Anybody wanna have a "Women over 40" forum or group????

I think we all have different concerns and certainly different challenges when it comes to getting in shape, losing weight and living happier and healthier. I know it is certainly different for me now then it was 20 years ago. When I look back to 20 and 30 years ago when I was in my 20's and 30's (yes I'm 51 yrs old), if I wanted/needed to lose weight, it was usually just a few pounds and now I see how it was pretty cut and dry - watch what I eat, more exercise, weight comes off, nice flat tummy again. And I do realize there are plenty of younger women who don't find it that easy, and believe me, I hear ya!! None of us like the shape we are in or we wouldn't be trying to fix ourselves!!

Anyway, I think there are issues like slower metabolism due to age, and then there are the good ole issues like hormone replacement therapy, maybe post-hysterectomy, and hey.....what about the belly problems due to having that bikini cut for c-sections or female surgery so many times your muscles are now like hamburger meat? Then things like medications we may take that make losing weight a little more difficult.......blood pressure meds, anti-depressants, things like that?

There are quite a few other things that I can think of that, luckily for them, just probably don't apply yet to the younger women.

Anybody wanna form a little 'ole over 40 forum or club????

Just got home from the first day at the school gym. It was fun. My friend and I were the only ones there besides the athletic director. It was like having a private gym. Can't wait to  go back again.

Meena next time you go to the movies take a protien bar or something along that line. It will help keep you from having the candy bar. Dont know what to tell you about the popcorn though cause I love movie popcorn.

Have a good day all!!!

DH & I went to the movies too! It had been so long that we bought the large drink/popcorn combo PLUS dh's Junior Mints (not debatable! lol) I felt absolutely sick by the time we left and we didn't even finish the popcorn. How stupid!

It was a bad eating weekend overall. Since it's a new month now I'm just going to 'start over' AGAIN. What else can I do?

Hi everyone!!!

I am so excited to hear from everyone...just like old times...lol.  We all have our goals to reach so let's do it RAH RAH!

Ro, what kind of surgery did your daughter have?  My 20 year old is getting ankle/foot surgery in Oct.  She has not given me a date yet and I have to drive to WA, which will take 13 hours so that I can take care of her.  Even with all the trouble she gives me she is still my baby and it is going to be great to be with her when she is drugged up...LOL.

Nancy,  Chris and I have both been so lucky to have found love after divorces and I know other people that have too.  Please, please be picky.  How many chances are you going to give this guy?  It has not been very long that you have been seeing him and twice he has really hurt you.  In a journal entry you remarked about some of the stuff he has said to you .....hurtful stuff Nancy for real and to any woman that would have been spoken too like that would agree.  You are not being sensitive.  Mental abuse is very subtle.....beware!!!!

Great Advice puppy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Beware of the be nice break up get him back have him leave you feel guilty routine. Sometimes the ones playing these games aren't even aware that they are. Its possibly a learned attitude. Been there done that and finally got smart and went so far away from the situation that I ran smack into the best guy in the whole world . Try opening a new door somewhere where he isnt and you might be suprised whats out there waiting for someone just like you. Raise up the expectations for yourself . Personally ,when I decided that I didnt want my life to be a bunch of drama all the time I saw people alot differently. I wanted calm ,comfortable, and well as Dr Phil would say "a soft place to fall". Life is to short to waste

sorry about the lecture

I'm going to leave you alone about that now, Nancy Lee. Hope you know it's just out of concern for you. You deserve to be happy.

I posted on here a week or so about my experiment with having a glass of red wine a day for health purposes (ok, I like it too!) Well, I give up. I had just 3 oz last night and awoke with the worst headache. DH did too. Maybe I'll get some grape juice, maybe I'll just not worry about it. Who wants an extra couple of years if you've got a headache the whole time!!! I think my tolerance for alcohol in general is just very low anymore. I was all pumped up to get up early and walk more today, too. :(

I did get something good in the mail yesterday. The sponsor of our health insurance is offering a $100 incentive to have preventative health screening done. Isn't that cool? I get my yearly mammogram and not only do they pay for it, but they pay ME $100! It's only for their members who are 50 by Dec. 31, 2008: I turn 50 on Dec 12. FINALLY a benefit!

