Is there anyone else out there?

I feel like i'm constantly reading posts from people who have 20 or 30 pounds to lose. I know that all weight no matter how much you have is hard to do, but i have 170 lbs to lose. I don't think that people who have 20 or 30 lbs to lose can quite understand the hopelessness that someone like me can feel knowing that i will have to be doing this for the next 2-3 years. What you guys measure in months i'm measuring in years. I've lost about 20 lbs so far but i have not seen many results from that because 20 lbs on me is like one pinky.

I'm feeling like i'm the only one out here who has such a long road ahead of her and it's really starting to frustrate me knowing i'm going to be this hungry for this long. I'm not saying that i want to go off the diet, because i'm committed to it but i'm just feeling alone.

I also have 2 health conditions that make losing weight harder for me. I "might" have pcos (polycystic ovary syndrome), i say "might" because i can't get a doctor to diagnose me because i don't have all the symptoms (no cysts when they checked) but i do have some (i.e. infertile, fat, no cycles) of them. I also have hypothyroid. I just recently (within the last 3 months) gotten the doseage right for this condition so that should help, and i do credit that for being able to lose the 20 lbs so far. But my dr. said that i've probably been living with it for several years, in other words when my weight spiraled out of control even when i tried to do everything to lose it.

I was just wondering if i'm the only one out here who feels so all alone in this and if i'm the only one who has such a long road ahead.

Sorry for the babbling.. just stressed out!

I started at 120 pounds to lose. I'm now down to 92 pounds to go. I still don't see a difference although I can fit a few pairs of pants which were too small for me before. 28 pounds just isn't a lot to lose when you start out at 260 pounds. No one has noticed my weight loss yet. I also have pcos. I do know where you're coming from and you are not alone. My goal is to be 140 but it's hard when you see people who are 140 talking about wanting to be 120 here.

Hi obsidyan. Twenty pounds, suuuuuuuuuuuuper.
You are at the right place here for people to listen to you "babbling". That comes from the queen of babbling.
I don't think you are alone with needing/Wanting to lose that amount off weight. I see it this way, you just one off them who made the BIG step of talking about it. There is most likely plenty off them just not brave enough -YET- to speak up.
I hope you will feel comfortable enough to keep coming back.
Gabi

I would just like to say something for those of us who do have smaller amounts to lose, that we feel your struggle. I do hope you find others with a longer road ahead, so that you can keep each other company along the way.

But I'd also like to say, that ALL of us plan on eating this way for the rest of our lives---healthy, lowfat, high protein, nutritious food. So, in a way, we are right there with you. We are all going to struggle with that maintenance level, now matter how soon or how far away our goal is.

I'm glad you have had your thyroid problem treated. You will have to give your body time to adjust to that, as well as to a new way of eating. A lot of posts here emphasize that you do NOT have to be hungry---and if you are really getting enough protein and whole grain carbs, you won't. Stay away from the refined sugar and flour products. Keep on working on your daily percentages--using that analysis tool, and let us know if you are still hungry.

I think that 20 lbs is a lot. if you think about it that's over 10% of you goal...I understand that you might not noticed it physically on you, I mean pants size and I know it is frustrating. But did you feel any difference in your exercise routine or can walk longer before you get out of breath? I am sure your body and heart like to carry less 20 lbs now. Maybe try to focus your mind on smaller step at a time, say this month I want to loose 8 lbs, this week I want to be walking a mile over my limits and so on... That way you don?t really think about how long is going to take you overall to reach your goal. And it will be rewarding for you to succeed in these little step and keep you motivated?I have read in a book (by Christopher Williams, M.D. obstetrician) that woman with PCOS should try a high protein, low carb diet. I have no idea if that is true but you might want to check it out. good luck!

Hello Obsidyan, I have 2 years to go. Just joiined today. I have tried all kinda diets and herbs. Nothing really helped. I have been type 1 diabetic since I was 6, now going on 40. Dr says its ur diabetes, ur insulin and ur other meds slow the progress. I am tired of hearing it but now tired of wearing some of my hubbys clothes. I'm here with u for the long road ahead. My hubby needs to lose and he just doesnt care so that doesn't make it any easier for me. We work part of the week away from home, 4 days in a motel. Eatting on the run is real bad for dieting........

You will hear me babbling and begging for help soon.........

