age 45-50 group. Anyone interested?

I have looked for twins and poked around other groups without finding a real support group.

I am 48, 5'5", SW 151, CW 134, GW 128

I am the school teaching mother of three in their upper teens, wife of my 3 lbs from goal hubby.

SO...

Anyone interested?

Hi all

Aly - sorry to hear about your aunt. Take care of yourself and your family.

Connie - I tried liking oatmeal and I just can't. I do like other high fiber foods though and I agree they keep you full longer. I love whole grain breads. Your comment about spray butter makes me think. My mom uses it and I always thought that I would never do that but as I look through my eating log, I see how many calories I could eliminate if I didn't eat as much becel. Maybe I should give it a hook. Oh and about your rain dance...if I sit very very still maybe our non-stop rain will go your way. We've had 3 sunny days in August so far.

Your comments about scales are really funny guys. I just went and bought one of those monsters in digital form cause I had an analog that I didn't trust. So now I have that grin in my bedroom. I don't have the guts to sit it next to my fridge!!

Tru - I tried knitting once but it was always crooked (tension wasn't right). I seemed to have better luck with crochet.

Talk to you all later.

Janet

Back again too...

Me, just being a slacker or putting all the pesky last minute details before all of you guys!   We head off to the Cape for a week tomorrow.

Aly - sorry to hear of your aunt's passing.  Sending you all my best.  I am coming up on the 1yr anniversary of my dad's death and I sorta think that is part of my funk lately.

Just  finished moving hay and grain to all the various barns so that my brother & mother (bless their hearts) can take care of my horses while I am off vacationing for a week.  Between the extra work to get set to go and the extra work catching up when you get home, you sometimes have to wonder if it is all worth it. 

There has been a little tension at home as well.   My husband finds it much easier to talk with one of his "friends" at work rather than me.  However this friend is my age, female and one whom I feel he stepped over the line with.  A couple of years ago I was looking at the telephone bill for the number for folks who had inquired about horses and found this local # cropping up again and again.  My curiosity had me check it out and low and behold it was his little *friend*.  At night, on our anniversary, on the kids birthdays.   I pretty much blew a gasket and threw an absolute tantrum with him and also *spoke* with the friend via email.  Anyway... not sure why I am telling you all this, but I have been kinda cranky with him over this lately too.  We both work at the same company and I walked down to his office recently and he quickly closed an instant messenger chat window.  I knew instantly what that was about and said "don't stop talking with your little girlfriend on my account".   His reply - everyone can get a chuckle with it -- "well I know you will be mad.  Duh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  If he is not over SITTING in her office when I try to find him, he seems to be instant messaging her.  <snarl>  What part of "this is an emotional affair if not a physical one" doesn't he get????  An affair is an affair any way you look at it.   Small wonder I haven't eaten myself to 500 pounds already.  I am DEFINITELY an emotional eater.

OK enough of a vent for a little while.  Tomorrow we get to pile our *happy family* into the car for 5-6hrs of quality time in a tin can.  Wish me luck. 

Hi to all.  skn

Hi all,

Aly - I'm so very sorry.   Thoughts and Prayers are being sent your way.

Skn - venting here is much better than venting by stuffing food down.  I know because I'm very very much an emotional eater.  I certainly hope your husband wises up.  It's probably a big ego boost for him. My husband would probably have been wearing the monitor and I commend you for the restraint.  A marriage and children are important things.  I never thought I'd go to counseling but when it got to the point that it was that or it was truly over I was amazed at how much we learned about each other and ourselves.  I found out I wasn't as perfect as I thought.  I'm still not sure she was right about that one though. LOL The counselor said the whole point of marriage was to grow together.  I don't think we are truly growing together yet but we are working on it.  We actually are still divorcd but doing well.  He had a horrible drinking problem for many years and I never thought that he would stop.  It's been over a year now.  It proved to me that nothing is impossible and that there is always hope.  Prayers coming your way too.

Janet - if you like bread then sandwiches are a great breakfast food.  I like peanut butter with simple fruit.  Scambled, boiled, or fried egg sandwiches (I mass up the eggs with a little mayo).  One of my favorites is Bananna and mayo.  Of coure watch the oil and fat but it will really fill you up and the calories aren't that bad. 

