does anyone else feel like this? closer to their goal and now becoming impatient...

(this post is for you Cantlose because I feel your pain)

 

I get so incredibly frustrated when the scale stays the same or goes up (and I am somewhat close to my goal weight of 125lbs... just 7.5lbs away).

My mini-goal of 130lbs is so close I can feel it and I just want to reach it NOW! Recently, I am getting very impatient... anxious too because as much as I know this is a journey and a lifestyle change (and I tell other CC-ers this too) ....

I want to say I have made it.

I want to celebrate.

I want to know what it feels like to be 125lbs again.

I want to find out if 125lbs is truly my happy place or if I can lose more weight.

I want to be able to wean myself off  of constant calorie counting and be able to comfortably maintain.

 

So yes, I am sounding like a brat right now but I know there have to be other people who feel the same.

How do you work around the impatience and frustration? What calms you down, makes you refocus and get your mind back on track?

The fact I can't do about one pullup and i'm dieing, where I used to be able to do 25 and then go run 5 miles. Tight clothing, pinching my fat. Stuffing myself with a lean chicken breast, a protein shake, fish oil capsuls and brown rice. I used to be able to fit into a small shirt, and you'd see muscles bulging out, now you see fat spilling out... Yea, I get frustrated, and down, and it gets harder the closer we get. But the end goal is worth it (Or so I tell myself)...

You and I are in the exact same boat!  Well close, anyway.

I'm at 129 now but it took me about 2 months to get from 133 to 129 (and before that, about a year to get from 185 to 133).  I want to be at 125, at which point I will decide if I should really go further or not.  I'm only 5'2, but I am muscular so I really don't think under 120 is a good idea for me.  Anyway, like you, I am excited to be at that weight.  And I know I'll get there eventually.  But sometimes when I see that scale STILL at the same weight I want to smash it. 

Anyway, for me, the best way to feel better about the whole situation is EXERCISE!  I love to run, it feels great (mentally and physically), and really helps me remember what the whole point of losing the weight in the first place was: my health! 

I so know! I am 124.2 today, which is like 7.8 pounds away from my goal weight of 117. I am so impatient! I have lost 7.2 pounds and I haven't been 124 in over a year I usually was always 126, then I moved down to california for school and gained a bunch and was 132. So I am so happy :] YAY ME! and then in the past 2 1/2 years I haven't been lower 118, my goal is 117.

omg I know. I'm not as close as you are but I'm definitely more than halfway and my weight loss has SLOWED. I'm so happy i've made significant changes in my body but I want to look my BEST. sometimes I feel like I'm never going to get there.. and my efforts are just not worth it!

but then I have to take a deep breath and think about it a little. one, I won't die if I don't lose the weight in x number of days. I tell myself that I will still get there EVENTUALLY. two, I have other things to worry about besides my body. I have school, family, friends, personal goals/projects and everything else. those are always the most important things to look after! And three, I can still enjoy all the things that I normally eat. I just have to make a few sacrifices SOMEWHERE. And even if I feel like those sacrifices are only making a tiny tiny difference... well, its a difference that wouldn't have happened otherwise!!

Hi Funky I thank you for feeling what I'm going through! I do have one "OLD GEEZER" of our normal group word of advise....Keep up with the weight that you really feel good about because when you get older it really is harder to shed the extra lbs and the exercising if you get out of shape is twice as hard to start over! TRUST ME! That's why this time I am determined to do it slow, right, and permanently! LOL 

Hey funky I was wondering how you were. It looks like where on the same page. I'm back at 5.8 pounds from my goal... It gets very difficult especially since I started CC actually lower (1.6 pounds) than where I am right now, but still... I continue. WHY?

Because: i'm in excellent shape/ i can do a spinning class without feeling dead at the end/ the other people at the gym tells me I have so much energy it encourages them to continue the class/ I go up the stairs and i'm not that out of breath/ I just bought a pair of jeans seven and they're 6 petite!!!/ even though I'm not at my perfect weight I look pretty good in the mirror/ my future husband tells me how beautiful I look everyday/in my wedding dress I looked stunning!

For all these reasons (and so many more) I continue even though it's hard, even when I would feel the need to eat 12362378347 chocolate bars in 20 minutes. I try to focus on the benefits I get from eating healthy (other than that f&%*%$$ number on the scale!)

Original Post by roylucie92:

For all these reasons (and so many more) I continue even though it's hard, even when I would feel the need to eat 12362378347 chocolate bars in 20 minutes. I try to focus on the benefits I get from eating healthy (other than that f&%*%$$ number on the scale!)

Damn straight Roylucie92 - that is exactly how I feel (regarding the scale and chocolate).

