anyone have mean relatives/

my grandmother told me im obese?????(see looks at me like im morbidly obese!!!!)

im like overweight....(20-30 lbs)...

but still this hurts big time lol

im not asking or sympathy i would just like to hear if youve dealt with the same thing

A lot of grandmothers are genetically programmed to be blunt.   Mine certainly was.  I think, because they've been alive a long time, they understand there's no point beating around the bush!!!  If she was just being nasty for the sake of it you'd have cause for complaint.  But as she's pointing out the truth (if your BMI is over 30 you are clinically defined as obese) then she's probably doing you a favour... even if it doesn't feel that way.

Over time, I learned to appreciate my grandmother's directness and she was a very good sounding board on subjects that friends might shy away from for fear of upsetting me.  She died a few years ago and I can't tell you how much I miss the candour! 

my uncle talks so me as if im clinicly sick and constantly remarks that im too skinny and look terrible. he also tries to force food into my mouth (like physically tried to shove chocolate in once).

i have a healthy bmi of 19, and am definetely not sick

My mum's permanently telling me that I need to lose a bit of weight, but my BMI is 21-22...

And my nan's the same, I'm completely with you... The thing is as well, the second you lose weight, you can be almost certain she'll start telling you you've gone 'too far' and that you're not looking after yourself properly... grandparents, eh? =P

exactly!!!!!!!!

ill loose the weight and its like u shudnt be starving ur self and ur looking sickl eat more pizza!!!!! wat!!!

Well since you are trying to lose weight it might be better to have a grandma like that. My grandma is the sweetest lady on earth and the best cook too so having her for a grandma is not conducive to weight loss. You should just tell your Grandma, "Yes I am overweight, and I'm trying to lose weight, you can help by encouraging me!!!"

But my meanest relatives are my immediate family, they call me fat and then tease me about "going on a diet"

How about the family members that say...

"I don't know why you are working so hard to lose it...  You will only gain it back.  It's in the genes.  You will always be fat."

That just makes me more determined to prove them wrong.

I don't have mean relatives, but I do have aunts and uncles who are constantly on weight watchers or another weight loss plan, except they don't follow it at all, or 'cheat' all the time.  I'm not judging them - they are adults and can do whatever they want, and I don't say anything, but I keep wondering if I'll be like them one day.. diabetes and high blood pressure run on my dad's side of the family, and I'm paranoid about cheating on my diet..

When I was 10, my grandmother told me that if I gained any weight, she would disown me. Nice. And every time my cousin and I go see our grandfather, he tells us that we are too young to be so fat (I'm 27 & a size 10 and he's been overweight for as long as I've been alive). Ugh.

Yeah, I have an uncle that would come over and first thing out of his mouth was what a big butt I had (I was 16) and later on as an adult, he would come over and say "I keep forgetting how BIG you are".  My sister used to say mean things to me as a teen about the cellulite on the back of my legs and how "gross" it was and also that she had overheard above Uncle make above comment and that "its true, you know", etc..

My Mom has taken to making  backhanded comments that are somewhat disguised as encouragement.  The other day she mentioned that she saw a jacket in my closet with tags on it and she was wondering if she could have it.  She tried it on but it was too big for her.  I don't know why she thought it would fit her anyway.  So making the assumption that it did NOT fit me, she says "Well, you know give it time, it will fit you one of these days".  Oh man, did I ask for this? 

And then there is family friend Inez. about 90 years old.  I was visiting her in her home and she offered me some candy and I declined and she volunteers "Yeah, your Mamma says you're getting so big she doesn't know what to do about you but she can't say anything to you".  Now how am I supposed to react to that?  I can forgive a 90 year old for the comment but not for Mom smack talking behind my back.

Original Post by misericordia:

Well since you are trying to lose weight it might be better to have a grandma like that. My grandma is the sweetest lady on earth and the best cook too so having her for a grandma is not conducive to weight loss. You should just tell your Grandma, "Yes I am overweight, and I'm trying to lose weight, you can help by encouraging me!!!"

But my meanest relatives are my immediate family, they call me fat and then tease me about "going on a diet"

 yeah well she isnt like that ... she tells me im fat after she just bought me something to eat wether its a hamburger or a pizza sometimes i think she is being nice and gives me like a candy or something (small portion!!!!!!!) and right after i eat it its like "i dont know why you eat so much junk food your alredy too fat"

so its not that she is just tellling me the truth, its like shes trying to mess with me!

I HAVE EVIL RELATIVES! D:
My aunt has stoled(sp?) money from my father, and took furniture and items from my grandma who passed away 8 years ago. She just took ALL OF IT and gave some stuff to us my aunt didn't want. >_<
 My uncle has (my aunt's husband) is also "evil", my father was supposed to own a farm area and my aunt and uncle just took it and my uncle built a house where we were supposed to be. ITS PURE EVIL!
 They also stole money from our great aunt and uncle who passed away.
 Also, when I was at school their daughter (who is 1 year younger than me) just passed by me and covered her face like she was trying to hide from me, I feel so sad because we used to be best friends. It sucks. D:

I dislike them very much! >___<

Ohhh..yeah, when I used to go over to my aunts (I was chubby then) she wouldn't give me the same dinner as them because she said I would get even fatter..that made me cry.

xxx Ali

awww! that is mean!