Hi Everyone....I am new to this website.  I really love it because I am able to keep track of what I eat.  As far as the 40 forum, I am all for it.  I am 44 years old and very miserable because I can't lose weight like I use to.  I have tried so many different things, pills, diets and nothing seems to help.  As one of the other members mentioned, it was so easy to lose weight in my 20's and 30's but now it is just so hard.  I know I can do it, I just need to stay motivated and focused.  I work for a telecommunications company and sit all day looking at a computer, so I need to get some more exercise into my days.  I have even thought of the lap band, like everyone else around here are doing, but of course, I am chicken.  I will do it the old fashioned way, hard work and sweat. 

Everyone have a good day!

 

 

Welcome gt7885,

Losing weight in the 40s is not easy and it goes slowly but that is the healthiest way to do it.  Counting calories gets easy and it can be fun, like a puzzle.  Exercise can be a chore but once it is routine it is not so bad.  When you see results it is great motivation, just be patient.

Hi everyone first may i start by saying welcome to gt7885 and that is a very pretty picture of you!!  As Puppykisses says exercise and calorie counting really are the only way..i personally find i have to be consistent...if i cheat just once i spoiled that 1 lb i could have lost for the whole week!...I am 52 and it is harder for me to lose with a back disability and age...then when i was young..back then i had to eat lots to keep it on!!

PuppykissesKim: You're right i'm not desperate but the 2 C's you know communication and compromise come to mind when i talk to Rick, i am trying to get him out of my head and then he shows up on my screen in IM, so he is still interested...and so am i...one day at a time though...

Bethevan: I don't mind the advice at all....in fact although i don't always take it i do cherish the opinions as everyone on here knows.  I haven't been dating in quite awhile and i'm not even sure if it's head games or what??  So instead of beating my head against a wall trying to communicate i am just going to take one day at a time.....what else can i do i think i have analyized this relationship to death...there's just one thing i don't understand....how can Rick go from saying i like you to i love you to i like you within a matter of a couple weeks...????????

Chris: Honey there are lots of wines that won't give you a headache....your just picking the wrong red ones that's all...ask them at the store or do some online research...surely i have heard of ones with very little "tannins" which is what is giving you the headaches sweety...try online...hope this helps..i don't like to hear you are suffering like this....!!  One tip from the bartending course i took in 2002 the cabernets and chardonneys are worse....reislings are good...

Great news to end with my Dad and my older brother David are coming on the 13th just for the day....David is flying to Canada from Sanabel Island in Florida off the gulf coastal side for business and picking Dad up from Port Dover on Lake Erie border they both are driving up from there bringing the golf clubs up to give me and coming up for a visit...David is 66 on the 19th and the rich and book smart one in our family....but we were never close...never knew why we are going to bury the hatchet..not that there ever was one..competetive, jealousy on his part my mom said because i was close to mom and dad..and he always intimidated me just strange...but dad is 86 now and we aren't getting any younger so maybe my brother any I can finally act like a true brother and sister..i hope so......the 13th that's a week Saturday..they are only coming for a ouple hours or so, Kyles grandad and Uncle this is good, and Kyle has really grown since they saw him last wow....can't tell them about the trouble Kyles been in though....anyway girls have a good night!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That's wonderful that your dad and brother are going to visit! You're right, life's just too short. I hope it goes really well. I lost my dad to Alheimer's six years ago and I still miss him every day.

I finally had the courage to stand on the scale today.  Back down to 181.  I don't know where that 2.5 lbs came from last week but it threw me let me tell ya. 

I'm gearing up for my trip to America.  It happens to coincide with my grammer schools 100th anniversary celebration.  My brother and sisters want to go and they want me to go but (like I'm not stressed out enough) I get all teared up everytime I think of it.  I'm so fat and hideous.  I really don't want people, who were mostly pretty crappy to me, to see me like this.  Most of these people I have not seen since I joined the navy back in 90 or even since I left for University in 84.  Let me tell you that was a lot of pounds ago.

