annoying parents! help!

ya you read the title..

blahh so basically last night, i restricted enough to be able to eat 200 cals left so i figured why not eat the frosting off of the cupcake? its alright since i havent had one in 2 months.. so of course my mom (miss ultra skinny) and my dad (the one i got my unfortunate metabolism from) see me reaching for it and they started freaking out! they were like dont eat that garbage! youre getting fat! pretty soon, you're going to look like your grandmother and your big fat aunt (who happen to both be obese. obesity II in fact).

 i was ticked because they have no sensitivity at all! i know that they are trying to help but it was so discouraging (oh and they said a lot of other things but i dont think i can exactly write them without offending anyone)! and of course i have to act all tough and im just like its MY BODY and i will do WHAT I WANT. and then i was so mad i threw the cupcake away and i went upstairs and cried. i cried!

i have no one to talk to about anything. i am a recovering bulimic and they have no idea why i gained all of this weight. oh i know-- im not throwing up anymore.. but of course they are so harsh about everything i eat!

then there is my sister who is so skinny and taller. every time i go in the car, my mom talks to my sister.. you are so beautiful! M, isnt your sister so pretty?! and what am i supposed to say? no? ha so i agree and then she looks me up and down disapprovingly and tells me that i should go on a diet because im getting fat. [literally thats what she tells me] i am not one to whine or vent much but i realize ive been keeping this in for soo long! honestly the way she treats me makes me feel like sh**.

my dad doesnt help much because he is the one who freaks out the most. however, he is also slightly heavier and he ALWAYS is cheating on his 'healthy' eating by going to restaurants and sneaking candy in gas stations for years. i hate listening to him go on because he is the biggest hypocrite i have ever seen! i hate it how my parents treat me! and they have no sympathy!

i have tried talking to them many many times so i doubt it will ever change. so i think im just doing this to get my feelings and thoughts out there. yesterday was devastating. i guess now im determines to lose my weight in a healthy way of course because i want them to just leave me ALONE!

thank you if you read this. i am really sad right now.. i know there are worst things in life, but i hate the way they treat me when i comes to eating..

-M

Wow, I guess some parents don't realize that the things they say could very easily be the cause of bad eating behaviors. Not much you can do but try to ignore them and vent on here everyone once in a while I guess.

=[ its terrible that your parents are acting like that. my grandmother used to say hurtful things about my weight also, telling me at 135 that i was fat, which led to nothing but me binging from the hurt feelings. but she was also very overweight. some parents try to do what they feel is best, maybe they feel their comments will help but in reality, they're just damaging. my aunt & uncle tried to keep my twin cousins from ever consuming sweets or junk of any sorts, which in turn made them binge on junk once they  got it. parenting is difficult :\

i suppose all you can really do is try to ignore their comments, unless you think they'd listen your feelings on the matter [i don't know how your parents are/if they're stubborn or hardheaded] but if you think they would listen, let them know that you need POSITIVE criticism/suggestions-not the sort that will tear you down in such a way. those sorts of comments will only make you feel bad about your body & that just depletes motivation. like MKEYS said, some parents don't realize the damage they're doing...if you feel that talking to them won't do good, then all you can do is ignore & vent.

just remember: do what makes YOU happy. YOU are you, not your sister, not your mom, not your dad. you only have one life & should live it for happiness! let their comments go in one ear, out the other. ask them if they've ever considered whether or not their comments do good or may turn you to emotional eating. maybe they haven't thought everything through before flapping their gums, bah

Wow, really sorry to hear how your parents are talking to you.  What would probably freak them out more is if you tell them that you'll double what you were about to eat every time they freak out.  And then did it in front of them!  That would probably make them freak out even more and hopefully curb all negative comments in the future...but only if you follow through.  Not suggesting you should do this (especially since it could trigger your bulemia), but at your age, that's what I would have tried.  It would have made it harder on me to lose weight, but after one or two times, I'd hope it would have shut up my parents. 

Also, in your pic, you look like you're a healthy weight.  It's hard to tell from pics, but healthy isn't always dependent on what size pants you fit into compared to the shape of your body overall.  And don't let negative comments get to you because you are very pretty.  Be smart about your goals.

thanks guys. ya talking isnt the best right now.. maybe i'll try it later but for right now im still really upset about whats been happening. my mom wont listen. maybe my dad will? idk. it can be a while before i get the courage to try to talk to him.. again..

but i feel better. i will try to ignore it.. i hate how negative everything is and im trying not to let it influence my decisions. well any ideas how to ignore them? i seriously feel like crying whenever this happens and unfortunately, it happens- not a lot- but quite a few times..

and liza413 i tried eating 2ce as much and they only made more comments and my mom told me that i have no self discipline. it never shut her up and it wasnt good for me.. and i guess im wearing a tshirt? idk but my doc said that i could lose around my goal weight and still be perfectly healthy..  the extra weight is spread pretty evenly thats all lol