Always get a guy who can't last longer than 5 friggin minutes!
I haven't been with a lot of guys but the few I've been with are always minute men. They can't last longer than 5 minutes and don't care to do anything about it at all. At first I thought this was what sex was about, but then I started realizing that sex is not supposed to be this way and a guy should be able to go on for longer than 3 minutes.
The last guy was such a loser, if you move too fast or at a certain angle for a few seconds he pretty much is ready to explode under 5 minutes..and when he comes he is pretty much done for the day. He doesn't even want to try to do something so he won't come so quickly nor does he seem to mind. He'll just say "it happens. and i'm a guy, i'm supposed to **** fast".
I have the worst luck. I am so jealous of women who get men who can go on all night long
How old are you? What are the ages of the guys you're having sex with? How much experience do the guys you go with have?
Guys without much experience tend to not last very long. Guys who are very egocentric and arrogant tend not to last too long or all they do is pump. A guy has to learn how to please a woman.
If you always end up with men who don't want to or can't please you, then you need to take a look at yourself and ask yourself why you are attracted to this type of guy.
um if they can't please you, then don't have sex with them. im not saying be one of those women who uses 'i have a headache', or that you should give up on a guy because he does this. but if they are not even willing to really try to please you, then somethings wrong with them.
I don't know about all night long...1/2 an hour-1 hour works for me 
I don't know you (obviously), but from the lil bit you shared you might be rushing into having sex too quickly? Sex is definitely better when you have more of a mental/emotional connection and the guy will (usually, haha) care more about pleasing you...
or
Maybe you could ask your partner to go down on you for awhile first? If he doesn't want to do that, he's most likely a selfish butthead and you probably wouldn't want to finish anyway...
It takes 2 people to make a good sex life. If you're dissatisfied, try reading a few books on the subject and try exploring other methods and positions. Most men are happy when the women they're with suggests something other than the normal routine.
If you consider that by showing up to the party that you've done your part then I'm surprised they stick around for even 3 minutes.
Original Post by moonikins:
How old are you? What are the ages of the guys you're having sex with? How much experience do the guys you go with have?
Guys without much experience tend to not last very long. Guys who are very egocentric and arrogant tend not to last too long or all they do is pump. A guy has to learn how to please a woman.
If you always end up with men who don't want to or can't please you, then you need to take a look at yourself and ask yourself why you are attracted to this type of guy.
I'm in my mid 20s. The guy I had sex with was in his mid 20s as well; as for tehir experience, they slept with quite a few girls. I don't know the exact number but i was certainly not their first
I'd have to second mooni's questions about the experience level of these men. Anyway, google health has a few suggestions:
Original Post by hotrebeccainmesa:
I don't know about all night long...1/2 an hour-1 hour works for me
I don't know you (obviously), but from the lil bit you shared you might be rushing into having sex too quickly? Sex is definitely better when you have more of a mental/emotional connection and the guy will (usually, haha) care more about pleasing you...
or
Maybe you could ask your partner to go down on you for awhile first? If he doesn't want to do that, he's most likely a selfish butthead and you probably wouldn't want to finish anyway...
Well, I've never been lucky enough to have a special connection with another guy before. If I had waited to find this connection I'd still be a virgin at 24! I'm still looking..
the first guy I was with didn't do oral. and then the others would cut down on foreplay if they knew we were going to go all the way. they immediately want to stick it in and get bizzy regardless of whether or not I'm ready. I don't know I just thought that was how men were. A lot of them from my experience are like that
"slept with quite a few girls" does not really correspond with being experienced.
If you aren't enjoying it, and your post make it sounds like you aren't - then there's no reason not to wait until you find a guy you make a connection with.
With age comes experience...I'm letting you figure this one out on your own little girl. ;)
Original Post by puh8suwrux:
"slept with quite a few girls" does not really correspond with being experienced.
If you aren't enjoying it, and your post make it sounds like you aren't - then there's no reason not to wait until you find a guy you make a connection with.
Do you really think that's necessary? can't women enjoy sex w/o needing to form some kind of special bond with a guy? I'm 24 and if I had of waited for a special connection to have sex I'd still be a virgin to this day cause I've never been in love or anything like that. I"m just tired of being told to wait on some shining knight in armor that might not come until i'm 40. I just hope that the next guy will be better
Original Post by dreamofbeingthin:
Original Post by puh8suwrux:
"slept with quite a few girls" does not really correspond with being experienced.
If you aren't enjoying it, and your post make it sounds like you aren't - then there's no reason not to wait until you find a guy you make a connection with.
Do you really think that's necessary? can't women enjoy sex w/o needing to form some kind of special bond with a guy? I'm 24 and if I had of waited for a special connection to have sex I'd still be a virgin to this day cause I've never been in love or anything like that. I"m just tired of being told to wait on some shining knight in armor that might not come until i'm 40. I just hope that the next guy will be better
If my only options were crappy sex and no sex, I'd buy a vibrator and wait until I found Mr. Right. Not that you can't have good sex without a connection, but a battery-operated boyfriend is probably a better choice than the douche-bag with the emover wearing an Ed Hardy shirt.
Honestly, my advice boils down to about three things: don't date selfish guys, good dancers are not automatically good in bed (that is a huge lie that needs to be stomped out!!) and buy a vibrator. Probably not very helpful, but good luck! 
Personally, I don't see the problem here. At 5 minutes per, that's 12 men an hour. Surely that's enough to satisfy?
Original Post by dreamofbeingthin:
Original Post by puh8suwrux:
"slept with quite a few girls" does not really correspond with being experienced.
