Hey there I was just wondering if there was anyone else out there that is mad 'cause they fell off the wagon?
I am, if I would have just stuck with it in Jan. 08 I could have been down 30-40lb by now. So here I am almost 5 months into 2008 still at the same weight I started starting over. I'm going to dust off my boots and climb back on anyone with me?
Been there, done that.
Want my advice?
Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again.
Forgive yourself for falling off the wagon, and hop back on starting now.
It does absolutely no good to be angry at yourself for what happened, or didn't happen in the past.
I've actually dealt with 3 plateaus in the past year, (since april 2007) and have lost 35lbs since april 2007. I still have 35lbs to go, so I know the frustrations you're experiencing. :)
Good luck!!!
hey cjeka thank you. I know what ya mean. I'm ready to press forward:)
You sound just like me. In Jan I lost 12 lbs..buy March i had gained 7 back. It is so hard. I broke my leg last year and gained 15 then stopped smoking and gained 25 more...I have nothing that fits. I know I can do it but it is so hard to stay on track. But on April 7th the dr gave me a big scare....my chols. is 3 times what they want it at. I have been good since then...only 3 weeks but it is a start. YOu can do it....and i can to...all my friends and family tell me if I can quit smoking (since Oct 12) I can do this....I love my sweets...but I have been to 2 major events (one a cake decorating event) and left the sweets alone. I have decided to stay off the scales also every week I am weighing every 2 weeks...that way I dont get discouraged. That really seems to help. Good luck remember to take it one hour at a time....
I have a radical idea that may help.
Give up the idea of there being a wagon to fall from. Think ONLY in terms of daily steps taken now. What are you willing to do right now with eating? Then when it comes up again, what are you willing to do NOW? Etc. You begin again with every choice point. Dont regret the past or look to the future. Just focus on eating now. ANd then make your choices mindfully, consciously. Eat consciously. Eat nutritious foods (mostly A and B foods) that you enjoy and stop when you are full. Do someting active that you enjoy every day. You will lose weight without struggle, pain or sacrifice. You will enjoy eating and life again without addiction patterns that made you fat in the first place. You will track your eating and activity and be surprised at how your body knows what to do when you stop interfering with its natural rhythms.
Just a thought
I'm totally there with you. I lost 25 pounds from Nov. to Jan. Now, I've been stuck here since. I keep gaining and losing the same 2 pounds, but that's it. I still want to lose another 15-20 pounds, and I keep putting it off until "tomorrow". At this rate, I'm afraid I'll end up gaining everything back. I'm ready to get back into it, and stop feeling so crappy every morning that I wake up and think, "What did I eat last night?!?!?!"
I totally agree that getting mad isn't worth the effort. I decided, thanks to my first bad cholesterol test ever, to just change my eating. For the first time since I'm 8 years old, which is almost 40 years ago, I'm not on a diet. I am in an evolving pattern of life. Sounds flowery, but it means eat whatever I want but maintain around 1300 calories a day. If I want the 300 calories of candy, I'll eat it, but I remind myself I'll be sorry later. That usually does it. But I've been eating ice cream sometimes, chocolate, birthday cake and whatever. I go to the gym 4-5 times a week, and since January I have lost those 30 pounds you talk about. I still have 70 to go, but I set small goals for myself. Break it up into 5% of your bodyweight at a time.
Last Friday I was out of control angry inside and I ate french fries for dinner then went to DQ after and ate a 700 calorie sundae. I annoyed myself then said, you know what? I enjoyed those things. I can't eat them every day, but once in a while isn't going to kill me. And that week at my diet club, I weighed in the same weight. So it goes.
So while changing your head set is harder than dieting itself sometimes, I think it's the way to go.
Good luck! This site has been a great help to me. The sense of community is awesome and folks are very supportive. And I will now get off the soapbox! lol
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