Anybody wanna have a "Women over 40" forum or group????

I think we all have different concerns and certainly different challenges when it comes to getting in shape, losing weight and living happier and healthier. I know it is certainly different for me now then it was 20 years ago. When I look back to 20 and 30 years ago when I was in my 20's and 30's (yes I'm 51 yrs old), if I wanted/needed to lose weight, it was usually just a few pounds and now I see how it was pretty cut and dry - watch what I eat, more exercise, weight comes off, nice flat tummy again. And I do realize there are plenty of younger women who don't find it that easy, and believe me, I hear ya!! None of us like the shape we are in or we wouldn't be trying to fix ourselves!!

Anyway, I think there are issues like slower metabolism due to age, and then there are the good ole issues like hormone replacement therapy, maybe post-hysterectomy, and hey.....what about the belly problems due to having that bikini cut for c-sections or female surgery so many times your muscles are now like hamburger meat? Then things like medications we may take that make losing weight a little more difficult.......blood pressure meds, anti-depressants, things like that?

There are quite a few other things that I can think of that, luckily for them, just probably don't apply yet to the younger women.

Anybody wanna form a little 'ole over 40 forum or club????

Yikes, I think you could use something better than all that saturated fat! ew! You probably just need to be a little more patient. You haven't been eating all that yummy stuff you've been making for Kyle & Rick, have you? lol!

Well, I hope being cold burns extra cals cause my office is freakin freezin', Mr. Bigglesworth!

Where is everone?  No one has posted in a week??  I was just kidding about the Big Mac...come back!

I gained 2.5 lbs this week.  I can't see how but there you go.

I'm here just been busy trying to figure Rick out, man he is grumpy in the morning, the other day he woke up spent a couple days here with me and Kyle and says i am going home to get my bike, i say hang on lets discuss the plans for today...but he grabs his dog, bag and just walks right out the door..first of all it takes my back an hour to kick in where i can acually get moving, because of my disability, he stuck his nose in to Kyles business and i cut it off, he is bossy, and when we went golfing i tried to give him a helpful suggestion and he snarkly says "don't tell me how to play golf", i haven't played in 25 years he bought me a nice used set and he only beat me by 11 strokes....yes i am competetive but in a happy fun way, so i now see the real Rick and i don't like it very much, now he sends me an email yesterday saying HE needs time to weigh the pros and cons......and wants someone to help him save for and with his retirement in 10 years i am on disability??  WELL i have had it i am not going through this again....it seems everytime we have a disagreement or issue instead of talking about it (communication) he wants space days away without talking to each other....this is not my way i like to talk things out so with that said i am not writing him, calling him or sending him any emails as to why i have had enough of course yesterday i had to forward an "IM" him a message with "pro 29 and con 7"....idiot i am......i am dieting again, with him around to many late nights and beer.....i know i should stay single he thinks i'm to clean and to neat and he is messy and a bit of a slob....

So the bottom line he's a slob, to grumpy in the am, never sees the good intentions in anything i say or do is always seeing the wrong side to things, lacks communication skills, and now after having difficulty in the bedroom says he's not interrsted in sex, except he says in the email he wants a best friend, soulmate and a lover....well what the heck does he think i was trying to be..i give up.......i really do...back to the girls in here and dieting...school is starting next week and back to Kyle and the important things in life......

OK, meena, but don't threaten us with big macs anymore! Hee hee!

Sorry Nancy Lee. People can seem so nice online and then you actually get to know them and ...well, not so much.

I was doing really well for about six weeks but I've kind of gotten off course for the last week or so. Gotta get it back! I REALLY would like to make my goal wt by October. There's no reason (except stupidity &/or laziness) that I shouldn't.

I know what you mean Chris, i gotta get back on track to....i really would like to see the 160's before i am a grandmother...hehehe....we'll do it..go girl

 

That was it the word "Big Mac" scared me!!  I would have said "Quarter Pounder with Cheese".  Oh goodness to think I ate those on a regular basis!!!!

Kids started school today.  DD is in a young families class (pregnant and mom teenagers), she is the oldest one there...the only other senior had her baby two weeks ago.  The youngest in her class is a freshman....the director told me they have had girls in there as young as 12.....my heart just breaks.  What chance do some of these babies have.  At least DD has a supportive family, boyfriend, and boyfriend family, plus aunts, uncles and grandparents.