I spent the afternoon at the gastro doctor.  He thinks I'm just all out of whack from having my gallbladder removed and he gave me a bag full of pills that are supposed to get it all straight.  Reflux med, probiotics, digestive enzymes, medrol dose pak.  I certainly hope so.  I only walked twice this week because I was hurting in my chest and abdoman so much!  I'm going to make myself swallow the meds and keep keeping on!  I'm going to have to miss my friends 30th birthday party at the beach tomorrow.  I've really been looking forward to that but not up to the drive and I really want to try to get a little extra sleep since I was awake all last night with the chest thing.

Have a great weekend all my CC friends.

Hi there,

I am a little over 50, but would like to join.  I need to lose around 50 pounds.  Also, I need another back surgery, actually neck surgery due to a car accident.  I would like to get this weight off soon, but know that the surgery and immobility will make it difficult.

debbrnot2b

Hallo to all of you

It's saturday and I like it! For the first time in ages I have the house all to myself - one kid is aikido-ing, the other is with her boyfriend, hubbie is driving the aikido-kids and afterwards has something he needs doing. So it's nice and quiet here and I am free to decide what to do with my time for a little while. So you ladies tell me: why is it that my first thought is: hey I could do this and that around the house??? Wisely I emidiately decided against it - time for ME does NOT equal time to do the housekeeping. Wasn't that a good decision? I feel really satisfied with myself now So instead I'll enjoy a looong shower and then go to the market, buy some flowers and some more yarn Crochet is great too Janet, I've been doing that as well. You can do all kinds of funny shapes with crochet, I like that. Maybe one day I'll start a crazy handy-work (=arts n crafts) club, where we (re-)use plasticbags and other kinds of stuff in fun creations and meanwhile chat about life, NOT eating a thing! That could be a safe way to stop all yo-yo-ing for the rest of my life.

Actually I would like you ladies to help me with something: I've decided to celebrate my 45th in september - I've rented a party-tent and a heater, I've invited 15 women to come somewhere in the afternoon and bring an apron, and then we'll cook together and chat till the wee hours, something like that. But how do you think this idea would do - in the evening over koffie and tea bringing out lots of yarn and stuff coloring togehter, asking people to somehow create at least 1 square each of 25 by 25 cm. Then afterwards I'll sow it all together, making it into a plaid to remember these women and the day by. My hubbie think it's nuts, Emma (my 16yo) thinks it's a great idea.... You?

Janet- watch out for you scales, it's not supposed to keep you awake, then you should move it to another room.

Skn- I hope you'll have a pleasant holiday after all, - maybe over a glass of wine on a quiet evening you can explain to him calmly how hurtfull this is. Counselling might not be a bad idea, - it's a way of investing in your realtionship. I'm sending you thoughts and strenght - I do hope you feel it.

Aly- thoughts and strength to you too, try to find time for your own feelings.

Connie- I'm so proud of you More importantly though: you be proud of you too!!!

Lucy- how sad about not going to the birthday; iunder the circumstances it does sound like the best thing for you to do though. Take care!

Betsy- have you got the results on your son's ankle yet? Good to hear about your baby doing good. The diagnosis is about her foot? In the middle of all that, you take care of you now.

Mum- how are the legs?

Suz- my daughter want to live in England later on, and I find that sounds very far away from home (from here (Netherlands) it's only crossing the canal, but hey I'm her mother!); can't image what it would be like if she went to Bermuda - how do you handle the distance?

Tammy- wauw I'm looking forward to lsing my rings

We lost solrob from p 31, caverlady from p 30. Did we scare you off guys? sorry about that then, do try again. And Chris where are you?

Off for my shower - talk to you all later, have a very nice day whereever you are

Tru

Good Morning and Happy CATURDAY to you all!!

Where to begin....ALY!!!!!! You're back!!!!!! I'm sorry about your Aunt and as always you and your family are in my prayers. I am so glad to hear from you though and know that you are safe and haven't left us! Now to find Jen!