Joyce

Fantastic! You see, obsidyan, that didn't take long at all. Now you have a really great partner in your quest! I think you are both going to love it here.

i know 20 lbs is alot for some.. but someone who is over 300 lbs 20 lbs does not make much of a difference. Yes i see and feel changes but i'm talking about that all important thing of other people noticing. I am in this for myself but i still have skinny people glaring and commenting about my weight. People with less to lose do not understand that. No one knows but a very over weight person what it is like to be commented about and glared at. but that is a different topic one that should be called "understanding". I just want to shout tht i'm doing something about it and quit starring!!!

OK.. rant over

We are all losing one pound at a time and we have that in common. I'm at 208 right now and having health problems that have slowed me down, so I'm not losing. Soon I'll be better and able to move and lose again. I expect it to take me at least 60 weeks to lose 60 pounds.

We all have our own challenges and the people here are the most caring and supportive group you'll find anywhere. We're going to be here for a long time!

As for the unkind people out there - they will always be mean and ugly inside but you will be thin one day, and you are already beautiful.

Obsydian, First of all... congratulations on the 20lb wieght loss... you are not the only one!! I have 80lbs to lose and it is going to be long road ahead also... I am also having some female problems that need to be diagnosed (have to go in for Laproscopy) I want you to know that you ar not definitely not alone. you can add me as a friend ?? Let me know if I can add you? You can babble anytime!!!

Hey, I started at 320lbs. I am at 304 now. I have about 164lbs to go. So yes I know exactly what your feeling. The struggle is for me to stay eating right and to not lose hope. I have lost 16lbs so far but there is no change in my clothes or the way I feel. I do believe that I will wake up someday --soon I hope--- and I will feel and look different. So until that day I just keep taking it one day at a time.


Food is an addiction just like drugs so you have to learn to live with it and use it properly. We have to eat so we can't just give up food, but if you work at this like an addict works on their drug problem
---taking one day at a time and learning how to overcome your addiction to bad eating habits----you will overcome your weight problems.

Godd Luck! I believe in you. We are all here for support no matter how much we need to lose. Sometimes 20lbs can be harder to lose than the 150lbs.((((HUGS)))))) to everyone!!!

Lisa

me, AGAIN, for all the people who glare at you, me dopple, since I'm overweight and disabled, I bought a shirt: You laught because I'm different, I LAUGH because your ugly.

We had a thread like this earlier, and found that there are quite a few people on these forums that have more than the 20-30 lbs to loose.

Myself, I'm trying for between 55 - 75 lb loss.

I know there feels like there is a difference between those with "small" weight loss goals and those with "large" weight loss goals.... when I first got here and someone said "I need to loose 10 lbs" I never felt like giving them any advice.... I felt like what can someone who has 75 lbs to loose really contribute to someone who only has 10 lbs to loose.

I felt like I was more of a failure than those who had less to loose because I'd obviously let myself go more than they had. There may have even been some jealousy....

But that's really passed now.... I've come to realize that we are all on the same journey..... the person who has 10 lbs to loose, if they loose the 10 lbs and then don't take care of themselves will have 20 lbs to loose this time next year, so on and so forth.

I've also learned that the 10 lbs that I loose at my weight will be much harder to loose once I'm coming up on my last 10 lbs to loose, so while I'm celebrating a 2 lbs loss one week someone with only 10 lbs to loose may have to be happy with a 0.2 lb loss in a week.

However much you have to loose we are all on a journey to a healthier lifestyle..... and now I honestly couldn't tell you who I remember as the one's with higher numbers than others are.... I'm so inspired by each and everyone of these wonderful people.

I totally understand that everyone has a hard time losing weight no matter how much they have to lose. However, my point is people who are seriously over weight have different experiences in society. My whole life i've had people make fun of me and say nasty and mean things to me as if humiliating me is OK because i'm fat (which of course made me eat more because it hurt me and how else was i supposed to deal with that haha). Emotionally it is much different to have to deal with society if you weigh this much. I find that i relate better with people who are very large like me because smaller people disregard me because obviously i'm not a good person and larger people can understand the struggle.

I am working very hard at this and I have not lost hope or anything like that. I'm still eating 1200 calories a day and exercising every other day and that is not going to change. I still do get hungry quite a bit but you all have to remember that i've been eating TONS for years and years and i'm still getting used to this change.