I think really what it comes down to, is reminding ourselves every now and then about the real purpose of why we are here... the benefits of eating *and living* healthy.

It seems like a lot of us have hit the same point in our journeys and now are in for the long-haul, battling to reach and/or maintain *that magic number* on the scale.

Thanks all for sharing how/why you keep plugging away towards your weight loss goals, it really helps to know 1) you aren't alone and 2) to hear what you already know from someone else.

I've heard repetition is the key to remembrance...

I am currently about 11 pounds away from my goal weight.  My start weight was 165 in September and Ihit  my current weight of 136 around the first of January.  I have not lost a pound since then and I am super frustrated.  I think my frustration comes from motivation.  I have lost my drive and motivation to continue losing the weight.  I get compliments on my hard work, and it makes me feel like I don't need to keep going.  I started my weight loss for myself, and I want to finish it for myself, but it is hard to stay motivated!  I have continued my healthy eating because I truly enjoy eating healthy, but I have slacked off on my exercise.

Original Post by averitia:

 I have lost my drive and motivation to continue losing the weight. I get compliments on my hard work, and it makes me feel like I don't need to keep going. I started my weight loss for myself, and I want to finish it for myself, but it is hard to stay motivated!

Averitia - that is what I think is happening to me too. Everyone compliments me on my weight loss thus far (about 17lbs lost since December) and that has definitely made me feel "comfortable" with where I am. Even at work (which is kind of awkward) I have colleagues telling me how great I look --- and then some push me to eat/not eat the goodies at our social happy hours. SIGH.

Just the other day a relative who hasn't seen me in a long time actually asked if I was sick.... because I looked so thin. But really, I am not that skinny - my face just tends to get skinny compared to the rest of me.

Since everyone has noticed I feel like the next 7.5lbs don't really matter because I don't think it will be an obvious difference BUT like you said, we are losing weight for ourselves so we should keep our promise to ourselves and keep going!

I think that's the hardest part about being so close to your goal: being tempted to give up b/c you feel and look good. But then I remember all those other times when I was at 135 or 130 and felt ok and did not go further and then without realizing it I was back at 145!

This time, I'm gonna make it all the way, 5.8 lbs is nothing compared to 37.2! LET'S GO GIRL!!!

Another thing: when you read other posts do you feel a bit jealous/envious at other people that don't seem to make as much sacrifices and still lose? I admit I do... does that make me a bad person?

When I get to that point I remind myself of how frustrated I was when I was stuck at 153 for 3 weeks straight. Then I think about how I don't even care about it now and how silly it was to get all upset over it. Right now I'm starting to see 149 on the scale every morning and it's got me totally pumped!!! My mini goal is 143 (started at 160.8), I am in that "SO CLOSE i can smell it state", and a bit anxious as well. But I know that if I keep eating right and doing everything I can short of popping pills to lose the weight, that yes, it will eventually come off!!

(Now I need to save this somewhere handy, so that when i am down I can give myself a heaping helping of myown advice!)

Original Post by roylucie92:

I think that's the hardest part about being so close to your goal: being tempted to give up b/c you feel and look good. But then I remember all those other times when I was at 135 or 130 and felt ok and did not go further and then without realizing it I was back at 145!

 

Another thing: when you read other posts do you feel a bit jealous/envious at other people that don't seem to make as much sacrifices and still lose? I admit I do... does that make me a bad person?

You must be my long lost twin Roylucie92!

You are definitely right about being tempted to settle. I think this is especially true for some people, like me, who even going from 132 down to 125 will not result in dropping a size.

I highly highly doubt I will ever be a size 4 (note: being a specific size is not a goal) but still... if going from 132lbs to 125 won't really "show" - then why do it? That is what I am struggling with right now.

But then again, once I hit the 120's I hope I will never let myself get to be up in the high 140s, 150s or 160s ever again. So maybe you are right - even though being so close to our goals and reaching our goals, we may not see much of a difference ---- being further away from our highest will only motivate us more to stay at our goal.

And no you are not a bad person -  I am right there with you on grinding my teeth/biting my tongue/slapping on a smile when other's don't actually have to work so gosh darn hard to lose the weight and especially when some don't even have to break a sweat! NOT FAIR. But who says life is? I think the harder we work to achieve something, the more we will appreciate it when we achieve it!

NOT FAIR. But who says life is? I think the harder we work to achieve something, the more we will appreciate it when we achieve it!