Janet its ok to not like oatmeal! I am a southerner and supposed to like grits and think those are the nastiest looking and tasting things around!  Have you tried the cereal Go Lean Crunch (honey and almond flax) great source of fiber and yummy too.

Oh and girls I have my scales next to my fridge for a good reason of course but could never put them in my bedroom (you guys know how single i am right now) so anyway the ONLY action that happens in my bedroom IS night time munching of food so those scales would be grinning bigtime!! 

Tru apparently none of you "young" ladies have vision problems like I seem to. I used to cross stitch way back in the day but find now I can't see or have the patience anymore. Sad aren't I? You know me and my drama Queen ways!!!

Skn Be safe on your trip and try and make it as pleasent as possible for now. When I was married I went through the same thing with my husband but to my surprise shock horror the woman was at least 20 years older than me! My husband though was 11 years my senior so not so much an age difference for him. They chatted it up all the time at work he shared personal stuff even about my marriage and he talked non stop with her on the phone where at home with me he hardly said ten words on any given night. I don't believe it ever became physical but the emotional betrayal I felt was equally as hurtful. Eventually we worked through it and that isn't what ended our marriage but for some reason men as long as they aren't having sex don't see this as any kind fo betrayal other than "its gonna make you mad". Do your very best to stay calm and find alone time to talk it all out without the anger if possible. I wish you all the luck with this Skn and YOU keep yourself together and remember how beautiful you are and how fantastic you are looking these days!!!! xoxo

Lucy Is it our age or just the stress of life that takes our bodies over the edge! I have IBS (irritable bowel syndrom) I had quite the time with this but with my big diet change since December last year have only had a few flair ups thank goodness. I hope all the meds work well for you.I hate that you aren't up to making your friends birthday party that would be good fun for you (except that 30 part) oh to be 30 again!

Deb! Welcome of course. You have to be tough apparently to take this group cause we seem to have lost a few!Only kidding (I think) You will love this bunch of caring and commical ladies. We share a bit of every part of our lives and that seems to really do the trick as far as weight loss!! You have to give up some info on yourself so we know a bit about you ok? so again WELCOME!!

Tru you really make me realize how single I am!! I have too much alone time....I take that back I really ENJOY my alone time (well with 5 cats)! You better not clean while you have this extra care for yourself time!!! Although that is the perfect time for house cleaning when no one is there to get in the way! Enjoy your day! I don't want to sound stupid but what the heck is aikido?

Ok ladies I've gotta get ready for a big birthday cook-out/party for my (potato salad bearing)neighbor friend!!!!!! Gonna be some single men there so I've got lots to do before I work on "dolling" myself up!

Hope you all have a great weekend! Momo hope you are doing well sweetie!

Conniecat

Deb- sorrrrrrry we must have posted at the same time: HIIII to you, nice that you joined us  Post number 570 has info on a number of us, and later there are more, I forgot which post that is...

Whatever happened to Axe and Jazcat by the way, anybody heard from them?

I don't know whats happened to all these girls....They're not only dropping pounds they're dropping us!!! Maybe some of them will come back soon. I hope it wasn't anything I did or said that offended anyone.....ya never know. Have a great day!    Connie

Hi All,

What do you want to know about me?  I am a back to work teacher.  I just returned from visiting my son in Hawaii.  I am married with one Aussie dog that is as lean as I want to be.  I have two other grown children that also live away from me, the closest is in college, two hours away.  I also have one stepson with health problems, lupus and diabetes.  He lives an hour and a half away.  The daughter is continually living far away doing civilian work for the military.  She is in England next for the usual 3 month hitch.  I have decided to purchase a full length mirror to help get the pounds off.  Seeing is believing.  I can be in denial over what I don't see.

Full length mirrors are just as bad about grinning at you as the scales are! LOL It will definitely make you stop and think before eating. Maybe I need a mirror in front of me WHILE I am eating! Ummmm I have a QUESTION about your picture?? LOL Connie

Hi Ladies,

Welcome Deb.  Check out post 570 on here for info on some of us.  If you'll send your info to Aly she'll keep it updated.  I too have back and neck problems and step kids.

