And Adults Wonder Why Teens Feel They Need To Eat Drastically Less and Lose Weight!!!

Parents and adults always ponder one question: why do fit, good-looking healthy teens feel they need to lose weight?

Well, though it's not COMPLETELY their fault, they do have a big part in it.

They don't show us how to eat healthy, how to love our bodies and curves, how to be active everyday.

For example, my Mother and I used to go to the gym but then I stopped about 2 months ago. I did a lot of at-home workouts. But now I think going to the gym would burn more calories, a good way to get out of the house and a good way to bond.

Me: Hey, do I still have a gym membership?

Mom: *laughs obnoxiously* No.

Me: Oh .Since when?

Mom: Since you decided to stop going in the summer.

Me: Oh. Do you think you can renew it?

Mom: You have a treamdill  in your room( says this as if I'm 5)

Me: But I have asthma so I don't do well on it. I like the elliptical better.

Mom: Well, why don't you go lift some of your brother's weights *laughs obnoxiously as she walks out* (my brother lifts about 300 pounds. I'm 123.)

Why can't I have a membership? The gym is in our town, she goes weekly and it's cheap b/c the place is small with very little recruitment. This makes me wants to eat less and less and exercise more and more just to show her I CAN sloe weight and then maybe she can get me a membership. She's supposed to ENCOURAGE a love of getting active and fit and being happy with my body. Instead she just laughs me in the face. This really hurts me. Right now exercise is something forced because of my asthma. I need a machine that is better for my breathing unlike my 30-year old treadmill that makes a LOT of noise and she's always telling me to get off of or not to use.

Get a job and pay for your own gym membership if you really want it. 

You're lucky to have access to a treadmill and weights at home, but if you decide not to use them, why should your mom have to pay for you to have the luxury of a gym?  If you don't like the treadmill or are using it at inconvenient hours for the family, how about walking around your neighborhood?  You might even work your way up to a jog.

I have exercise induced asthma, in most cases exercising to the point before you have an attack regularly will help with it and over time the length of time you can exercise before an attack will increase.

Also, I'm sure your brother's weights can loaded to a level that you can lift. My fiance deadlifts 300 pounds (because that's as many plates as we have), but I'm able to use the same weights to deadlift my (measly) 115.

Original Post by smwhipple:

Get a job and pay for your own gym membership if you really want it. 

You're lucky to have access to a treadmill and weights at home, but if you decide not to use them, why should your mom have to pay for you to have the luxury of a gym?  If you don't like the treadmill or are using it at inconvenient hours for the family, how about walking around your neighborhood?  You might even work your way up to a jog.

I have exercise induced asthma, in most cases exercising to the point before you have an attack regularly will help with it and over time the length of time you can exercise before an attack will increase.

I agree, you should be grateful you have a treadmill and be grateful that your mother paid for a gym membership before. No wonder she won't renew it when in her eyes you just couldn't be bothered to go. She probably doesn't want to waste money.

I don't know how old you are but even if you are too young to get a job then surely you can earn money by doing chores or whatever?

We take responsibility for ourselves in this world. If someone buys or gives you something, be grateful, but don't expect it

Original Post by crazyperson01:

This makes me wants to eat less and less and exercise more and more just to show her I CAN sloe weight and then maybe she can get me a membership.

This sounds like a petty and cruel way to make your mother pay you attention and buy you things. Not very mature

There are lots more ways, and much cheaper ways,  to be active than going to a gym.... which is likely another 'flash in the pan' and therefore a waste of money.   If you have a bicycle, ride that around.  Put on some trainers and go for a run around the block.  Take a football to the park and kick it about.  If you have machines and weights at home, make use of them. ... you're lucky to have them

It's not very fair to your mother, painting her as some kind of unreasonable harridan (laughs 'obnoxiously'... really) for simply not giving in to your demands.  She is encouraging you to be active... she's encouraging you to make use of the equipment you've got and to be more resourceful.  Excellent parenting!

And if you want to bond with your mother, find something else constructive.  Maybe if you offered to help cook a meal with her she'd really appreciate that?  You could go shopping together or find an outside activity of some kind that you both enjoyed... a trip to the theatre perhaps.   And if you were to offer to clean the house that would be helpful, 'bonding' and also very good exercise.  Remember... respect cuts both ways.

Give mom a break and be creative.  There are adults who can't afford a treadmill and you have one in your room!!  There are plenty of free ways to get a good workout and stay in shape.  Join activities in school (track, basketball, cheerleading etc.)  I understand your frustration. You feel that your mother is responsible for making sure you have what you need.  But also understand her point of view; money does not grow on trees.  It’s ok not to have a gym membership and you can still be fit.  Go hung your mother for having a treadmill in the house.

okay-you all are the problem her.e

First off, I paid for my gym membership the first time and then my Mom cancelled it. She had no right whern I was paying.

Second I paid for the treadmill

Third my brother paid for the weights and instructed me not to use them. They come in sets of 100 pounds per weights. I cannot just make them magically less.