Do you think we could pile any more pressure on this trip???

Welcome GT.  That lap band is pretty serious stuff!  I think you are making a good choice not jumping into that.

Hey Blue, My parents live in Cape Coral.  That is very near Sanabel.  Does your brother live there all the time?  I hope you 2 can work out your differences.  It would be nice for you to have siblings you can talk to.

Yes meena My brother David lives there all year, a very large home with his wife, although they have been evacuated because of the hurricanes coming cuz he's right on the island, in any case we had a great visit, and he comes to Canada for business quite often owning his own "international care" company..he use to be the CEO but apparently he has bought the company, he also has a place in Toronto where he stays when he comes here on business, he's very rich now....anyway he works 80 hours weeks and is 66 years old says he doesn't want to retire for another 10 years..loves working....it's a company that builds, and hires all staff for senior citizen homes..maybe he'll save a suite for me when i get up there any perhaps unable to take care of myself and my back..lol.....his son Jeffrey my nephew will eventually take over the company in time. 

My cat Angel went nuts for David lying his head on his lap from the moment he got here, i thought i was the only one that animals gravitate to it was so cool to see Angel gravitate towards David, must be something in our genes..hahaha

It was a very nice visit, and my dad well he's 86 now and looking great, in fact we have all lost some weight off diets..we laughed about that...well they looked great, we exchanged addresses and emails, and will be keeping in touch, on his way out the door if he said "call me if there is anything you need, let me know", that was a first, anyway company has walked in have to run..bye fir now.

Oh by the way i am so happy to finally say I'm 169lbs on the scale.....it has been along time, since i saw anything in the 60's i thought the other day it was just gonna be for the one day but i have been 169 for 3 days nows so it's here to stay till i lose more....169 sounds so good yippee.....

bye for now to everyone..Lee

I am so happy about your visit with your family.  I am close to my parents and sister-in-law.  My brother and i love each other but it seems like we have nothing in common.  Last time I spoke with him on the phone the conversation was strained then we really started to loosen up then my phone started going dead.  We do better in person anyway.  I will be visiting my parents on the 26th because my mom is having rotator cuff surgery and I need to entertain my father in the waiting area.....he is such a little kid.

Meena if you do not want to go to the reunion then don't.  I do that to myself, getting all stressed when all you have to say is 'no I will be too busy, sorry can't do it'.  Looking for a house is very time and mind consuming that in itself will take up all your time.

Yes Meena, i agree with Puppykisses , don't force yourself to go to a reunion that is only going to make you feel uncomfortable...get someone there to get some pics you may look at after....my prayers are with you to have the strength to continue dieting.  Don't give up...it takes time, i know but when your done it's just managing the weight isn't it.....take care and enjoy your house hunting it's not a job think of it as an "adventure", it might even be fun.....

Hey puppykisses: How have you been?  Haven't heard very much from you, left a message in your journal, haven't written in mine in awhile, hahaha that will be my next stop...

Eveything is going good, still talking with Rick, relationship with brother David better since the meeting, and dad says i should call Maggie to try and get this stepmother relationship going again...she was the one who always stuck her nose in my business a scottish pushy b...., but that's behind us i just don't know i've tried several times to smooth things over.....what would i even say to get the ball rolling??

Anyway Rick and I are talking again, but he has been busy putting a new roof on his garage...haven't seen him lately but i think i will soon as he has time....we stil have to talk but all in good time...that's one thing i have lots of TIME...take care everyone!....HAPPY DIETING!

Chris: i see you are still hard at work, renovating.....will you ever be done i wonder...hehehe

Will my renovations ever be done...of course not! (finished the mudding the corners & started w textured paint last night. )

It's been a stormy morning here. Thunder and lightning throughout the night too. My sheltie was sure trying to give heck to whoever was making all that noise in the sky! Our rat terrior just wanted to climb up in my robe and hide.

