For those of us who ACTUALLY NEED to lose weight

I am sick of all these topic posts with skinny girls complaining& nbsp;about their "disgusting legs" or "flabby stomachs" even though their BMI's are in unhealthy ranges and how they need to be even skinnier.

These kinds of posts waste our time and are disheartening to teens like me who are actually obese, who aren't fine at the weight they are and NEED to lose. If I don't lose weight, it's not about prom, or boys, or fitting into those 00 pants. It's about LIFE or DEATH. It's about heart disease and diabetes, not vanity. 

Seriously, use the tools on Calorie Counter and check your BMI. If you are healthy, there is NO REASON to try and lose weight. Stick to healthy eating, try some weight training and GET LOST. Get a counselor if you feel so disgusted with your appearance. And save us your breath. 

As for me, I would love to be 140 or 150. Hell I'd love to be 160. I would kill to be 120. Girls like me cry themselves to sleep wishing they could be you skinny girls. You don't know how lucky you healthy girls are.

For those who complain about being 120, try to imagine being 180 or over. Try to imagine not being able to wear your mom's clothes because you are too big. You can't share sweaters with your friends because you shop in Lane Bryant while they shop at Hollister. Boys look at you and grimace. People openly tease you and despise you for being bigger than them. Try living that life every day for years. Then, yo may be justified in talking about losing weight. 

If the doctor says you're fine, you're fine. If not, alter your habits.  

So my BMI is 19.3, and I still want to lose 3-5 pounds to tone up

-skips- off to the shrink I go

XD

Sorry alexandra, I though that only applied to people with an Asian back ground, so I looked it up and you are right.

As I said, I was being harsh, I know I have issues, and people who want to lose those last few pounds to tone up have every right to be here as well, I just wish that they had a section of their own so I don't read their posts.  I don't really believe that their posts should be deleted and sent to a psychiatrist, I am just jealous.  All the way through high school I knew girls who were constantly on a diet, and trying to lose weight, being naturally thin back then, I didn't understand what all the fuss was about.  I just hate how today's society emphasise the ultra thin as the ideal.

Yea, "spankyraven" you are definitely being unreasonably harsh. Clearly you are going to be able to relate to people who are in a similar situation as you. Try to be more understanding to the rest.

I do understand, I have been both ends of the scale, I have had BMI's from 16 to 41, I know what it is like from both ends.  I just wish that I could go back and tell my 'thin' self that there is a hell of a lot more to life than worrying that I had gained weight and I now weigh 130lb. But experience comes with life, and I probably should not be posting in young calorie counters anyway, I  just understand completely what palipride is saying.  Back when I was thin, yes I would have liked to lose weight when I started going over 125lb, and I did obsessively think about it, but I didn't cry myself to sleep every night, or think about it constantly like palipride is talking about when we think about being overweight. Unless you have been really overweight, or obese, it is hard to understand why it upsets people like 'us' reading about girls wanting to have unhealthy BMI's.  So yes I am being harsh, as I said I do have issues, and no-one should take what I say personally.  I just wanted to let palipride know that I understand how she feels. 

I've had a BMI of 31 at the highest, mainly due to taking after my mother in eating habits as a kid. However, my BMI is now 26.5. I'm still overweight but I have a large frame and I look fairly fit. While I'm not really a model example because I'm a recovering bulimic (weight loss & bulimia are a giant lose-gain cycle, at least they were for me, and most of my weight loss happened when I began living healthily) it still goes to show that you can take what you have and make changes to become healthier.

I agree with decarswell and most of the others who have posted, they've basically covered my input. There are a lot of good points. Everyone who uses this site has a valid reason for doing so and the severity/urgency of their reason doesn't downplay the fact that they're looking to be healthy, confident, and happy.

I don't know.  Everyone calls me skinny, but I'm just a few pounds shy of being obese.  So yeah, I do need to lose weight.

Original Post by palipride47:

I am sick of all these topic posts with skinny girls complaining& nbsp;about their "disgusting legs" or "flabby stomachs" even though their BMI's are in unhealthy ranges and how they need to be even skinnier.

These kinds of posts waste our time and are disheartening to teens like me who are actually obese, who aren't fine at the weight they are and NEED to lose. If I don't lose weight, it's not about prom, or boys, or fitting into those 00 pants. It's about LIFE or DEATH. It's about heart disease and diabetes, not vanity.

Seriously, use the tools on Calorie Counter and check your BMI. If you are healthy, there is NO REASON to try and lose weight. Stick to healthy eating, try some weight training and GET LOST. Get a counselor if you feel so disgusted with your appearance. And save us your breath.

As for me, I would love to be 140 or 150. Hell I'd love to be 160. I would kill to be 120. Girls like me cry themselves to sleep wishing they could be you skinny girls. You don't know how lucky you healthy girls are.

For those who complain about being 120, try to imagine being 180 or over. Try to imagine not being able to wear your mom's clothes because you are too big. You can't share sweaters with your friends because you shop in Lane Bryant while they shop at Hollister. Boys look at you and grimace. People openly tease you and despise you for being bigger than them. Try living that life every day for years. Then, yo may be justified in talking about losing weight.

If the doctor says you're fine, you're fine. If not, alter your habits.

OK- First, I get your frustration. I was always a bit overweight, and I always hated/was jealous of the skinny girls. I thought, "those stupid b*****s, they're so lucky that they're so slim." I found out years later that they either exercised for 4 hours every night, or they had anorexia, or they counted every single calorie they ever ate. And meanwhile, I ate chips and candy every day, didn't exercise, and wondered why I didn't look like them.

It's usually not "luck" if someone is slim while another person is obese. My sister is obese, because she doesn't exercise and eats a lot of junk food. I'm skinny because I woke up at 6 am this morning to run 3 miles and carefully count my calories. I'm not overweight by any stretch, but I don't think it's a crime that I want to lose 15 pounds. Yes, its completely about the smaller jean size and the wanting to be more attractive to boys. I bet you'll find that once you get down to a healthy weight, you'll want more, and start looking to lose some vanity pounds.

i wish you luck, and think it is good you started this thread

I really don't think you have any right to lash out at girls who are within a healthy BMI but trying to lose weight. Its a personal choice.

Weight is a sensitive topic for anyone, especially girls. Today's society puts so much emphasis on looking good and being thin that all girls feel this pressure.

I FEEL BEST when I am at 115 lbs. I feel most confident, sexy and happy when I am at that weight. I was 130 lbs in January and this made me sad. I didn't like the person I saw in the mirror and felt HUGE. I was used to being 110 my whole life. This is why 130 felt so big.

I know 130 is a healthy weight for my height. I know there are other girls out there that want to be 130. But for me, I didn't feel good at 130. I wanted to be my regular 115 lbs. That's why I started CC and trying to lose weight. Through CC I've developed a healthier lifestyle. I don't eat junk food at all anymore and I love moving my body and working out, something I hated when I was skinnier. I am not just losing weight, I am learning to be healthy.

It's everyone's right to feel comfortable with their body, no matter what that weight is. My comfort weight is 115.