Angry Drinking Alcohol

Hey girls. So lately i've been getting REALLY b itchy and mean to my boyfriend when i drink alcohol. I usually drink Vodka and Seltzer.  I don't know whats wrong with me.  I'm all apologetic the next morning and im glad he's still with me cause he knows im just wasted.  I never USED to be like this, and im  not like this with anyone else. Anyone know as to why this is happening? anyone else like this? what are  alcohols that dont make u furious and that do?

If I have something like this happening in my life, it is because I am stuffing emotions when I am sober and then when I'm drunk they percolate to the surface more readily.

You will hear many stories of whiskey making people mean drunks. Tequila makes your clothes fall off.

How much are you drinking before you turn nasty to him? Can you try cutting back? Or drinking something less strong?

i have a friend who starts fights with her boyfriend EVERY time she drinks. if he's not around, it's someone else. it's starting to ruin their relationship.

i'm usually not one to say this, but maybe you should cut back on the drinking. i don't really believe that different types of booze make people act different ways. obviously stronger stuff will get your more drunk faster, but i don't think it really matters what you drink. your boyfriend doesn't deserve to be abused like that. or maybe just don't drink when you are going to be around him?  

Alcohol = truth serum.  It's good that you've found a way to let your emotions out but you might want to cut back on the drinking before it becomes a permanent problem.

In vino veritas...

You didn't say how often you drink, so I don't know whether you have a serious alcohol problem, or not, but I'll share this with you.  My husband was an alcoholic, and I was the one he took his frustrations out on.  I said WAS an alcoholic because it was a major contributor to his death 15 years ago when he was 46 years old.  Again, I'm not assuming you have a serious problem, but it just seems to me if you KNOW you are mean and bitchy to your boyfriend when you drink, you would just NOT drink.  Whatever the case may be, I wish you well.

Simple solution: Stop getting wasted. There is such a thing as drinking without getting drunk. I drink plenty (I'm from Ireland, you see), but I've only been drunk once in my life.

If you're a lightweight or you can't control yourself, stop drinking. If you can't stop drinking, accept that you will probably ruin your relationship one of these days.

Original Post by healthyforever:

Simple solution: Stop getting wasted. There is such a thing as drinking without getting drunk. I drink plenty (I'm from Ireland, you see), but I've only been drunk once in my life.

If you're a lightweight or you can't control yourself, stop drinking. If you can't stop drinking, accept that you will probably ruin your relationship one of these days.

THAT pretty much says it.

Thanks for the advice everyone

flashdance9-

I AM a recovering alcoholic. What is your attitude about drinking in general? Can you completely stop drinking? Can you do without it? Can you have fun without it? Is there alcoholism in your family? One of the reasons I drank was because I "thought" it would take away all the issues in my life, but in reality, it made them worse, for a LOT of reasons. It also gave me the courage to "speak up" to people and be more aggressive, but I NEVER thought about circumstances of my actions at that time, I just continued to drink more and more..

By NO means am I bragging, but the truth is, I have been arrested many times, I've lost friends and family because of my drinking, had 3 OUIs-(still paying for the last one in 2005), been to over 15 detoxes, about 5 rehabs, 1 year in a women's sober home and the paramedics got to know me very well. It also became very costly, the hospital bills, the ambulance bills, the court fines, probation. The drug screens..(The last OUI occurred when my folks died 6 months apart.) Couldn't "deal" with that, plus that gave me an excuse to drink more... I have humiliated myself over and over. Thought about suicide when I was really down. My days turned to nights and all I could think about was getting my next bottle. The doctors told my Mom that I might not last one night in the hospital because of my alcohol level. And any medications that you take do not work with the use of alcohol, if you are on any..

The worst people I had hurt were my folks. Especially my Mom. Dad couldn't deal with me anymore. My Mom sat in the emergency room and had to see me hooked up to all kinds of fluids intravenously and with a catheter. My Mom spent her life trying to get me sober and blamed herself. (She died 24 years sober with the fellowship of AA.) You wouldn't believe how much my whole world and everybody in it was affected by my drinking..And the drinking progressed rapidly as time went on. Alcoholism is a baffling and cunning disease.

I finally got sober on August 28, 2005. Today my life is second to none without the alcohol.

You may be heading down the wrong path with the drinking...Maybe you can check out a meeting-just try it. Millions of people have stopped drinking through AA. And I'm sure there are tons of girls your age there.

And the answer to your question? I wouldn't suggest ANY other form of alcohol or substitute. And don't bet on your only "being mean" to your boyfriend. That will spread quickly. You already know your behavior when you drink around your boyfriend, yet you continue to drink.

Like someone earlier said, I don't know the extent of your drinking habits, and I'm NOT implying that you DO have a problem, whether it's a daily thing or a weekly thing. Either way, if it's changing your whole character, then you should cut it out completely. Fast.

I do wish you well...

Well, first of all, Mypuppy, CONGRATULATIONS on five years sober!!!  What an accomplishment.  I hope you don't mind, but after reading your response, I peeked at your profile.  I do hope Flashdance pays close attention to what you said in your response and also takes a look at your profile.  You've overcome so much and are a terrific role model.  I hope you're able to continue your quest and can get past whatever demons are plaguing you at the present time.  You are a lovely, intelligent, articulate woman, and you deserve a happy life, as do we all, of course.  And, by the way, I DO believe, unlike some people, that alcoholism IS a disease, one that needs treatment.

mypuppy is such the little joy around CC, hehe. im not used to it.

and good for you flashdance for spotting this early enough as a problem. we all have our issues, nothing to be ashamed about, we just have to get on with it.

I  don't know what to say other than I am extremely proud of you. I am proud to say you are one of my friends. Love Tonja

robin, thank you for your kind words..It's easy to write about alcoholism because it's been so prevalent in my life as well as many family members' lives. I see what it can do to the alcoholic and those who love them. And my point was merely that my alcoholism started the same way that flashdance's did. Also, the counseling in my life truly helped me to understand why I did what I did.

And I'm very sorry to read about your husband..An alcoholic cannot truly get sober unless they have the desire to do so. And 46 is SO damned young to expire from a horrendous and debilitating disease. The pain just goes on inside while you slowly destroy everything you've gained and worked so hard for. I'm so sorry you went through that. I hope you have peace now.

flashdance, I also want to mention that if you ever want to, send me a private message, or anyone else for that matter. Helping others with addictions is truly self-fulfilling in my life.

Oh and octo-luv-get used to having shiny happy people around! :-) I like to flock with them!

frost- You're a cool chick!

Wow you have an incredible story.  Thanks for your advice and support.

I try...........................