The rain means I drove to work instead of walking. I'm not sure if it will clear up in time for lunch so that I can walk back after. I started the couch to 5K program on Friday and did the second installment this morning. It's only 20 minutes but it does make me feel good without getting all sore.

hello hello,Just got back from the gym. It is my 5th visit. I LOVE IT. I am up to 25 sit ups (morethen I have done in 20 years). I did 1 1/2 mile on the treadmill and 1 1/2 mile on the bike. Cant believe its only costing me 35.00 dollars a year. I have to say since I had my surgery this summer I have felt great.

Chris do I have renovation stories for you. We started a year ago on 2 bathrooms and the backporch. Well the little bathroom is so close to being done and I mudded and taped the backporch a few weeks back. Now everything is on hold again because of my daughters upcoming wedding. Now I will have to get motivated all over again. If you have any good tips for mudding and taping I could use a few. (we wont talk about the big bathroom).

Hope everyone is having a great time

Beth

Ug, finishing drywall is the worst. I was at it on and off for about 7 years in my last house. Then my 1st husband left and I had to sell it just as it was getting nice! My best advice is probably the same as you've seen on DIY, try not to put on more compound than you need and multiple layers are better than one or two thick ones. No real short cuts I'm afraid.

So where has everybody gone, Kyle got suspended from school already, behaviour, his mouth gets him in more trouble, making sexual comments to the girls, having trouble with his female math teacher, so they are putting him in an english class instead, well i have his teachers, resourse teachers, vice pricipal, me, his outreach YMCA worker and of course is Parole Officer all going to get together at school this week to figure out what we can do to help get him on track.  He was suppose to go to detention and said to the teacher i am not f..going to any detention....well his dad is coming today to see him alot of good that will do, he surely won't get any good advice from his irresponsible father, and Rick well he's working as usual and now he's taking on this firewood venture on top of it, says he'll call doesn't i have noticed he is not on yahoo personals anymore anyway, that's good, i keep telling him i don't like some of the things he's doing and then he calls to reassure me and then he does something else so i'm not even bothering to work it out anymore...men....doesn't seem to matter what i say he CONSTANTLY TAKES it the wrong way anyway....i need a vacation from life...hehhe

So now that i'm up to date hows life on here for everyone......where is everyone?????????

Nancy 

So where has everybody gone, Kyle got suspended from school already, behaviour, his mouth gets him in more trouble, making sexual comments to the girls, having trouble with his female math teacher, so they are putting him in an english class instead, well i have his teachers, resourse teachers, vice pricipal, me, his outreach YMCA worker and of course is Parole Officer all going to get together at aschol this week to figure out what we can do to help get him on track.  He was suppose to go to detention and said to the teacher i am not f..going to any detention....well his dad is coming today to see him alot of good that will do, he surely won't get any good advice from his irresponsible father, and Rick well he's working as usual and now he's taking on this firewood venture on top of it, says he'll call doesn't i have noticed he is not on yahoo personals anymore anyway, that's good, i keep telling him i don't like some of the things he's doing and then he calls to reassure me and then he does something else so i'm not even bothering to work it out anymore...men....doesn't seem to matter what i say he CONSTANTLY TAKES it the wrong way anyway....i need a vacation from life...hehhe

So now that i'm up to date hows life on here for everyone......where is everyone?????????

Nancy 

Good luck with your meeting.  It seems as though Kyle has quite the support system.  He will not understand that now in his life; with his teenage brain he probably thinks all these people are out to get him....that dang frontal lobe.  I hope the dad does understand the extent of Kyle's issues and does come up with some words of wisdom but since he does not see Kyle very often I sure Kyle will just poo poo his words.  Maybe you should have him stay with his dad for a night and you can have your mini-vacation at home: chick-flicks, popcorn and a small piece of chocolate and low-fat ice cream.

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Good luck with your meeting.  It seems as though Kyle has quite the support system.  He will not understand that now in his life; with his teenage brain he probably thinks all these people are out to get him....that dang frontal lobe.  I hope the dad does understand the extent of Kyle's issues and does come up with some words of wisdom but since he does not see Kyle very often I sure Kyle will just poo poo his words.  Maybe you should have him stay with his dad for a night and you can have your mini-vacation at home: chick-flicks, popcorn and a small piece of chocolate and low-fat ice cream.

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