Fourth my Doctor told me not to lift weights b/c even that might induce an asthma attack

Fifth I don't just have exercise-induced asthma, I have a severe case of asthma

Sixth, I knoq we have abad economy. I pay for all my exercise things and I do many chores without an allowance. My Mothe ris never home and obviously you are all taking it personally. \

Seventh, I exercise after everyone is awake and before they start working. I don't do it when inconvenient for my family.

You all are so mean. Thank you for proving my point.

if your paying for your own membership whats the problem?

Original Post by crazyperson01:

okay-you all are the problem her.e

First off, I paid for my gym membership the first time and then my Mom cancelled it. She had no right whern I was paying.

Second I paid for the treadmill

Third my brother paid for the weights and instructed me not to use them. They come in sets of 100 pounds per weights. I cannot just make them magically less.

Fourth my Doctor told me not to lift weights b/c even that might induce an asthma attack

Fifth I don't just have exercise-induced asthma, I have a severe case of asthma

Sixth, I knoq we have abad economy. I pay for all my exercise things and I do many chores without an allowance. My Mothe ris never home and obviously you are all taking it personally. \

Seventh, I exercise after everyone is awake and before they start working. I don't do it when inconvenient for my family.

You all are so mean. Thank you for proving my point.

Just out of curiosity, if you were paying for it before, why would your mom cancel it?  Also, why do you need her to get you  a gym membership if you can pay for it on your own.  If you are a minor, she probably just has to sign something...no skin off her back. 

Also, I have pretty bad asthma...weight lifting is no more of an inducement than cardio for me.  And I have a hard time believing your brother only lifts in increments of 100 pounds...that is just not how weight lifting is done. 

I'm not saying you are a liar, it just all seems kind of strange.

Original Post by crazyperson01:

You all are so mean. Thank you for proving my point.

No-one's being mean.... just pointing out that your original post was rather whiny and self-centred.  Nothing's stopping you from being healthy and exercising  - there you are exercising before they all get up.  So keep being resourceful, stop blaming parents (who are an easy target for grievances) and get on with it...

Original Post by kbella24:

Original Post by crazyperson01:

okay-you all are the problem her.e

First off, I paid for my gym membership the first time and then my Mom cancelled it. She had no right whern I was paying.

Second I paid for the treadmill

Third my brother paid for the weights and instructed me not to use them. They come in sets of 100 pounds per weights. I cannot just make them magically less.

Fourth my Doctor told me not to lift weights b/c even that might induce an asthma attack

Fifth I don't just have exercise-induced asthma, I have a severe case of asthma

Sixth, I knoq we have abad economy. I pay for all my exercise things and I do many chores without an allowance. My Mothe ris never home and obviously you are all taking it personally. \

Seventh, I exercise after everyone is awake and before they start working. I don't do it when inconvenient for my family.

You all are so mean. Thank you for proving my point.

Just out of curiosity, if you were paying for it before, why would your mom cancel it?  Also, why do you need her to get you  a gym membership if you can pay for it on your own.  If you are a minor, she probably just has to sign something...no skin off her back. 

Also, I have pretty bad asthma...weight lifting is no more of an inducement than cardio for me.  And I have a hard time believing your brother only lifts in increments of 100 pounds...that is just not how weight lifting is done. 

I'm not saying you are a liar, it just all seems kind of strange.

I am not lying. I'm sure you've had a privileged life but my Mother does not want to sign me up for the gym. Who knows why? I thought maybe she would buy the membership for me but she didn't and when I asked if I could buy it for ymself, she said no. And eh buys weights n increments of 100s to show off to his girl friends but my brother does use them. and maybe your asthma is not as bad as mine but even if it is, I can't lift 100s of pounds!

Original Post by gi-jane:

Original Post by crazyperson01:

You all are so mean. Thank you for proving my point.

No-one's being mean.... just pointing out that your original post was rather whiny and self-centred.  Nothing's stopping you from being healthy and exercising  - there you are exercising before they all get up.  So keep being resourceful, stop blaming parents (who are an easy target for grievances) and get on with it...

 

Sorry gi-jane. I didn't mean you.

Original Post by crazyperson01:

Original Post by kbella24:

Original Post by crazyperson01:

okay-you all are the problem her.e

First off, I paid for my gym membership the first time and then my Mom cancelled it. She had no right whern I was paying.

Second I paid for the treadmill

Third my brother paid for the weights and instructed me not to use them. They come in sets of 100 pounds per weights. I cannot just make them magically less.

Fourth my Doctor told me not to lift weights b/c even that might induce an asthma attack

Fifth I don't just have exercise-induced asthma, I have a severe case of asthma

Sixth, I knoq we have abad economy. I pay for all my exercise things and I do many chores without an allowance. My Mothe ris never home and obviously you are all taking it personally. \

Seventh, I exercise after everyone is awake and before they start working. I don't do it when inconvenient for my family.

