Accountability Buddy Anyone?

Hi! I'm looking for an accountability buddy who has similar goals as me. I'm 23 years old, 5'3", weigh 140, and have a small frame. My goal is to be at 108-110.  I'm a Christian who loves Jesus and is newly married to an amazing man(just had our 1 year anniversary March 18th). I just want to find a buddy that I can be honest with about how my weight loss is going and find support. Somehow the honesty seems easier when it's not someone I know in person. Maybe that's just me. :-) Mutual prayer for each other would be a plus, but not required! I'll be happy to be a source of encouragement and prayer regardless. If anyone is interested, let me know!

God Bless,

Juliana

OK Juliana

So far today I am at 1,000 calories I can have 2050.   I have walked 3 miles and am now going to wash the car.  I am hungry but it is only 4 so I will wait another hour before I eat.

I have an English Choc Lab named Rory.  He is 3 and sweet, beautiful and stubborn just like his mascot for his Aries sign that RAM!  Tully, is my goldendoodle and just turned 1 at the end of January.  They are both soo sweet and love mama.  I will try to find a way to send some pics. I will have to get my daughter to help me.  She is a computer whiz.  So, how are you doing so far today?  What do you need to be accountable for?

Hey Tully,

So far today I've had 300 calories. I had a late start this morning and didn't end up eating breakfast until 11am. My calorie limit is 1200. My husband just got home early from work and we're going to the gym together in about 10 min. I'm going to do 30min of cardio on the elliptical machine and do some weights. I had extensive bone surgery on my feet six years ago for high arches, so I need to find exercises that are low impact. I find the elliptical machine to be easier on my feet than the treadmill.

Good for you for walking 3 miles! I'm sure washing the car will burn some calories as well! Your pups sound wonderful!

I'm discouraged right now because I just found out that none of my pants fit except my really stretchy workout pants. I don't even have any pants for work anymore. Argh. I told my husband and for some odd reason we both started laughing. He told me not to freak out because we're going to fix it by going to the gym. I'm going to be pro-active, right? I'll let you know how the rest of my day goes later on. Thanks for the support, Tully!

You have got to eat more calories than 300!  You want to keep your body burning.  Also, only 1200 calories?  Are you sure?  Does that include your activity points?  Remember you don't want to go to low that will actually stall the process.  You will keep losing but actually slower, ugh 

Hey Tully,

I know I need to eat more calories than 300. Since I had my first meal at 11am which was 300 cals, I wasn't hungry yet at 2pm, which was when I posted. I still will eat 1200 calories by the end of the day though. :-) Our time difference might have caused some confusion. I think I'm 3 hours later than you.

Anyway, I'm not entirely sure how to factor in my activity level and caloric intake. The calorie-count web site says I should be at 1200 calories a day. If I exercise, am I supposed to eat more calories? If so, doesn't that negate the purpose of exercising, since it would be as if I hadn't exercised at all? Or is my deficit supposed to remain at 500 calories regardless? I feel a bit confused on that...

Hey jppoet! I am 5'1" and I am 123 pounds. I am 21 years old and a strong Christian. I pray everyday for the motivation to be able to accomplish my goals, because I know I can't do it alone. I would love to have a buddy who has the same beliefs and would like another source of encouragement and someone to pray for them.

Katie

"Everything is possible for him who believes" (Mark 9:23)

hello jppoet,

I am also a little woman ( 5'2") and newly married and I would like to join your group. I have gone back and forth between eating well and exercising for the last couple years. I used to be really athletic but then I lost motivation due to some emotional stuff I was/ am dealing with. I have seen a therapist for while and now feel like I can start to gain back the confidence I have lost. I would like to post to you guys with the hope that if I do it on a regular bases I will stick with this till it becames more of a habit.

My biggest problem is that I work about 60 hours a week and the most convenient time to work out is in the morning but I am not a morning person. Which is why I thought having others to be accountable to would be wonderful. I am about 130 lbs depending on the day ( I can flucuate a few lbs due to water retention) I would like to get down to 110 lbs and my calorie goal is about 1500.

thanks for you time

I am 5'8" and medium/big boned.  So, I am much taller than you all and built larger. The story of my life!  I am always taller  than all my friends which is odd because 5'8" isn't that tall!  Anyway, I was a morning person used to get up at like 5 now I am sleeping until 7. That is a big change for me. I too work out in the morning.  If I let it drag too long in to the day, I won't do it.  I love working out though.  Do all of you?  Has anyone done turbo jam? I love it!  Anyway, I am also doing the binge free challenge and am on day 5.  I can have 1750 calories and than whatever I do to work out.

Juliana, I got sort of confused with all the activity/calories thing.  I think you burn X amount of calories a day to survive so than you minus that to get your intake to lose but can add the points from working out so you don't go into deficiet. I am no expert but that is how I understand it.  If I am wrong, please correct.  Have a great day.

Hey All!

Welcome to Katebaum6, Mccluremary, and Sarabamanda (who'll be joining us)! Hope your day has been great!  How's everyone been?

