Does anyone else have this problem with their parents? And if so how do you manage with it?

Me and my boyfriend are going to my mums for the bank holiday weekend, going over there Saturday night till Monday night.. Now because my brother, sister, dad and mum all live in the same house and dont eat healthy there is ALWAYS cakes, dougnuts, chocolates, pastries, crisps, pizzas, ice-cream, pizza, chips, garlic bread.. you name it... Now ive already spoken to mum and shes got pizza in for me and craig for Saturday night  what do i do?

The main problem I have is that they dont take 'no'/'could I have something else' or 'can I just have half?' for an answer and if i say any of them things they get offended and reply with 'well why dont you want it?' / 'whats the matter?' / 'we got this specially for you!' .. and in the end i feel so guilty that I eat it and feel so cr*p afterwards... Plus i've just lost 10lbs in the past 4 weeks and really dont want to put any of that back on, and every time I go over there I always tend to put 3/4lbs on and I hate it!

Does anyone else have this problem with their parents? and if so how do you manage with it?

Okay- firstly- relax! Its one night. If shes got it in especially then eat 1-2 slices- just compensate somewhere else? Try & get your Mum somewhere & explain to her that you're trying to get healthy and you'd appreciate her support- if she's good at using emotional blackmail its time to return the favour! Go to the grocery store & get some bits for yourself to show you're serious, and if she says something like 'Oh, is our food not good enough', than reply that you don't want to put them out and would rather get things you prefer? Good luck?

Bring a salad or something else healthy to go with the pizza. Limit your self on the amount of pizza. Drink a huge amount of water. Remove the pizza from in front of you or share it  with some else at the table.

I have taken junk from people just to shut them up! Then I take it to the nearest trash can and throw it away!

I have had people try to do this to me. Not my parents but friends. I don't get it! If they care about me why do they do this?

You can be stearn and polite and say that you really are full and don't want this.

My parents also live on quite a dodgy diet and my solution is to just stick to smallish amounts and grin and bear it.  It means I usually finish the weekend feeling a) starving, b) bloated and c) hallucinating about getting my hands on some vegetables.  But, bottom line, they're family and I enjoy spending time with them even if the cuisine isn't up to much!!

If it's any encouragement my parents are starting to change their attitude because they are getting old and starting to think about their health more.  Your parents probably haven't got to that stage yet but one day after a doctor has told them they need blood pressure pills or statins they might think again about the doughnuts and pastries! (I'm guessing they're not stick-thin either...)

When they come to stay with you, push the boat out on the healthy meals.   Who knows... you may get a couple of converts!

My mom used to push breads, greasy leftovers, treats, and cakes on me, or call me every night and say "lets go to a restaurant". Finally, I said "You know I'm trying very hard to resist temptation. I want to change things to make my life better, to be healthier, and to feel better about my body. You know I'm doing this with my doctor and I'm not hurting anyone or asking for special treatment. Why don't you respect that? What you're doing is going against my efforts and that hurts."

A little guilt goes a long way. A year later, SHE has joined CC and has lost at least 20 lbs. She's much better at respecting my decision and letting the issue drop when I decline.

*sigh* except this week: olive bread, five red potatoes, and a loaf of lemon poppyseed cake on Monday. She was offended that I wouldn't take it home. I was offended that she'd buy it knowing she wouldn't eat such high-calorie foods then say "these will make me fat - YOU eat it"... We haven't spoken since.

yelling "oh man! I'm STUFFED" works great in my experience. if their response is "hmm. you've hardly eaten anything" just say "yeah... that's weird. but really, I can't eat another bite... so full!"

Full is something everyone understands :-) That way, you can only eat half.

The beauty about pizza is that it makes a great leftover, so even if you don't finish it all: It's not the end of the world.

I agree with above posters, throw together a homemade salad to go with the pizza and have a big helping of that.  By the time you get to the pizza you'll be full after one slice, and one slice won't hurt you.  In fact take an opportunity after dinner to go for a nice walk with your boyfriend.  You'll feel a lot better afterward.

Also, offer to make dinner or some other meal this weekend.  This way you can throw together something healthy that you can enjoy guilt free, and if throughout the weekend they try to get you to eat something else unhealthy, say that you have to finish the leftovers from the meal you made.

You could say you've gone vegan! as long as you dont mind never eating meat or dairy around them again!

I just tell people i dont eat wheat or dairy and it gets me away from most junk food :)

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Maybe instead of saying "mum I'm on diet" you could say "mum, I'm trying to eat more fruit and vegetables, and I am really trying to eat a good portion of vegetables with every meal. This salad would go really well with pizza - let me get the ingredients and make it".

That way you could have a small portion of pizza and a large salad, which is a perfectly acceptable meal, and some of your enthusiasm might rub off on your family without making it a big deal.

my ONLY tried and tested method is saying no, NOt eatng the things and refusing to feel guilty - it is not you who is the problem, it is the person that tries to force you do something you do not want. i have had BIg problems with family doing this to me, and it took aged to stop it (key thing being actually NOT eating something you said you would not eat-if you end up eating it they might as well think that they can get away with it).

do not eat what you do not want to eat

the world will not collapse.

yes they might be offended. my family would not speak to me for some time, after i refused some of their fatty, buttery fried things (they of course did not last long, and now they say i have a good will power hehehe). they might be horrible to you. 

do you value your weight loss and comfort more than a feeling thtah someone is glad you are eating their ice cream? if the answer is yes, just do not eat the ice cream.