So true Kim, hang in there, and i will be on more regular again....i hae got to lose this weight, but sometimes the only time i see the dent on the scale is when i barely eat anything, if i exercise and eat i don't seem to lose....it's nuts....

Yea, young mothers, it's sad......

BLUE RUN!!!  Not interested in sex?  What good is he then???

Puppy: I don't know what to say.  Kids are experiencing sex way too young these days.  12!  I'd have a stroke if my 12 year old was having sex.  How is your Daughter feeling.  My sister got pregnant when she was a senior in HS.  It was difficult but a good support system really helps. 

HELLO everyone. it has been quite awhile since I have posted. I see a lot of new names and some of the old. Well i havent lost any weight and I am not proud. Kids got me WII fit and I have used it once. Quit my job in May and stayed home with the kids all summer. My husband won me a bike and I have road it a few times. I do love it but the lazy side of me tends to win. The bike has one of the really wide seats and the handle bars are up so i don't have to lean over.

Had some female surgery in July and it has been amazing. First of all no more PERIODS. I also feel like I have more energy. In the last three weeks I finished mudding and sanding the dry wall in the new little bathroom. My daughter and I also painted it. I have also mudded and taped the backporch. (For those of you who remember me and the major remodel we were doing well we are still working. It has been over a year) I still have part of the kitchen to do and the big new bathroom with my wonderful tub in it.. On top of that I started a new job.

Then to add to the fun my daughter is getting married Sept 20th. The bridal shower is Sept 7th and for the most part I am in charge of it because my youngest daughter is the maid of honor.

The school that my kids go to just built a new workout room and anyone in the community can use it four times a week for 35.00 dollars a YEAR. My friend and I went and signed up this morning. Hopefully by having to show up some place I will be better about exercising.

So having said all of that I will probably be back more often. I plan on using cc as my support so you all had better be there for me.LOL.

Hope everyone had a GREAT summer and we will chat later

Beth

Hey Beth.  That sounds like you've got some good opportunities to do a little working out!  My gym membership just ran out but I'm planning to start taking walks.  The winter is almost over...thank God...and I can start to go outside again soon.  Unfortunately my summer will be very short because I'm moving back to America in Jan.  That will be me sitting on the couch for another 3 months.  I hate winter.

Where do u live now Meena??

Hello Beth, kinda remember you where are you from again?  This is sometimes how i remember people by knowing what country there are from??

Anyway i'm stil stuck at 171lb i am trying being busy shopping, running errands for Kyle for Tueday school, in fact i am now on my way out the door to get groceries..so this will be my short letter.

I sent one of my 2 emails t Rick, i just had to then while i was out he called to say he would call to talk later but didn't ..same old games eh....well if i send my long goodbye email letter i've been saving since the 28th and this is how it is then i know it's denfinitely over...like my journal says....i guess somewhere in side me i'm hoping he does call and heeds my advice.....because i do care for him....i used to say love but it's care....anyone that can treat me like he has realy shouldn't even get that, right?  Oh my heart!!!!!!!!

Anyway girls i"m here for you, all of you.....i hate winter too..almost time to pull my indoor bike out...not just yet thought there is still fall here in Ontario, and it can be quite pretty!!

It's great you joined a gym get those endorphins jumping....lol

Be good Nancy..............

Hi -- Remember me anyone?  It's been months since I've posted and months since I've logged my eating habits and - guess what - I've gained about 8-10 lbs.  over the past 4 months. Ugh. I am in danger of not fitting into the smaller clothes I've gotten! Yikes!

Sounds like you all have kept better on track, and are inspiring me.  Thanks.

I've been having workplace stress, but that's no real excuse.  I just can't lose unless I track.  So I am going to make a fresh start.  It's not that I've gone crazy eating, but eating a bit more & exercising a bit less really does let the pounds pile back on!

Sorry for being scarce - hope you don't mind my joining back in!

Pat

Hello Pattikins, boy you have been gone a long time, so much is new....if you get bored just read some of our journals....hehehe...

Good to have you back you were missed....

Nancy

Hey, everyone!

Soooo sorry I haven't posted lately but in all actuality (1) been super busy with daughter's second foot surgery and son's braces that are fixing to go on his teeth, (2) homeschooling, and (3) no weight change to be excited about LOL!!