If you aren't enjoying it, and your post make it sounds like you aren't - then there's no reason not to wait until you find a guy you make a connection with.
Do you really think that's necessary? can't women enjoy sex w/o needing to form some kind of special bond with a guy? I'm 24 and if I had of waited for a special connection to have sex I'd still be a virgin to this day cause I've never been in love or anything like that. I"m just tired of being told to wait on some shining knight in armor that might not come until i'm 40. I just hope that the next guy will be better
I don't know if it is necessary or not - but if you haven't enjoyed it yet, then maybe you need to take a step back and ask yourself why not. Perhaps something might need to be altered in your selection process, I don't know. You are the one that's going to have to figure out what you can do differently.
Original Post by splitrail:
Personally, I don't see the problem here. At 5 minutes per, that's 12 men an hour. Surely that's enough to satisfy?
*snort*
C'mon, you're holding up the line!Original Post by puh8suwrux:
Original Post by dreamofbeingthin:
Original Post by puh8suwrux:
"slept with quite a few girls" does not really correspond with being experienced.
If you aren't enjoying it, and your post make it sounds like you aren't - then there's no reason not to wait until you find a guy you make a connection with.
Do you really think that's necessary? can't women enjoy sex w/o needing to form some kind of special bond with a guy? I'm 24 and if I had of waited for a special connection to have sex I'd still be a virgin to this day cause I've never been in love or anything like that. I"m just tired of being told to wait on some shining knight in armor that might not come until i'm 40. I just hope that the next guy will be better
I don't know if it is necessary or not - but if you haven't enjoyed it yet, then maybe you need to take a step back and ask yourself why not. Perhaps something might need to be altered in your selection process, I don't know. You are the one that's going to have to figure out what you can do differently.
Well, I can't tell how long a guy is going to last w/o sleeping with him first. I wish there was a way to know before then instead of wasting my time.
since you're just interested in the sex, why not pay for something that is going to get you what you want? Then you'll know, beforehand. And none of that pesky getting-to-know-you BS.
Who said anything about a knight in shining armor? That's being a bit dramatic...
Like it or not, that's the way our brains work...to quote Dr. Drew Pinsky:
Dr. Drew: "Because women want something more. But they're being told that they don't need anything else.
It is the fundamental idea that they experience physical intimacy the same way. That's what our society tells us. That was the message of the sexual revolution: We are equal, it's all the same.
And it's not the same. It is NOT the same.
The sexual revolution-particularly the fact that women could have sex without fear of pregnancy, thanks to the birth-control pill-was never thought through in terms of teaching young women how to create stability in a relationship and find fulfillment in a relationship; it was all about having sex in the same way men have sex.
Women's brains are set up differently. But the whole women's movement maintains there's no difference between the sexes, which is a mistake. Women are the ones who get sold short. They expect they can be the same as men in relationships. But they have different needs and those needs have to be protected.
Women shouldn't expect to be able to behave like a man or to be gratified when they do.
For men, it's usually a mechanical act; it can be very unemotional. The biology points toward genetic diversity, to multiple partners. With a man, the commitment is to the physical encounter."
You seem to have a very pessimistic attitude towards men, if you aren't happy maybe you need a break from them and then you could spend some more time with your vibrator...I mean this in all seriousness and I hope you don't take it the wrong way
Original Post by crazydiamondchrysalis:
since you're just interested in the sex, why not pay for something that is going to get you what you want? Then you'll know, beforehand. And none of that pesky getting-to-know-you BS.
OMG!
Original Post by crazydiamondchrysalis:
since you're just interested in the sex, why not pay for something that is going to get you what you want? Then you'll know, beforehand. And none of that pesky getting-to-know-you BS.
LOL, cdc!
This makes me think of "Hung"...did anybody watch that series?
Original Post by hotrebeccainmesa:
Who said anything about a knight in shining armor? You're being a bit dramatic..
Like it or not, that's the way our brains work...to quote Dr. Drew Pinsky:
Dr. Drew: "Because women want something more. But they're being told that they don't need anything else.
It is the fundamental idea that they experience physical intimacy the same way. That's what our society tells us. That was the message of the sexual revolution: We are equal, it's all the same.
And it's not the same. It is NOT the same.
The sexual revolution-particularly the fact that women could have sex without fear of pregnancy, thanks to the birth-control pill-was never thought through in terms of teaching young women how to create stability in a relationship and find fulfillment in a relationship; it was all about having sex in the same way men have sex.
Women's brains are set up differently. But the whole women's movement maintains there's no difference between the sexes, which is a mistake. Women are the ones who get sold short. They expect they can be the same as men in relationships. But they have different needs and those needs have to be protected.
Women shouldn't expect to be able to behave like a man or to be gratified when they do.
For men, it's usually a mechanical act; it can be very unemotional. The biology points toward genetic diversity, to multiple partners. With a man, the commitment is to the physical encounter."
You seem to have a very pessimistic attitude towards men, if you aren't happy maybe you need a break from them and then you could spend some more time with your vibrator...I mean this in all seriousness and I hope you don't take it the wrong way
Well, I have vibrator, and it's only good for clitoral stimulation. I get no gratification from a dildo when its used for penetration. I'd rather have a real person, a guy for that. There are so many more things you can do with a real person, than just some plastic toy. It gets tiring and boring. I'm just frustrated that I always get stuck w/ guys who are all about the 'wham bam thank you ma'am'. I just wish tehre was a way to find the ones who can last longer
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