age 45-50 group. Anyone interested?

I have looked for twins and poked around other groups without finding a real support group.

I am 48, 5'5", SW 151, CW 134, GW 128

I am the school teaching mother of three in their upper teens, wife of my 3 lbs from goal hubby.

SO...

Anyone interested?

 

Hi everybody! I just wanted to say thanks to u all for the ego helpers after the ex ---hole got me pretty down. It has only gotten worse in my blahness...my uncle died yesterday afternoon so I may not be chatting for a little while....you guys better not forget about me and hey could you guys put in some extra prayers for my little 80 year old Mom...she is the last of her family (11 all together) and its a very sad time here in my world! I'm going to try my best not to "stress" eat! I was always at my worst with the COMFORT foods...Sorry to be such a downer. I'll catch up soon.

hang in there can...we will be here when you get back... and indeed, your mom is on my list, poor honey.

 

Alylou knows that things have been pretty rough for me in the last year or so.  My dad died of cancer, my husband had a stroke and I was diagnosed with pre-cancerous cells of the cervix.  Well, I found out tonight my mum has cancer.  I don't think I'll be coming back to the forum - I just cant handle any more of this.  I'm so sorry for the bad post but I just had to tell someone.

Oh vegan, I am SO sorry! You really are handling a load. I don't know about your faith, but mine is that we are given no more than we can handle, and everything can and will be turned to some good. You, and your mom are in my prayers.

 

Oh Vegan please don't let go of our group. I feel so bad that I have added to your stress as well as everyone else. My Mom has had 2 bouts with cancer and that is what I do now is care for her. (no actual job) I used to work for the post office (Yes I have gone postal once or twice) LOL anyway I really mean it when I say the words I read from all of you in this group are way beyond diet help. I wish we all lived closer to eachother where we could get together in person because to me its rare to find people you can really really relate to and with all of us it apparently is not only a weight issue. I think we can all help one another get through our "age group" s troubles worries and sorrows and as strange as it is to not personally know eachother WE ARE REAL FRIENDS!!!!! Do I hear a HELL YEAH from the rest of the "pack"! Sooooo Vegan please don't drop the group we can be there and help eachother!!!!  I promise you that! By the way can's alias is Connie! Thanks again to u all for everything. WILL BE IN TOUCH SOON !!!!

Gosh, Can (Connie) and Vegan - you are both in my mind today. Being 40-something I think we all share the heartache of aging/ill parents, aunts, uncles - it is so hard. . .

Vegan - I hope you will read all of the messages and realize that there are people here who care about you.  You know it is, of course, the most important thing to talk to people in your life when things are bad- but sometimes just having a space like this where you can openly write your feelings, can be good for the soul too.

Connie - I say, go ahead and have a little of that comfort food. You are doing so great, and sometimes a little reminder of a safe and happy home (which is what 'comfort food' means to me) is a GREAT thing.

Don't know how you all feel about faith and I truly hope not to offend - but I'm a Christian, and so I will pray that the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds. If you don't believe in God, then please take it as my very best wishes being sent to you. I remember once when i was very,very ill and new-age friend of mine brought me some crystals; she did it even though she was afraid to offend me, but I was touched by her concern and thoughtfulness.

Justamom/Sue

Vegan, I hope you are still at least reading the thread...Connie and Sue and I  are here for you !  Like Connie said "HELL YEAH"!

*prayers zinging your way*

Connie, I hope your Mom is holding up...and you too! maybe this is a time (brief!) when you can be very happy with holding steady instead of loosing. But everyone, and everyone's reactions to sad times are different.

Although life is hitting busy season around my ranch, with end of the semester, field trips, AP tests, and a convention starting Wed, it's funny but I don't feel I can part with this thread!  I'll make time for it over some other things....I know! instead of eating-I'll post! . 

Hi Friends! Just thought I would check in with everyone for a pick me up and it definitely has helped. You all are so very thoughtful and sweet. I am home to get some rest. The funeral isn't until Thursday in Tennessee. My mom is holding up fairly well and I really feel alot is due to all of your prayers and good thoughts. I once again must say thanks! I don't care if we all get to be 115 lbs I really want to keep our group for just fun laughs support....need I go on???Oh Justamom I also added you to my friends list! That put a smile on my face as well as in my heart to open up my laptop to find I had gained a new friend. Ok gotta get some rest. I will be in touch soon!      Connie

Connie - I am so sorry to hear about your uncle and I'm sorry I didn't say that until now.  You NEVER added to my stress and yes I wish we all lived closer I really need a hug.