Isn't it wonderful to have support from people going through the same thing? It sure puts a smile on my face. :-)

My husband and I like to work out in the evenings together so we can sleep in later! We find working out in the evening eases our stress and helps us sleep better. Does anyone else workout in the evening?

Tully- What's Turbo Jam? It sounds fun whatever it is! Congrats on being binge free for 5 days!! Also, I think I'll post a question about caloric intake and exercise in the weight loss area and see if anyone knows the answer.

Okay, here's me for today. I've had 600 calories so far and it's 6pm. I know, that's not good, but I've had a bit of a hectic day and just got home from work. Dinner is going to be Curry Coconut Chicken, so I'm sure my calories will end up just fine. As soon as my hubby gets home, we'll be off to the gym.

Here's a question for everyone: What's your favorite cardio workout?

I prefer the elliptical machine, because it's non-impact and burns my calories fairly quickly! What do you like?

OK, Turbo Jam is just the best work out ever!  I know I sound like a valley girl, for sure!

Go on beachbody.com and check out turbo jam.  I was soo sick of workouts. I have been doing them for a longg time.  Am I the elder here? hmph!  Anywho, I saw it on a infomercial and it just looked fun.  The music is pumpin, the instructor is awesome.  It is aerobics, kick boxing, punching.  It goes soo quick before you know it your done!  And it burns baby
 

OK Julian, I am not going to mother you buttt you are not eating enough foooood!  Zipping it.  Tully

Okay, Tully, you and the people who responded to my post in the weight loss forum win! I changed my caloric intake to 1500. I promise I'll try to keep it to at least between 1200 and max 1500, depending on if I exercise (1500 if I exercise, 1200 if I don't). Thanks for your advice; you were right!

I checked out Turbo Jam! It looks awesome! Maybe I'll convince my husband to buy it for me as a weight loss reward when I hit my 10 pound goal...

P.S. My hubby came home really tired and we ended up not going to the gym! I know, I'm bad. But I promise I'll go workout tomorrow morning instead.

I prefer to work out in the late afternoon.  I am a stay at home mom, so it works for me.  When I worked I would exercise right after work.  My favorite exercise is aerobic dance followed by walking outside.  However, I hurt my knee recently.  It's doing a lot better so I walked last night, but I don't think I'm ready.  So I need motivation to go swim.  That's so hard as it's so involved with showering and all and since the hours are terrible for swimming as i'ts the Y MCA and there is swim team and kid's classes in the afternoon/early evening.  But I don't want to get out of shape and swimming is pretty much my only option.

FTR, I weigh 224 and want to lose at least 25 more lbs, possibly 45.  I've lost 75 already and am trying to focus on short term goals.  I'm tall at 5'10' and have big bones, etc, so a good weight for me is between 170 and 180'ish.  I have a picture of me at 180 in my profile, it was my wedding picture.  : )

I work out really early in the mornings. I find it hard to get a work out in later, because I'm so busy. And some times its hard to find motivation later! If it is a beautiful day outside, I go mountain biking, that's probably my favorite thing to do. =)

Twindaze, congrats on losing 75 pounds! That's amazing! Keep up the good work!

OK, part of my commitment to myself is no more negative self talk.  So, saying I am bad because I didn't work out fits under that category for me.   There is a lot to the dynamic of over eating.  Soo, I say not only are we accountable for the food choices and our work out time butt how do we respond to ourselves when we can't measure up to our goals?  I say, if you would say the same thing to a good friend, than OK.  If you would never talk to a friend the way you talk to yourself in that situation, it needs to be changed!  Now, I am a blunt person soo I can be blunt with myself and friends but that is different than self hate talk.  I will be kind and loving to myself even if I have a bad food day.  I mean why am I suppose to feel bad about myself or hate myself because I over ate or made bad choices.  Because society has brain washe me into believing that?  NO Thanks!  It is part of the cycle.  I want to be healed of my negative talk as well as my food disorder so I must be accountable for all of it.  That is my take for me anyway.  

Hello All,

I hope I can join since this awesome forum.  I am 30 (ugh) and am looking to loose weight from the birth of my son.  He is 9 months old... were doees the time fly to? Anyways, I have been a active Christian for 12 years and have had many trials (which we all go through).

I am married to a wonderful man (3 years) who is supportive and helping me in this journey also.  As stated, we have one son and also two cats.  We are hoping to start adding to our family again towards the end of the year.  That is one reason why I am working towards being healthy.  I also want to be the best mom for my kids which means feeding them healthy meals.

Hey, Wmdwyer, what do you want to be called?

I gained 54 pounds with my daughter but over 70 when I had my son.  UGH.  IT took me a year and some to lose it.  I know how frustrating it is to get that baby fat off!  I did not like being pregnant and when I got pregnant with Russell, I think I was sort of depressed.  I think back than I only ate 1400 calories a day.  I remember being hungry allllll the time.  Man, I was soo much more willing to do that to myself when I was  younger. 

I really like this program because it gives you a  realistic amount of food to eat and even more if you are working out.  I came to a point in my life where I just could not diet for the life of me.  I finally had to realize that all that old stuff that used to motivate me no longer applied.  Even though, this is slower I feel soo much more healthy and not hungry.  That is the best part. 

