Anyone have a successful pregnancy after miscarriage?

Hi Everyone!

A few months ago I lost my baby at 11w 5days and was wondering if anyone has had a successful pregnancy after a miscarriage. It's so hard right now. I would be due right after Christmas..and all I think about is my baby. I feel as if it wont ever happen for me.The day I lost my baby I still had all my preg symptoms which was really weird. They told me the heart had just stopped beating after seeing a strong one. They never found anything wrong with the baby.I had to have a D&C. I just thought by hearing about any successful preg would be helpful!:) I also had very bad morning sickness. It never went away. I actually lost 50 lbs from it!! The nurses never took it seriously every time I called. I'm trying to get into a healthy weight before trying again..not sure if that would make a difference or not but it's worth a shot!

Not me personally, but my close friend lost her baby at 18wks. It was her second pregnancy, and she has since gone on to have another son, and is now 17wks with her third! Another had hormone treatment to have her first son, but lost her second child at 14wks. She is due again next month. And yet another lost her 2nd baby at 13wks, but is currently 6mths pregnant. It will happen. Its hard when you have unsympathetic medical assistance, but you will get there.

Not me either but my mom was pregnant 9 times and miscarried most of them and had one stillborn @ 37 weeks, had my sister when she was 20 and had all of those miscarrages between her and me, she had me when she was 30.

My sister has two children 6 & 8 she also had a still born @ 30 weeks b4 both of her children.

So my whole life (im only 23 lol) I thought for sure I was gonna have a hard time carring (and I might) But I had my son when I was 21 no complications.

So as hard as it must be just have to remind your self that everything does happen for a reason and maybe somewhere there was a blessing.

Good luck to you!

I'm so sorry for your loss.

My mom had a miscarriage before she had me without fertility treatments. My friend's mom had seven miscarriages before she had two healthy babies, also without fertility treatments.

Miscarriages aren't necessarily a problem with you or your fertility- a fetus will be miscarried if there's something wrong with it, which could be due to any number of things that are unrelated to you.

I had one baby - healthy, beautiful, no complications.  I miscarried early in my second pregnancy.  Went on to have a second child - healthy, beautiful, no complications.

I remember not trusting my body after the miscarriage - wondering if it was the start of further trouble.  But it wasn't.  I know you are sad.  I'm sorry for your pain.  But trust your body.  Most likely everything will be fine the next time. Good luck and God bless.

I'm so sorry you lost your baby......

My daughter lost her first baby and had to have a D&C too. She mourned the baby for months and the day that would have been her due date was very difficult. She has had two problem free pregnancies since and has a three year old boy and a 15 month old girl. She was so afraid when she got pregnant the second time but all went well. 

Emily makes a great point about miscarriages......

Good luck with your next pregnancy, I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

I had to surgically terminate my first pregnancy because it was outside the uterus, outside the tube and was lodged between the tube and my intestine. How this happens, don't ask me because to this day I don't fully understand it. I do understand the pain and the loss, however. And I'm sorry for yours.

I've had two healthy children since then, my youngest was born when I was 38 years old. So to answer your question, it is very possilbe to have a healthy baby after a miscarriage. My one suggestion is that you give yourself the time to heal mentally and physically before the next pregnancy.

Oh, and another thing that no one has said yet. My husband was sorry about the loss and the miscarriage. He was worried about me. But he didn't really understand the full degree of pain because he hadn't yet grasped the fact that inside me there was a baby. Heck, he didn't really grasp it until he held our son in his arms. As women, we tend to connect right away with the "baby" inside of us. Your partner may be much more empathetic than my husband, but don't be surprised if you hang onto the loss longer or more deeply than your partner does. And if this happens, please know that it is normal and ok. You just need time.

My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage at about 11 weeks, and it was the most painful thing I've ever experienced both emotionally and physically.  The embryo just stopped developing - just stopped.  My doctor said there was no way to really know why, but there was no indication that it was because there was something "wrong" with me - sometimes there are just abnormalities.  For a little bit of time afterward, I found myself being very jealous, almost resentful even, towards pregnant women walking around with their swollen bellies.

My doctor later theorized that it may have been due to a progesterone imbalance, so when I got pregnant the second time, I was way nervous.  After the initial lab tests I was calling her office twice a day to confirm if there were any hormone problems.  I didn't trust my body, and second guessed everything I did that could possibly "screw things up" - I once accidentally drank regular caffienated ice tea and I freaked out.  Turns out I was fine, and now my oldest son is 8, and my next pregnancy resulted in his brother who will be 6 in December.

I know it's not much of a consolation, but miscarriages are more common than most people think.  It doesn't mean anything is wrong with you, or that you did anything wrong.  If this is the first time you've been pregnant, there's no reason at this point to assume anything bad about your future. 

I truly feel for your loss.  Best wishes for your future!

I had a tubal pregnancy in June of 2007.  They ended up taking one of my tubes...I didn't think it was going to ever be able to have a baby again...but God must have had other plans for me because that following May 2008 I found out that I was pregnant.  I am due December 26th...so very excited!

So yes I do believe it is possible to have a healthy pregnancy even after a miscarriage.  Sometimes when you try to hard...it doesn't happen but when you relax and just take it one day at a time....poof!  Your knocked up!

My sis K and my co-worker A also experienced miscarriages around the same time you did. Sister K now has two little boys, and co-worker A is expecting her second boy. She'll be due next spring.

My Maternal grandmother had a miscarriage in between each child. Four in all. My mom was born 7 weeks early, and was baptized 3 times because they thought she wasn't going to make it.