I prayed last night and I was really angry with God because of whats happening to me.  I told  Him I was angry  and now I'm frightened I am going to be punished.  Please tell me he won't I couldn't bare to have anyone else taken away. 

My daughter is having headaches and my doctor's appointment for her has finally come through for tomorrow and I'm frightened its a tumour or something.  I'm frightened that they'll find out that my treatment for pre-cancerous cells hasn't worked and that I've got cancer or frightened that my husband has another stroke.   I keep it all inside and don't say anything to my family because I can't afford to let go of the pain because I'll never get up again if I do.  I also dont want to be a burden on my family.  You are the only ones I say all this to now.  I didn't post today because I didn't want to be a burden on you all because you  have your own problems.  Its midnight here in UK now and I post when everyone has gone to bed so they can't see what I'm saying and so I can cry when no one is around. 

My dad was seeing the doctor for ages and he diagnosed stomach upsets - it was cancer.  My mums legs were diagnosed as leg ulcers - they were cancer.  What if my daughters GP gets it wrong.  She has a different doctor to my parents.   I know I'm not a good parent because I'm not handling this well but I try to be ok.  Please can anyone help me.  I don't know what to do.

I'm really scared to post this reply because I'm scared to tell anyone how I feel but Im just going to send it.  I hope it doesnt offend.

Vegan honey that's what friends are for and we ARE friends! Just keep your faith and try and have hope and good thoughts. it will all come out well. You are in all of our prayers and you can say anything you are ever feeling to this group. If we can do nothing else but listen and care for what you are going through it gives you the chance to let some emotions out. You need that. Try and think positive. I know it's alot to worry about but put your faith to work for you that the future will be healthier and your daughter, husband and yourself will be blessed with good news good health and happier days ahead....Take care.   Connie  ( Let us know how your daughters doctors appt went ok? )

Goodness Vegan, of COURSE you can and should post here! The post I opened this thread up with says "support group"! So you lean, we'll support.

It is hard to not leap to the worst case possible, but do remember that young girls dealing with hormone overloads frequently get headaches. Both my daughters did when about that age, one even to the point of fainting several times. Both are FINE.

Fear is to be expected. Now how you DEAL with that fear is what defines you: do you rule it? Are you able to control it and only deal with it when you need or want to? That is the healthy way, and it sounds like exactly what you're doing.

God punish you for being angry? Not a chance, no god would punish us for a natural fear...just put that thought aside for a time when you can grapple with some big theology (I'm here when you want to).

You are doing it all right! Just hang in there and dear with each hour as it comes. You are bigger than any of these problems. You can and will shine again soon.

Blessings all, Alylou

Vegan -

I totally understand the midnight posting. Years ago when I was in an unhappy time, I would write things on the computer (just to myself) often in the early hours of the morning. I remember crying as I typed, it helped to at least get it out of my system a little bit.

I will be praying for you today. At church last Sunday the message was about prayer and talking to God, even when we're angry -- and my pastor actually made the point that God would rather hear us cry out and be angry when we hurt, then to communicate in a fake-pious way. God knows our thoughts anyways, He is glad that you come to Him honestly. The pastor read one of the Psalms where David is so angry with God. I don't want to preach too much, so I'll stop by saying that God will not punish you for your prayers.

Keep reading, keep posting, keep talking to us, your friends. We are with you.

Original Post by cantlose:

Hi Friends! Just thought I would check in with everyone for a pick me up and it definitely has helped. You all are so very thoughtful and sweet. I am home to get some rest. The funeral isn't until Thursday in Tennessee. My mom is holding up fairly well and I really feel alot is due to all of your prayers and good thoughts.  Ok gotta get some rest. I will be in touch soon!      Connie

 Connie - I am glad that you are doing okay. Get the rest you need so that you can help your Mom at this time.  I remember a friend of my mom's once telling me how hard it was when she realized she was the last survivor of her immediate family. Your mom will be so glad she has you for support. Take Care and I'll keep you in my prayers as you go through this week.