Tru -no housework when everyone is playing is certainly my motto.  I can crochet but since I sit all day at work I have a hard time doing that at home.  The squares ideas sounds like a good keepsake.  15 ladies x 3 squares would be make 45.  Food for thought.  Hope it turns out great.

Connie lol  I've thought about sticking a mirror on the fridge and pantry door and I lovvve grits especially with a fried egg mixed in.    Several of the seafood restuarants serve cheese grits as a side here.  Oh yum.  Hmmm that's a thought for dinner tonight.  I have 600 calories left.

I'm feeling BETTER and so happy about that.  Have a great weekend all.

Hey everyone!

Sorry haven't been around lately. My back is hurting so bad I can barely sit here to see what's up with everyone. My last 2 journal posts can give you all the nfo on my back and leg pain. Long story to repeat! lol 

sounds like everyone is doing ok. I've also thought about a full length mirror. I think I might go that route. :) 

Welcome Deb!  You'll like it here!

Have to go for now. Gonna go lay down for a while again.

Momo- I hope you feel better soon. Glad you just checked in though! We worry about you when we don't hear from you but do definitely understand when you can't! Hope you have a nice relaxing PAIN FREE sunday! Hi to everyone else! The cookout went very well and yes I ate too much but tried to eat the less fattening things (if there is such a thing at a cookout). We did get a drop of rain and that came when we were just getting ready to sit down! Naturally! We need it so bad no one minded!  Enjoy your day girls!

Connie

Greetings-
Well, this cape house has WIFI so I can check-in on you guys once in a while; even on vkay.   Course competing for the computer with 14 others... might limit my time!!!  Half the folks are out on a grocery run and others seem to be moving slowly.  Seems the teens stayed up to 3 a.m. and definitely moving a little slow this morning.

Lucy, Tru, Connie - Thanks for your words and prayers. We have done the counseling thing, not sure how much of an impact has carried thru.  He made a change initially.. then it seems like all went back to the way it used to be.  Connie, sounds like you and I have run the same gauntlet with our rather *thick* men who can't seem to get it. Sometimes I rather let these things get under my skin more than they should.   So the cook-out was good... but were any of those single men worth talking too?  Do tell us more.  

Welcome Deb.  The full length mirror is definitely a REMINDER!!! Perhaps Refrigrators should have fronts that become mirrors everytime you open the door.   Sounds like you have quite a job keeping up with your children.   I have never been to Hawaii, but would love to some day.

Momo - Sorry sorry to hear of your pain.  There is nothing more exhausting than living with chronic pain.  Sending thoughts and prayers your way.

Well I am supposed to be getting driving directions while I am on the computer... but I had to run over here and say hey ... gotta run.  After spending weeks with rain everyday at home, it is kinda nice to have a sunny day.

Hope you are all having a great weekend.
skn

To All,

I just returned from Hawaii and on Saturday, my siter called to tell me our dad's heart problems escalated to a hospice situation.  My kids are all returning home to say their good-byes.  I had mine yesterday, so I plan on using this day to show them how to grieve appropriately.  He is 88 and dying of congestive heart failure--I have that now.  I am his clone in almost every way and realize that I am looking at my future.  It isn't pretty.  I am not sure if I am posting correctly on here.  If I am making mistakes, please let me know--gently.

Hi Deb! You are posting fine. I am so sorry to hear about your dad. I lost my daddy in november of 04 and being a daddy's girl I still miss him terribly. He was 80 and was actually in better shape than his 'little girl" He had had 2 open heart surgery's and exercised regularly. He was an avid bowler for many many years and i took him to bowl on his SENIOR league and also had my Mom to take for a mamogram that morning. When finished with her appt we were too early to pick Daddy up but just drove by the bowling alley and there was an ambulance and a fire truck....I knew right away in my heart what was about to be....and it was. He was so happy that morning and my last words to him were bowl a 300 (perfect game) and I love you. He had bowled very well and had just thrown the ball started to sit down and collapsed on the lane. He was flat lined when we came in and of course my mom and I were hysterical but I continued with hope telling my daddy we were there and we loved him. When I said that he got a heart beat for 10 seconds so I believe he knew we were there with him and then he died. I will have you and your family in my prayers and my wish is that God gives you all comfort at this time. Please keep us posted. We are all here for you if you need support or even just to "ramble"!