It was so discouraging to see my weight slowly creep up and then get stuck at 169!!!  I was like "No way!!!!".  I honestly wanted to hide and drink a beer and eat peanuts LOL!!!  So when it finally didn't go up anymore and my Thyroid levels levelled off, I decided to go back to square one as far as the B12/Lipotropics shots, reducing my calories, upping my water and exercise.  Well, it's working!!  I've LOST 3.6 pounds this past week!!!  I am so excited to see it moving in the OTHER direction again!  I simply had hit a wall and the Thyroid needed to be shoved hard... and I guess the shots did it.  So I'm a happy camper.

Hope all that are in our southern states are high and dry right now.  You're in my prayers.... and I honestly mean that.

Ro

Well i have been downloading a lot of music on the net....the last 2 days to a new Mp3 i got Kyle and for me CD's when all of a sudden Rick appeared on the IM..it was chilly between us at first but we started webcam viewing and smiling, and you all probably think i'm nuts but we are going to sit down and air things out soon...he is working several days 12 hour shifts then he has to put his new roof on. his garage....and then we talk.....I MEAN REALLY TALK...ABOUT EVERYTHING..air it all out, i can't help it i do see potential...but we have to COMMUNICATE..AND HE AGREES..so one day at a time....

Face it no relationship runs smoothly but i am going to be clear about these days of disappearing acts etc....no more B.S......etc....moods...grumpy moods....if this is unacceptable to him at least i know i tried 100%....right....i am not a quitter..until i feel it in my heart....

Hey it's nice to have you all back!!!!.....bye for now..boy the weather up here has been really nice lately...now we get a good summer!!

 

So good to see meena, Pattikins, & revins! I really NEED you ladies around. The youngsters just don't 'get' my issues. Let's all just really concentrate on having a great fall...healthy eating, exercise and feeling great!

Well, yeah, Nancy Lee, I DO kinda think your nuts...but heaven knows, I've been accused of that myself! Good luck and be careful w your heart!!!

I agree Chris is sure is nice to have all the ladies back!

In fact, it seems the summertime everyone has there own agendas, well i am seriously back on my diet, i want to reach my goal by xmas, that will mean 67lbs in 1 year with of course that Apr-Aug break...if i hadn't have gone off my diet i would be at my goal now..silly me..anyway i'm back i'm not logging much but am counting the calories, riding my bike, working out with my dumbells etc..yesterday Kyle and I went to our special place at the beach and went and did some swimming and diving of the board etc...it was about 6 miles out and back and i finally rode over that Anne street bridge without panting...this is a personal victory for me but today my left knee is bugging me so i may rest it today so i can ride tomorrow.

The sun and weather here in Ontario the last few days has been great where was this weather in July and August...hahaha and Lake Simcoe water yesterday was really warm surprisingly too....

So nice that everyone is back stay in touch.....Nancy

Hey Pattykins and Ro.  I'm newly back too, although I am still not doing to well on the eating front.  I have also gained some weight...a lot of weight.  I really look awful.  My face is so fat I don't even recognize myself.  I have to fly to west Virginia this month to buy a house and I'm so embarrassed that people will see me.  I"m gonna try to take a walk today after lunch when it is not too cold.

Blue, of course communication is the key to any relationship however in my opinion if there is no sex then you are just friends and you don't need to bang your head against the wall with all that communicating.  Also you don't need to cook for, clean up after or put up with moodiness from him.  Friends are great...you can never have enough friends...same could be said for sex.

Meena i think you misunderstood, sex i mean been there done that with Rick, i was referring to right now he and I want to talk things out so that topic is furthest from our mind...as far as the other it was good......no problems and imagination is there....i hope that clears up that anyway i am not rushing to anything..but time will tell right!!

Oh, i am sorry to here about your weight gain, must be frustrating when i went up 8lbs i dieted it back off, maybe if we set our scale and say if we get to that we will diet it off it will prevent us like, like me 57lbs i had to lose and i have only lost 26 since last Nov14th cuz i went off it in april for icecream etc...now my goal is 30 pounds by xmas, at least i  will try.

Meena where are you moving from again???  Torrens AU is this australia??

Yes, I am still in Australia.  I move back to the US in the new year.  I'm so nervous.  America changes so fast.  I lived in Europe for much of the 90's and when I went back home I couldn't pump gas because the pumps were all computerized and I'm not very smart..

I am having a hard time curtailing my food.  I'm so bad.  Yesterday I went to the movies and ate pop corn and a Kit Kat!!!  I have no right to complain about being a fatty but I do anyway.