Annoying roommate issues

I have a roommate who sees that I'm trying to lose weight by exercising and eating healthier, and has started putting packages of cookies in front of me when I'm working at the computer or putting pizza coupons on my desk where she knows I'll see them. I asked her why she was doing that, and she admitted that she wants to see if she can tempt me into breaking my healthy habits. She seems to think it's funny. I know she's gained a little bit of weight herself (she's probably gone from about a size 8 to size 10) and is probably worried about what will happen if she doesn't have someone fatter than her around to feel superior to. She also started a fistfight with me the other day over something stupid. I guess I really just wanted to rant about the little brat.

Anyone else have people try to bring you down?

yup! It sucks when people behave this way. No one needs friends like this. A true friend would be happy for you that you are getting healthier and fitter. But the good thing is that your room mate must be able to see the good results of your hard work and self control. That is why she is acting so jealously. Prove her wrong and stick to your plan!

I have a MIL who WILL NOT comment on my obvious weight loss (20lbs so far) but mentions all the time that my hubby (her son, has lost weight). Then she insists we go over for dinner and smothers all the food in high fat sauces or adds butter and cream to Vegetables.. who DOES that? I LIKE my veggies naked thank you (always have)! Then my FIL keeps chiming in with crappy dieting advice like "cut out soda" I dont drink any. ""Don't eat carbs" brown rice and wholegrain bread are actually good for me....Oh and he tried to tell me that the fruit salad they had made was healthy... it had marshmallows and cream in it!!!!!!....GRRRR..Drives me crazy.

I also have a counter-productive roomie. I don't think she means to be (most of the time) but dinner can become a huge battle ground with us. She doesn't purposely tempt me, but she will encourage an off the wagon day. But for me, and off the wagon day (or meal even) is a binge. Her "dieting" is eating very little all day (something I cannot do or believe is healthy) and then she eats what she wants for dinner.  So she'll have a bowl of cereal, a fiber one bar and like a 100 calorie pack. No protein, no veggies or fruits. So before dinner, she'll only consume maybe 500 calories.

That's her way, but I prefer eating about 4 healthy meals a day and somewhere between 1500 and 1800 calories. I'm fine with us going our seperate ways, but sometimes she assumes I'll eat what she's cooking. She'll make dinner out of a creamy dip and chips. Or eggs, cheese, sausage, hashbrowns and biscuits.  Not only do I hate this idea, I'm picky and she comes up with some weird combos that I'd pass on, diet or not. I'd much rather have grilled chicken or shrimp and veggies. Or even pasta with a salad. But junk food doesn't fill me up! It leaves me guilty and empty feeling! Ew!

Then, when I say something about my struggle, she recommends I exercise more. Well, I would have more energy to exercise if I wasn't the one who does all the apartment chores like the dishes, the cleaning, etc.!  I'm trying to make an effort though, I'm going to start swimming again and taking the dog on longer walks now that its nicer outside.

I just try to take things in stride with her.

Original Post by glos2lv:

yup! It sucks when people behave this way. No one needs friends like this. A true friend would be happy for you that you are getting healthier and fitter. But the good thing is that your room mate must be able to see the good results of your hard work and self control. That is why she is acting so jealously. Prove her wrong and stick to your plan!

I have a MIL who WILL NOT comment on my obvious weight loss (20lbs so far) but mentions all the time that my hubby (her son, has lost weight). Then she insists we go over for dinner and smothers all the food in high fat sauces or adds butter and cream to Vegetables.. who DOES that? I LIKE my veggies naked thank you (always have)! Then my FIL keeps chiming in with crappy dieting advice like "cut out soda" I dont drink any. ""Don't eat carbs" brown rice and wholegrain bread are actually good for me....Oh and he tried to tell me that the fruit salad they had made was healthy... it had marshmallows and cream in it!!!!!!....GRRRR..Drives me crazy.

My mother in law is the same way! I cook meals for her family as well as my husband and I, and she wants gravy WITH EVERY MEAL! And if I eat less than everyone else, she complains and tells me that I'm not eating enough. She held out a bag of Doritos to me (like 200 calories for like 11 chips!!!!) and says, "You have to eat or you'll get sick!" Yeah, I have to eat, but not that! I kept refusing and she kept insisting, until I finally went to my fridge and got a yogurt to eat. At least that's healthy! And even after that, she put the bag of chips right by me, resting against my knee! I couldn't believe it!

They also never ever comment about my weightloss, even though I've lost almost 15 pounds. My husband says it's noticeable, but if I had to rely on my in laws, Lord knows I would have no clue if I was doing anything at all!