You all are so mean. Thank you for proving my point.

Just out of curiosity, if you were paying for it before, why would your mom cancel it?  Also, why do you need her to get you  a gym membership if you can pay for it on your own.  If you are a minor, she probably just has to sign something...no skin off her back. 

Also, I have pretty bad asthma...weight lifting is no more of an inducement than cardio for me.  And I have a hard time believing your brother only lifts in increments of 100 pounds...that is just not how weight lifting is done. 

I'm not saying you are a liar, it just all seems kind of strange.

I am not lying. I'm sure you've had a privileged life but my Mother does not want to sign me up for the gym. Who knows why? I thought maybe she would buy the membership for me but she didn't and when I asked if I could buy it for ymself, she said no. And eh buys weights n increments of 100s to show off to his girl friends but my brother does use them. and maybe your asthma is not as bad as mine but even if it is, I can't lift 100s of pounds!

Look, there is no reason for you to be making assumptions about my life.  I was not being mean.  I was pointing out some strange things in your story. 

As for the gym, why don't you just go over there and see if you can sign yourself up?  Or are you too young to do it yourself?  If so, try asking your mother again, but do it nicely.  You won't get anywhere by whining. 

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((cp)) hey baby girl, i see you are stirring things up in your own special way.  haha

when i was 13, me and my mama went ROUNDS! omg! i wont bore you with the gory details!

my thought is that maybe shes as frustrated with you as you are with her. it happens to the best of us. maybe she isnt taking you seriously or doesnt think you will stick with it or who knows what your mama is thinking?

anyways, here is my thought...

did you see little miss sunshine? if so, the character i am thinking of is her brother. or have you read camus' tale of sisyphus? the one about the guy rolling the rock up the hill every day? if you havent seen LMS please do. try to emulate the brother with his persistence and dedication to his goal and sisyphus with his rock.if you havent read about sisyphus, google it and read it. thats your homework.

get one of your brothers 100-lb plates. somehow, and i dont care how you do it, tie a rope through the middle, leaving a long part for yout to tie knots in so you can pull it, and put it out in the hallway or on the front sidewalk or somewhere your mama will see it everyday. (did you ever watch met-rx strongman competition?)

everyday you need to move that plate some distance, like idk, how far do you think you can drag it? make it a workout and make it a challenge, and make sure your mama sees you do it everyday! no excuses! ask her again about that membership in a month. 30 days without fail. maybe she will cave first and get you the membership back because she gets tired of tripping over the plate or seeing the plate or haha you get the idea.

no whining...and do it every day. if you dont, then maybe you arent serious and you arent dedicated.

good luck! you can do this! <3!

You may not have heard but we are in a recession.  For most people gym memberships are a considered luxury item and when money gets tight luxury expenses are the first things to go.  Your parents may not want to burden you with the details of their efforts to reduce unnecessary expenses.  Take advantage of the equipment you have at home.

Original Post by trhawley:

You may not have heard but we are in a recession.  For most people gym memberships are a considered luxury item and when money gets tight luxury expenses are the first things to go.  Your parents may not want to burden you with the details of their efforts to reduce unnecessary expenses.  Take advantage of the equipment you have at home.

 She said multiple times that she pays for the gym membership herself...

Original Post by 67alecto:

Original Post by trhawley:

You may not have heard but we are in a recession.  For most people gym memberships are a considered luxury item and when money gets tight luxury expenses are the first things to go.  Your parents may not want to burden you with the details of their efforts to reduce unnecessary expenses.  Take advantage of the equipment you have at home.

 She said multiple times that she pays for the gym membership herself...

 Not according to the OP.  But if so then a) she would have known if they still had a membership and b) there would be no point to the post.

Ok I'm a mom of a pre-teen and we butt heads all the time (we are the exactly the same stubborn person) So please try talking to her, like a girls day, would be a good time,  If you can go get your nails done together, have lunch, then talk. 

I found this post from you.

• Height: 5'5
• Age:13
• Start Weight: 135 on CC
• Current Weight: 123
• Goal Weight: 105- New Year's would be great but I'm not pushing it.

Your ideal weight is 113-138.  You are at a perfect weight right now.  105lbs is too low.  I'm 5'2" and it's to low for me. 

I suggest you stand in front of the mirror and really look at yourself.  look for the good.  Honey you are beautiful HOW YOU ARE. 

Treadmills have speed control set it at 3.5 mph and walk.  Just because it can go fast doesn't mean you HAVE to.

If you can pay for a membership why not go to the local walmart and buy some "girly" hand weights.   I suggest "The firm" set it comes with 1lb grips and "heads" that twist on for up tp 5lbs. It has a DVD too.  It's only $35.(target) here's the firm's site.  Also Yoga is a good workout that will give you lean musclesand smooth everything. So will Pilates. 

I hate to say it but maybe your mom thinks you are too skinny and/or obsessing.  She may think you are develping an ED.