Justamom/Sue

Original Post by justamom:

Original Post by cantlose:

Hi Friends! Just thought I would check in with everyone for a pick me up and it definitely has helped. You all are so very thoughtful and sweet. I am home to get some rest. The funeral isn't until Thursday in Tennessee. My mom is holding up fairly well and I really feel alot is due to all of your prayers and good thoughts. Ok gotta get some rest. I will be in touch soon! Connie

Connie - I am glad that you are doing okay. Get the rest you need so that you can help your Mom at this time. I remember a friend of my mom's once telling me how hard it was when she realized she was the last survivor of her immediate family. Your mom will be so glad she has you for support. Take Care and I'll keep you in my prayers as you go through this week.

Justamom/Sue

DITTOS!

Hi everyone.  I took my daughter to the doctor and he said she had a virus with slightly inflamed tonsils.   I asked about the headaches and he said it was a part of the virus and not to worry.  I could have wept!!!!!!!!(relief).  Don't get me wrong - I know a virus/tonsillitis is horrible but goodness you'll never believe the things I had been thinking it could have been!  Today she is a lot better and has been laughing and smiling a lot (and winding me up!!) and its been great.

My mum is having her biopsy (the cancer is in both legs) on Monday - results back on Friday.  She then starts radiotherapy.  I speak to her most days and she is sounding pretty strong. 

Do you know the really crazy thing?  Throughout all this I still counted my *%$! calories and stayed within the allowance.  How nuts is that!  Goodness knows if I've lost weight though cos I'm on my period at the moment and I get a bit of fluid retention. 

Thanks for all your comments about praying - I've had a lot of input in my teenage years from fundamental groups teaching quite scary things and I've worked hard to undo that but sometimes the messages creep back in. 

Sue - thanks for the post about what your pastor said - it made me cry (in a nice way!!) 

Connie - hope you're feeling a bit better today - love and hugs to you and your mum.

Alylou - I will shine again soon.  I'm sure of it.  With friends like you guys I can't really fail!!!

Anyway  - I'm free today and tomorrow cos doc said Rachel could have a break from education till the end of the week (I home educate my daughter) so I'm going to do a bit of cooking - loads of washing  and maybe try that turbo jam DVD !!!!!!!!  (I AM going to be bigger than the problems alylou!!)

Original Post by veganmamma:

(I AM going to be bigger than the problems alylou!!)

 You are! and we all believe in you. Continued prayers for quick healing for your daughter, strength for you, and the best treatment possible for your mum.

Sue

Hi Alylou-
What perfect timing!!  I am 49yrs -- will be 50 at the end of the yr -- have 3 children (15, 14, 12yrs this yr). I am 5'8",  SW 180, CW 161 & GW 150. This site has been a huge motivatiion for me to keep going. I love to cook, but time is a HUGE factor in my life.  Work fulltime, raise QH's and have hit that time in the kids life when all three are going in different directions. 

Sophcesca - hi again.  Hope the wedding is fun.

Hershy - I am in the same boat.. not thru the big M, but definitely seeing more irregularity -- another reason to try and drop this weight now.  How was your metabolic screening done?

Only got thru some of the posts on this thread so far, but delighted to find it.

 

Hi all! I am just home from the funeral and visiting. My mom held up fairly well but I honestly am worried about her. my older brother and his wife are with her so I am going to rest awhile....I am so very tired. I just love all of you and had to jump on here real quick to check in and say hello.  Vegan I am so happy (well you know what I mean) about your daughters results! Sorry about the tonsils vegans daughter! but glad it's something that will be better soon (and with some icecream!!) LOL.  I will keep you Mum in my prayers. Keep us posted ok? On another note I was really shocked about my usual stress eating...i don't believe I have even had 500 calories today. I just feel sad tired and almost sick at my stomach so I'm just going to go to bed watch Lost (does anyone else watch that crazy show?) anyway I will start over tomorrow and try and brighten my moms day somehow.   Big hugs to each of you. Sue and Aly You really helped me through this week May the scales be especially good to you tomorrow.   Connie

Good Morning Ladies! Even though it was sad circumstances that caused what I am about to say i have to go back to my original..... I weighed this a.m. and....137....7 more to go. Now that will probably take me until December but hey I was happy to see those numbers. Hope everyone is well, happy and has a terrific weekend!   Connie

OK fine outta all u guys I have had not one response soooooo...u all must be having a much better weekend already than myself...GOOD FOR EACH OF YOU!!!!    Connie   (Just trying the crying smiley to make you feel bad for ALL THE NEGLECT!!!!!)