinking and acceptance of my situation (i.e. finances, family, career, etc.) but never thought to apply it to self-image. Positive self-affirmations concerning my place in life at the moment has completely turned me around. I can only imagine the type of impact it will make on my weight loss journey.

I would also like to thank those of you who chose to leave comments. The blog would not have been so encouraging had I not read how it affected all of you as well. I am motivated and inspired to love myself the way I am.

Off to write my love letter...


Original Post by: annschmech

This is a wonderful post and all the comments are....well, amazing.....

The letter posted by myvstarpops moved me so deeply, thank you for sharing such an intimate response.  I related to what you said and for me that's a long honest look at my relationship with myself that I've never had the courage to face.

I've also struggled over the years with acceptance of who I am.  When I look back at the times I was 'thin' I remember looking in the mirror and seeing 'fat'.  It didn't matter that the scale said I was 125 lbs on a 5ft 8in frame, I could not accept myself as I was at that time, I really believed that I was FAT.  I can honestly say I have no concept of reality when it comes to my physical size.  I see what I want to see and that is dictated by my emotions and thoughts. I don't know about you, but those change pretty quick for me on a minute to minute basis.

So, this thing about acceptance is that is like an anchor.... no matter what crazy, out of control storm of emotions is rocking my world, if I am anchored in the moment, grateful for what I have and accept that things are exactly the way the are supposed to be-at this moment-I'll be okay.  I may not like it, I don't have to like it, I just have to come to terms with the simple fact that it is, what it is, and go from there.....  I hope....

Thank you.....


Original Post by: annschmech

" I can honestly say I have no concept of reality when it comes to my physical size.  I see what I want to see and that is dictated by my emotions and thoughts. I don't know about you, but those change pretty quick for me on a minute to minute basis."

Yes. Thank you so much for writing the words which I could not quite find. 

There are many many days where it seems as though each mirror is made of a different substance- constantly changing, twisting,  and morphing my body shape in to either something pleasing or less forgivable. 

That is also a great way to look at practicing self-acceptance: "...acceptance is [like] an anchor...if I am anchored in the moment, grateful for what I have and accept that things are exactly the way they are supposed to be-at this moment-I'll be okay."

I am so so glad that my letter effected you in that way. 

Thank you very much for your words, as they reached me in a very important way as well.



THANK YOU FOR SUCH AN EYE OPENING LETTER. IT HIT THE MARK FOR ME BECAUSE I SOMETIMES GIVE MYSELF A HARD LECTURE. I WILL PARTICIPATE IN THIS EXERCISE OPENLY AND HONESTLY FOR MY OWN GOOD.



Wow!  What a great message.  Inspiring, constructive, terrific.

From now on I will remember to treat myself the way I do my daughter, my sister, my friend, my neighbor.  After all, I am as nice and lovable as they are, right?

Thank you Diane.

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Gosh, aren't people wonderful? I love people so much.

 

Human Fanclub anyone? Hahahaha! I am such a weird person..lol XD



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