Wow, 3 more kids.  That will be a handful.  My two are teens now and my first baby leaves for college in another year.  I have been empty nesting and trying to figure out what will I do now?  I am looking into the pasotral counseling program but not sure.  Anywho, we leave for SC this Saturday.  I plan on sitting my duff on the beach and not moving, aside from my workouts of course!  HA!  Have a great day, Tully

Sorry about that... my name is Wanda

Tully - Sounds like a wonderful weekend!  Here in MN is depressing weather, windy and rainy.  I am READY for sunshine. 

I gained 52 pounds which wasn't bad but trying to get rid of that weight is horrible!  While I was pregnant I ate everything... I regret it now but I loved being pregnant.  This time around I will be limiting what I eat to help stiffle the weight gain. 

We would like to add at the most 3 (totaling 4) if God allows it.  It is in his hands.  My hubby and I come from bigger families.  His is the 5 child of six and I am the 4 child of 5.  We both love kids and want to have a few more.

I just want to complain for a moment.... At Christmas my sister called me fat in not so many words. Then, the other night we were at a friends house and she brought up my weight (baby fat) as a topic of discussion.  She does this about every three months and it is really getting to me.  It makes me so angry!  Ok... I am better now.  Thanks for listening.

Last night I binged.  I had a mint chip shake.  I am going have to work extra hard today to burn off some of those calories since I ate around 2400 yesterday.  I am targeting 1800 right now and then I want to drop to 1600 on April 1st.  I am making baby steps for weight loss. 

Good morning to everyone!  Chat with you soon,

Wanda

Welcome Wanda!! I understand how frustrating it is to hear negative comments about your weight. Especially when you are working so hard to lose it! But just think... wont it feel amazing when your sister finally has no other comment to say but, "wow, you look great!" When you accomplish your goal, the inevitable positive comments are going to be worth it.

And don't worry about your mint shake. If you splurge a little, just let it go. At least you didn't go crazy. Last night I went a little overboard... I had two (!!) cupcakes with cream cheese frosting (and I'm a vegan...oops). Oh well. Let's just stay on track today! =)

Soap Box:

You know,  I have decided that when people make comments about someone else's weight it is because they have an issue about weight.   They don't have to have a weight issue themselves, meaning being heavy,  but some how the heavier person triggers something in them.   I think some people think heavy people lack will power or are lazy or some other sterotype.  IT is all such hog wash!  My sister always says to me you are the most busy energetic person I know.  You should be a string bean.  So, it isn't because I am lazy or don't work out.  Also, why is it soo much better in this society to be thin than heavy?  If you are healthy, why does it matter?  

I find it very interesting that somehow this topic is open for anyone to bring up or discuss.  I can think of soo many topcis that are sooo regulated by PC but the weight issue is still fair game.  I have a big problem with that.  Again, I say in America you are not allowed to like or feel good about yourself if you are heavy.  We have got to stop agreeing to such an insane condition!  We are part of the problem until we stand up and say no!  Why should I hate myself or feel bad about myself because I have more curves than someone else.  Do we all see, including me, how ridicoulous this is? 

So many people including the weight industry are clueless as to why most people are heavy.  As over coming over eating says it is a calming issue not a food issue.  Most times,  it has nothing to do with physical hunger this is why diets fail!  It is a complicated issue.   Plus, in this country we are getting heavier and heavier.  What is that about?  What are we trying to fill?  To me those are the questions to address not the food we are inhaling.   

I would gander your sister has some issues of her own and perhaps some jealousy toward you.  Maybe she was having a bad week and wanted to bring you down with her?  Who knows but they are her issues not yours. I wouldn't give her comments a second thought.  

OK, just putting it out there to our society:  Why is it perfectly fine for someone to say hey you have blue eyes but if someone says you are heavy or fat one goes into a tail spin.  I think this is what we need to change as a society.  

Hi! I worked out at the gym today and had 1500 calories. I made Chicken Stir Fry with lots of veggies for dinner (my hubby loved it, yay!) and had peanut butter frozen yoghurt for dessert. I couldn't believe it's only 68 calories per 4oz! Yum! Hope everyone's day has gone well!

Tully- good point about no more negative self-talk. It's sad and scary how easy it is to fall into that though. Sometimes I don't even realize I'm being rude to me! Hope you have a great weekend and enjoy yourself!

Wanda- You're doing great! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I wish I could kick your sister in the shin for you. Grr. Siblings can be real pains sometimes. Although she's probably just drawing attention to you to cover up her own insecurities. I feel sorry for her that she has to rag on you, her own sister, to feel good about herself. Please don't let her get you down!

OK, I had 8 oreos last night.  This was not a binge so I feel really OK about it.  I wanted something sweet and am trying to eat all foods in moderation.  I went a little over board buttt put the box away.  I did go over my calorie count for the day but in real life sometimes that will happen.  I am trying to look at this as a life style change so I am just moving on.   Just wanted to be accountable for what I did.  Thanks, Tully