also over weight and trying to have a baby

Im also overweight, been on diets all my life, always gaining and losing, its depressing, only 24, i did get pregnant, almost 3 yrs ago, miscarried at 7 weeks, and been trying again ever since, had and abnormal cycle, was put on birth control pills to regulate it, and no luck, my dr also wants me to lose weight before helping me get pregnant, like i said its really hard, and i know it not impossible, but im starting to feel depressed, frustrated and i would like to know what any one recommends, i know, i know a lil weight loss wouldnt hurt, i am going to the gym, and  changed eating habits.  I was wondering if any one can help me find, fertility treatment, and if any one know how much it costs??

I think you should go with your doctor's advice in the first instance.   If your body is unhealthy/overweight and you put it through fertility treatment your chances of success are limited.  You could waste a lot of time, a lot of money and experience a lot of heartbreak.  You're only 24... in a year you could have completely turned your health and your prospects of pregnancy around.

Losing weight doesn't have to be difficult or unpleasant.  The prospect of pregnancy must be a strong motivator.  And it makes sense for everyone in the family to change their lifestyle.  Once you are a parent and responsible for the health and wellbeing of another human being, what you learned in the process of losing weight will mean that your baby has a better chance of not ending up in the same predicament 20 or 30 years down the track.

You're already changing your eating habits which is excellent..... If you base your diet around fresh vegetables & wholegrains with meat & fish to flavour dishes and fruit to snack on you'll be off to a great start.  Keep what you eat fun and interesting.... if your meals ever start to taste boring or if you feel you're eating things 'because you have to' then stop and have a rethink.  

Going to  the gym, provided you enjoy it enough to keep it up, will help you burn more calories all day long, not just during the exercise.   Try to be more active in your everyday life as well as going to the gym.... use stairs instead of lifts, walk rather than take the car.    Don't count calories at first but get into a good healthy-eating and exercise swing.  Once you're at that stage, trim the portion-sizes a little.  Always eat/snack regularly so that you never get too hungry and so that your blood-sugars stay stable.

Good luck 

I have to agree with gi-jane on this one. Try the weight loss before jumping to fertility treatments. In my opinion, it's better to do things naturally if you can. I have read so many posts here about women successfully getting pregnant after dropping some weight.

If you lose weight and are still having trouble conceiving, your insurance company would be a good place to find a fertility specialist. Some insurance companies require to you get a referral from your primary care physician when you see a specialist so that might be a place to start as well.

Good luck!

Original Post by bier:

I have to agree with gi-jane on this one. Try the weight loss before jumping to fertility treatments. In my opinion, it's better to do things naturally if you can. I have read so many posts here about women successfully getting pregnant after dropping some weight.

If you lose weight and are still having trouble conceiving, your insurance company would be a good place to find a fertility specialist. Some insurance companies require to you get a referral from your primary care physician when you see a specialist so that might be a place to start as well.

Good luck!

 PLEASE ask your doctor to evaluate you for PCOS, and even if he/doesn't ask if you can try using Metformin/Glucogphage.  It is typically prescribed for type 2 diabetics but it can also do wonders for non diabetics (with or without PCOS) who are insulin resistant.  I used to have very abnormal cycles (2 or 3 a year), started Metformin and lost 10% percent of my body weight in 3 months which in turn triggered a regular cycle and fertility...hooray.  The metformin can help with weight loss if you have insulin resistance issues by affecting how your body produces insulin in response to carb intake.  The first couple of weeks on metformin can be uncomforatble for some so it's important to wean on gradually and avoid high fat foods (otherwise you'll have cramping and diarrhea).

I now have two beautiful babies and metformin to thank in part.  Incidentally, I continued to take a lower dose of metformin during pregnancy (doctors have mixed opinions on this) and after babies I resumed my regular dose of 2000mg, which I still take now due to my insulin resistance.  The pills are available in standard or time-released form, but it might be worth a try for you.

It's not a fertility med, but it gave me the boost to lose weight so I could become fertile on my own.

Rachel