=(

Yer i never really tell my parents when i decide to start going on a diet. My mum has told me i have a fat tummy! but she dosen't say to much about it, she just sez i get it from her and i can't help it, but its not true!! she is overweight and she dosen't try and loose it she never exercises and sez its coz shes tierd after work, but she dosen't get me eating healthily!!

After shes sed i'm fat she goes nd takes me a cafe and buys me a cake, and although i could easily say no it will hurt her feelings!! so i just try going food shoping with her adding more fruit in the shopping bags and taking cakes out!

I also want to become vegetarian coz i don't like the idea of eating meat, it is cruelty to animals!! but my mum just sez i can't coz it would make her life harder!!!

When I had finally gotten the courage to not wear my large shirts and a slightly more fitting one, my aunt told me I had gained some weight. It was a complete crusher. I'm not overweight but I could stand to lose 10 lbs or so and tone up. But I find now that I welcome bad comments because it only motivates me. I stopped exercising for two months after the summer and was going completely downhill until one of my family friends admired my sister for being tall and skinny and told her that she'd need to find a model for a husband and then she looked at me and said "anyone will work for her!"

I got so angry that I went home and just got back into the swing of things. I've lost a few inches around my legs and chest and there is no better feeling!

I'm sorry to hear that. I experienced the same thing with my mom.

I was at 145, and I'm only 5 feet tall so that's a lot, and I was always getting comments from her abour my weight. I had always been a big girl.

And then I got tired of it and in six months I dropped down to 115. I was a size four and really happy and it felt like she had finally accepted me. Then I was on birth control for my acne and had gained 35 pounds. I'm now back up to around 145, 150. I've been really emotional and upset, and she always says "You were too skinny then. It was gross" but yet, she called me gorgeous everyday and looks at old pictures and says how beautiful I was.

The only person I really get acceptance from is my boyfriend, who met me when I was at 115 and now that I'm at 150, he doesn't even care. We've been together for a year and two months and he's my only support system.

Original Post by shnizzlicious:

I'm sorry to hear that. I experienced the same thing with my mom.

I was at 145, and I'm only 5 feet tall so that's a lot, and I was always getting comments from her abour my weight. I had always been a big girl.

And then I got tired of it and in six months I dropped down to 115. I was a size four and really happy and it felt like she had finally accepted me. Then I was on birth control for my acne and had gained 35 pounds. I'm now back up to around 145, 150. I've been really emotional and upset, and she always says "You were too skinny then. It was gross" but yet, she called me gorgeous everyday and looks at old pictures and says how beautiful I was.

The only person I really get acceptance from is my boyfriend, who met me when I was at 115 and now that I'm at 150, he doesn't even care. We've been together for a year and two months and he's my only support system.

 i can relate the only person who can make me feel better and that doesnt judge me is my boyfriend.

i remeber the worst comment i probly got wuz frum my grandmother lol

"boys dont like fat girls and the way your getting the only way you will be able to move is by rolling around... and the only clothes you will be able to wear is a sheet with a hole in it where your heead will be...."(yeah she told me this when i was probably like 6, i was only a chubby cheeked kid, not even over weight .. can u imagine how i felt! my grandma is pure evil!!!!!!!!)

alicandra, im sorry your mums an idiot, my bmi 21 and my mum reckons i could do with adding more weight.

i started out overweight and EVERYONE was like, your fat, look weight, put down that cookie. stuff those biatches they gave me an eating disorder. BOO!....ED SUCK!!!

be strong minded and love yourself :)

i do

when i was underweight i was always getting bad comments and looks also, its like what do they want!

now im healthy 'i can get away with eating junk' err NO im healthy because i dont over-eat, i comfortably eat in moderation stop pressuring me!

people's opinions can go to hell, it depends, do you feel overweight and out of breath easy, are you always cold, skeletal + tired. only you or more primarily your doctor should tell yoy whether your over or under weight. if your maintaining, do you feel happy and healthy, eat without stress, diet or plan, dont feel deprived because thats when there a problem. healthy relationships with food always work :)

DEFINATLEY!

i was gunna get my belly button pierced and my brother says dont you have to have a flat stomach first. i didnt eat for 2 weeks. i hated it. my family always picks out my fat but if i get to skinny they start calling me aneroxic. its like theres never a balance! so i know what you mean you just wish you had a body you and everyone else could be happy with.

hahah im 25, it doesnt get better

I get a lot of "cutting out carbs is the only way to lose weight.  Why arent you eating more cookies"

wtf people

Original Post by davefiredancer19:

hahah im 25, it doesnt get better

 

I get a lot of "cutting out carbs is the only way to lose weight.  Why arent you eating more cookies"

wtf people

 Wouldn't people on low-carb diets know that cookies are carbohydrates?