Take care  

Connie 

skn - enjoy your vacation! Hope to see some pics! :)

Deb - Sorry to hear about your dad. Sending thoughts and prayers your way.

Connie - That is so sad what happened to your dad and how it happened. He was where he was happy though. Just so darn sad. :(

As for me....The old back and leg feeling a bit better now. Hope tomorrow is better and I go for a small walk to just get out and do something. Ya know? Getting cabin fever here, being in this house for 4 days and basically in bed the whole time. 

Weight was down this morning though! :)  I kinda slipped this evening and ate ice cream (just a cup, not a bowl!) and a snack cake! Oh well, just went a little over my calories for the day, but not a lot.

Momo - good to here that it's a little better now; enjoy your walk, must be wonderful to get out of the house yes - take care though. How incredibly good of you to have such weight control under the circumstances, wauw!

Deb- so sorry about your dad. And the scary thoughts about your future: does it have to be like that? I mean, you're a generation younger, much has happened in the medical erea the last years. Take care, and tell us how you're doing.

Skn- I do hope you'll be having a pleasant time together on your holiday. Yhe sun might help brighten everyone's spirits and make things smoother.

Lucy- how are you now? Hopefully your medication does help you feel better in teh long run.

Connie- about pictures: did you ever get round to talking with your "friend" about what was said that day, you know, about your pictures etc.? 

Here in the Netherlands it's been a strange weekend for me: I had time for myself, and I did not start cleaning the house or anything, I just enjoyed the quiet. I was on the last day of antbiotics and my throat definatley better, but then I caught a cold with fever and all . So the rest of the weekend I've been sleeping and sleeping, very strange. This morning the headache finally seems to get better, I can almost think again... (YES that IS a good thing!) So now I've been "out" for almost two weeks; very strange, I'm normally very healthy and if I catch something it usually only takes a day or two. Is this a part of getting older??????? But I don't feeeeel old (well right now I do actually)

Hi Momo and Tru! Hope you both are feeling better this a.m. For my Dad I must say I did take comfort in knowing that he was doing what he loved, was actually bowling very well that day and had just high fived his buddies and was laughing. Much better than being alone or if he had been sick. He was HAPPY and knew he was loved very much. God had bigger plans for him the way i see it ya know...more important work for him to do! I will always miss him though.

Tru no I never mentioned what was said as far as my being so hurt. I did make a sly little comment though to let them know i overheard the conversation......

I have some pictures that was taken a little later but don't have the nerve to have them developed .

Skn actually about the cook out single men.....the only ONE that showed up single and alone for it was extremely polite sweet and good looking atually but was one of they're Honduran friends and hardly spoke english....so....story of my life I guess. Maybe I am meant to be alone girls/with cats! That's really ok with me. I mean I would love to find the right person to spend my GOLDEN YEARS with but weeding out all the  #*^%heads in between I can live without. Cats are so much easier than men anyway! LOL 

Hope everyone has a good week! My weigh in this a.m. was 132. So I'm going back to goal weight slowly but surely. Well the second goal weight. Have any of you changed your original goal weight? When I started at 170 my goal weight was 145 then I got to 145 decided on 140 then at 140 went to 130 and stopped cause when I went below it I looked sick. I still need BELLY loss though! Also have any of you heard or gotten any emails or spam about something called the acai berry cleanse? I've never tried these type things and was just wondering......

Have a happy day!  Connie

One more thing Momo for your icecream adventures have you tried the Bryers fat free chocolate brownie? Its 100 calories for I think half a cup no fat. It's very good!

No Truus, I'm not scared away! I wondered away to another thread and now I am here. I've been with cc a month now and lost 7 pounds - from 195 to 188. Feels good but scary. I took me 9 1/2 months to drop 15 pounds. Now I worry that I am too caught up in the diet aspect of this and will eventually rebound.

I will be out of town taking care of my mom for a couple of weeks. Talk about rebound! That place and being around her is definitely a trigger to overeat. I hope I can find some wi fi and get online for support.

I would appreciate any words of wisdom anyone has to share.