Original Post by stacypenguinsfan:

Well, I would have more energy to exercise if I wasn't the one who does all the apartment chores like the dishes, the cleaning, etc.! I'm trying to make an effort though, I'm going to start swimming again and taking the dog on longer walks now that its nicer outside.

I just try to take things in stride with her.

Your roomie sounds like she is on a short walk to a long problem.  It's funny but skinny people who don't eat right in their 20's, eat a lot worse in their 30's and 40's.  One day she will be on CC!

In any case your chores are probably burning more calories over all than more exercise would.  It is called NEAT (non-exercise thermogenics) and it is responsible for a huge chunk of our daily burn. 

Next time she makes a mess in the kitchen and you find yourself cleaning up imagine her with butter and gravy stuck in a 3inch layer over her hips while  you are getting thinner and thinner. Thats a but twisted - but anything you have to do to keep your humor is worth while.

Oh and on the subject of MIL.  They are the worst!  Well mine is loving and wonderful and totally pushy with food.

When I was at her house at Christmas I weighed myself on her scale because I dont have one.  This is when I discovered the truth - 50 lbs overweight.  I managed to face the truth quite well.

But later she served pie and I took a small piece.  Really it was enough and I felt content.  But as she is cleaning up she started on asking me to have second helpings of pie.  I was never a two desert girl so it was just annoying.  But as she was packing left overs to take home - she started on the pie again.  Over and over.  I counted 16 separate inquiries - "are you sure you don't want pie for later?".

Finally I could not take it any more and looked her straight in the eye "I love your pie.  But I am 50 lbs over weight.  I DO NOT NEED MORE PIE"  I think I brought a tear to her eye but she left it alone after that.

But you know - this is only 1 of 20 years of such events and her son (my DH) picked up her relentless forcing of pie.  I dont know why pie.  But it is always pie. 

Once I even took the pie that my husband was trying to force on me and threw it in the trash.  He got very hurt looking and I reminded him that I had already turned that damn pie down about 15 times.  Since he did not believe me that I did not want it - I would throw it out because I was sick of him asking me about the pie. 

and you know what - I love pie. I love 1 piece of pie.  I love to make pie but I have not made a pie since I tossed that slice in the trash.  What is up with pie forcers?  Why pie?  Why not cookies or steak or ice cream?  It is always pie.

gawd - on second thought maybe I hate pie after all.

Ure roommate is a bitch. And it not even funny. It s gonna be very hard for u to stay on ure diet:-(. Tell her to stop doing it otherwise u will rise her rent :-D

yes people do this to other people, especially those who have self esteem issues or other nasty things. do not elt her problems ruin your good intentions

Original Post by madamq:

Oh and on the subject of MIL.  They are the worst!  Well mine is loving and wonderful and totally pushy with food.

When I was at her house at Christmas I weighed myself on her scale because I dont have one.  This is when I discovered the truth - 50 lbs overweight.  I managed to face the truth quite well.

But later she served pie and I took a small piece.  Really it was enough and I felt content.  But as she is cleaning up she started on asking me to have second helpings of pie.  I was never a two desert girl so it was just annoying.  But as she was packing left overs to take home - she started on the pie again.  Over and over.  I counted 16 separate inquiries - "are you sure you don't want pie for later?".

Finally I could not take it any more and looked her straight in the eye "I love your pie.  But I am 50 lbs over weight.  I DO NOT NEED MORE PIE"  I think I brought a tear to her eye but she left it alone after that.

But you know - this is only 1 of 20 years of such events and her son (my DH) picked up her relentless forcing of pie.  I dont know why pie.  But it is always pie. 

Once I even took the pie that my husband was trying to force on me and threw it in the trash.  He got very hurt looking and I reminded him that I had already turned that damn pie down about 15 times.  Since he did not believe me that I did not want it - I would throw it out because I was sick of him asking me about the pie. 

and you know what - I love pie. I love 1 piece of pie.  I love to make pie but I have not made a pie since I tossed that slice in the trash.  What is up with pie forcers?  Why pie?  Why not cookies or steak or ice cream?  It is always pie.

gawd - on second thought maybe I hate pie after all.

This cracked me up big time. I read it to my husband and he couldn't stop laughing either. Thanks for that story and good luck with the pie-forcers!

errr she sounds AWFUL! what a cow! My flat mate has recently accused me of being 'anorexic'.....which prompted my other 3 house mates to fall into a fit of giggles (that's how rediculous the statement was)........just because i don't want to eat her high in saturated fat dinner does not mean that i have an ED.....especially when i'm at a perfectly healthy weight and have a BMI of 21. she is forever trying to feed me up. She always calls me 'insane' when ever i say i'm off to the gym, which is generally 3-4 times a week.....which is pretty average i always thought....