I just wondered if there was anyone else out there who has been treated like crap for a long time because of their weight issues and is sick of it like me because i just feel the need to talk about it with someone who can understand where i'm coming from.

I'm not saying that people who have smaller amounts to lose have it easier, in fact i know that their smaller amounts are harder to lose than my huge numbers. I'm just saying that super large women come from a different place socially and emotionally and i really wanted to talk to someone who understands.

Anyone can add me to their friends list.. doesn't matter to me.. but i'm not sure how that works so bear with me. :)

Obsidyan,

Congrats on your 20 lbs. I am very happy that you are making a step such as this. You may not feel like you want to feel for quite some while from now. Just keep in mind that one day you will be your goal weight, and you can do it. Don't let those females who do what they do to you make you feel down. I know it can be rather discouraging sometimes. But just remember to keep your head up, and when you reach your goal you can go back to those gals that use to treat you the way they did, and say... boo ya, look at me now.

just want to say, obsidyan, that to add someone to your friends list, just click on their name, and you will see their profile, and at the top is a place to click to add to your friends list.

Hi obsidyan,

I've had the looks and comments. THey hurt, I know. I'm sorry.
((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))))))) xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo. Don't internalize it. It will only make you miserable. read the post 2/3/06 on motivation entitled I didnt know what to say.

I remembered the advice my dad gave us kids growing up. "Karen, he said,Be an actor...Not a reactor. You'll never be happy if all you do is react. Life is a choice CHOOSE to be happy."

don't give anyone amunition when you feel hurt. smile and go on.

I have more than 150 lbs to loose. It didn't go on over night, it ain't comin off overnight. You are on the right track, eating healthy, and exercising.

I'll add you to my frieds list.

Love and encouragement to you

Karen

PLEEEEEZ! please don't feel so isolated! When I read your post..I just wanted to grab you and give you a hug hug! I, too, though I had a thyroid problem last year due to my gaining 38 pounds in one and half years. But low and behold, not!! I am prettty healthy but odds are against me too! Family hereditary illnesses...YUK!!!
I TRULY beleive your meds and the NOT KNOWING about your thyroid ...did contributs to your weight flucuation.....But never loose hope and try to see just day to day. Sometimes the LONG road is to hard to see or to focus on.....Enjoy each day!
I am not sure how old you are, but I have struggled with 25-30 puonds extra my whole life! It is not going to win and your weight in becoming your control now! You will see big and wonderful changes in your health, weight, your mind, and your freinds here in this community!
I am hoping that you will allow yourself to be who ever and feel whatever on this site...we are all here to help you and one another too! NEVER GIVE UP.....I BELEIVE YOU ARE WAY STRONGER THAN THAT! After all, you are HERE NOW!!! :)

My sister has PCS which is surprising since she is skinny as a rail and has four kids. But it apparently runs in our family which puts me at high risk too. She underwent surgery not too long ago to have the larger cysts removed that were giving her trouble. We were all grateful that it wasn't cancer.

The most I weighed was 265 lbs. I went on weight watches and dropped down to 235 lbs. Then I tried the Six week body makeover and went down to 165 lbs but gained back and was back up to 204 lbs which was what I started at this time. I'd like to weigh 138 which was what I weighed in college and I was comfortable at that weight.

After I dropped a lot of the weight, I noticed my cycles became more regular. You might notice that too when you lose more of the weight.

Congratulations on what you've lost so far. If you make this a lifetime change in eating habits and excercise instead of just a diet then you'll be able to stick with it. I know this time around I'm not going back to where I was.

Good luck to you.

photocrazee - I just wanted to say hello - My son is type 1 also & he was just diagnosed in September. To be diagnosed at 6 years of age must have been such a challenge for you growing up! I know what my son goes through and he's almost 19!
I bet the testing etc. has come a long way since you were diagnosed! Do you use a pump?
Linda - nice to meet you :)
make a profile and I'll add you to my friends list!

Hi Obsidian,
While I don't have quite as much to lose as you do, I certainly have more than 20lbs to drop. I'm looking at around 70 to 80 if I can do it. I too suffere from PCOS. So between the diet woes and the infertility that I may or may not be suffering from I hear you. Some days the motivation is really hard to muster. It's supposed to be that much harder to lose the weight if you have PCOS, so the fact you've dropped 20lbs is a great start. I can't wait to say I've been able to acheive the same. Drop me a line any time you want to chat (see my profile) and add me to your friends list.