 Well said!!! But sometimes I wished it was all a bit easier! Anyway, today I went to Baton Rouge (kind of Ruby Tuesdays) with my boyfriend and I could not resist french fries (his...) After eating almost half of his fries, i felt so stupid but damn were they gooooooddd! Still, I'm within 1500 cals. I was thinking to go as low as 1400 cals a day (at least for one week) Have you tried lowering your calories to shock your body? My BMR is 1385 or so, so 1400 would not be starvation mode for me. What do you think?

Have a wonderful night and talk to you soon! good luck

1) gosh people tell me how hard it is for them to gain weight -_-'

2) my guy friends who have NO clue how hard it is to lose weight (healthy and continuously)

3) when i actually lost weight, people tell me "oh you've always been thin you look the same"

4) friends who are not on diet forcing me to eat

haha feel like i found a perfect group for me

I wish it was easier too... and I hope I can do this for the rest of my life. Honestly, how do women do it? Work, raise a family, take care of the house, cook the meals and find time to take care of themselves? There are just not enough hours in the day!

Even though I know how caloric some items are, I wish I could just forget about it all and indulge! After a late night out at the bars, my bf and all the guys always want cheesesteaks... and of course, so do I! So I just take 1 bite of his and 1 fry from someone else and chew on it for as long as I can. But sometimes, I just want the whole thing without feeling guilty!

In my opinion though, as long as you stay within your calorie range, then every now and then it is OK to splurge and have those yummy fries! (Imagine, I used to eat my fries and line them with mayo... what on earth was I thinking?!? I learned that one in France.)

My BMR is approx. 1450, so I have my limit at 1400... but usually I go over to 1500. On non workout days I eat less, around 1300 and on the days I sleep in very late (til 1pm) I usually only manage to eat 1000. Essentially what I do is calorie cycle, I don't have the same calorie intake day-in and day-out, which is fine for me. Because sometimes (especially if I don't log until the following morning) I go over without knowing it, so I can easily make up for it the next day.

The way I shock my body is to take off from exercising for 1 week and eat whatever I feel like .... keeping in mind my goal is 1400. On the last day, usually a Sunday, I let myself eat almost 2000 calories and then the next day I go back down to 1400 and kick my butt back into shape with an intense cardio regime, and then I switch up my cardio all week and go back to eating between 1300-1500. It usually works for me. Because even though I ate 2000 calories of food, it is not enough for me to gain weight. I just spend those 2000 wisely - pasta, bread (yes, I am a carb-aholic), ice cream, chocolate, cheese, and a few veggies to make myself feel better.

 

SO this weekend my BF and I are going to this Italian restaurant in South Philly that my cousin (he is in his 40's, grew up in Philly) always drives to when he comes to visit us. If he is willing to drive that far, it has to be worth it! I have looked over the menu and I know the wiser choices, but I just don't know if I will have the will power..... what if I want the bread dipped in olive oil, the mozzarella capresse, the mussels and calamari, the bolognese or puttanesca sauce on rigatoni and of course, wine and tiramisu???

I am seriously contemplating eating nothing by salad and raw veggies until dinner.... that way I can indulge. Is that bad?

 

And a rant.... more of why I am getting impatient and frustated:

- my family (especially my mom, who is over weight) telling me I am too skinny and not to lose anymore weight - AHHHHH

- restaurants that don't have nutritional info listed (and of those that do, they only list it for a handful of items)

 

Gianhui - I agree 100% with your 4th item.... people pushing food at you when you have clearly stated you dont want to eat, then making a huge fuss about your eating habits.

 

OR even worse - people commenting about your eating habits behind your back and saying you have an ED because of the weight you lost and your newer healthier eating habits.... that really hurts. It happened to me a few weeks ago and I felt devastated and shocked that a "friend" would go to my other friends saying something like that. Needless to say, he is no longer a friend. I will not tolerate people who don't know didly squat assuming I have an ED. SO RUDE.

I completely understand. I am small to begin with, so I was just looking to lose 10 pounds. It is so hard!

I grew up in a house where everyone ate whenever and whatever they wanted, so now limited the calories and making sure i eat healthy is so hard for me.

YES. It's maddening. I feel like my body is giggling every time I step on the scale.

Wow am so glad that there are other people who think the same as me!!

I too am so close now and its getting annoying that im not there yet! Started at 185 in december and am at 170 my goal is 164 - 154lbs. So am quite a bit heavier than others posted in here but the principles the same lol.

Averitia said about people complimenting makes you feel like you dont need to keep loosing and so are comfortable where you are now- i can completely relate.

So girls we're all in the same boat at the mo it would seem. Good luck to everyone!! I know its easier said than done but- everytime you get tempted to give up or stuff your face with 1000000s of chocolate bars then just think of all the people who posted in here and ofc how close you are and how far you've come.

xx