I can empathize with your feelings of lost and emptyness. It does get easier, but the stress and worry won't help if you want to try for another baby. Talk to your doc about grief counseling, or post partum treatment. Right this very second, you should be selfish and concentrate on you and your significant other. He's probably feeling the loss as well.

I'm so sorry for your loss.  I had a miscarriage with a D&C at 12 weeks, and I was horribly sad.  A year later my first child was born, followed by twins!

Miscarriages are so common, much more than I had realized.   Most moms I know lost a pregnancy somewhere along the line.  It's not because we did something wrong, just that the baby was not healthy enough to survive.

You're doing the best thing, reaching out for support to people who understand your sadness.  My husband was kind to me, but he didn't feel grief the way I did; so I had to speak with other women who had gone through the experience.

Good luck.

Hi Heartwillforever.....

Let me start by saying, I am so sorry.....My heart broke when I read your post.  This happened to me with my third pregnancy.  I miscarried at 13 weeks and it was by far the most devastating thing to happen to our family.  We had made it a "family pregnancy".  My other two children took turns on a daily basis "giving the baby his/her vitamin".  (My prenatal).

I also had to have a D & C and then sent home to mourn the loss of our baby.  Like Scarappo posted, I was utterly crushed.  The bond had been formed with the positive result of the pregnancy test and then had 13 weeks to grow.  It was horrible.

BUT.......We started trying right away with our Dr.'s ok and 6 months later became pregnant with our two year old.....(although each and every month until then was a waiting game.)  My pregnancy was picture perfect so yes, it does and WILL happen.  Sometimes God has bigger and better plans for the baby's he takes from us.  We talk about our "angel baby" ALL THE TIME.  And although I will forever mourn our baby, I know God is holding him/her until we can meet again......Take care...things do get easier. 

I'm so sorry for your loss.  I believe that it will get easier and that you can go on to have a healthy child.  There was some reason that that first child was just not meant to come into this world.  Frustrating, because there seems no rhyme or reason to it, but I belive it to be true.

My mom had a miscarriage before me and was told that she and my father would likely never have kids.  And, here I am- defying the odds!  So even if the doctors tell you differently, don't give up hope.

Also, if it's of any interest to you, my father wrote a book on miscarriage and coping after what he and my mom went through.  I was just reissued after being out of print for a long time.  Maybe it would help?
http://www.amazon.com/Miscarriage-Coping-Diff erent-Kind-Death/dp/0981484328/ref=sr_1_11?ie =UTF8&s=books&qid=1225561203&sr=8 -11

Be well and stay strong.

Original Post by santonacci:

I know it's not much of a consolation, but miscarriages are more common than most people think.  It doesn't mean anything is wrong with you, or that you did anything wrong.  If this is the first time you've been pregnant, there's no reason at this point to assume anything bad about your future. 

  ^ This is something you should be sure to remind yourself. Everyone has different circumstances. Sometimes there isn't a reason you can blame yourself. I honestly think that would be easier in some cases. To have an exact reason so you could remorse over your fault ( or mistake.) Some women feel a lot of guilt and self blame but it's not their fault a lot of times. It wasn't a result of a mistake on their behalf. It's nothing they did or didn't do.
I hope you have someone close to you that reminds you of that.

I know several women that have miscarried. Women that went on to have beautiful healthy babies. There is one story I'd like to share with you though. My sister had a healthy baby boy even though the doctors told her she wouldn't be able to carry a baby. She was diagnosed with cancer at age two and beat it. She'd been told her whole life she'd never have a baby. Even growing up to keep her grounded because the doctors said it wasn't possible.They told her it was a risk to her own life to abort when she found out she was pregnant. That it was a miracle in itself that she was alive. The doctor told her that she had too much faith. She had so much chemotherapy, radiation, and surgery her risks were exceedingly high she'd die giving birth. She decided to kept the baby and he was perfectly healthy. She had a difficult time carrying the baby, but it was all so minor in comparison to her chances of risks. At the age of two years old her baby was diagnosed with the same kind of cancer she was diagnosed. They say she's the oldest living wilms tumor survivor. They told her the same thing they'd told my mother about her. We'll do everything that we can, but be prepared for the worst. They gave her son six months to a year. She didn't give up she continued to keep faith as did my mother. Her son is now seventeen years old. It was a hard battle but they won.They each only have one kindey, major scars, and went through a lot of pain. Some people have to endure pain before they're given miracles that heal them. Please, keep faith even though it hurts.

 Be hopeful.

Dear Heartwillforever,

My heart goes out to you honey.  I lost a child in the 7th month.  It was devisating and I morn that child still.  That was about 27 years ago. I don't know that the pain ever goes away, but with time you'll find you think of it less often and without falling apart or waking up crying in the middle of the night.   I survived the pain and went on to have a beautiful healthy baby girl who is now 25.  Most miscarrages happen in the first 3 months.  Many, many women have had successful pregnancies after miscarriages.  The doctor and nurses you use make all the difference.  If yours won't listen to you or dismiss your feelings or symptons GET RID OF THEM!  There a alot of caring baby doctors out there!  Don't give up until you find one you like!  There are support groups available to parents who have lost their children.  Your doctor or the hosiptal maternity ward should be able to give you the information for a group in your area.  It may help you get past this difficult time.  Hang in there.  I'll be praying for you. 

I'm so sorry for your loss, heartwillforever...as you can see, you're not alone!

I had my first child when I was 21, then over the following 6 years, had 3 miscarriages- one at 12 weeks, one at 8 weeks, and one only 4 days after my missed period (but I'd already had a positive pregn. test).

One doctor I had told me that they were common, and no investigation would go into it until I'd miscarried at least 3 times. I switched doctors, and when I got pregnant for the 4th time, she immediately put me on progesterone. It was a scary thing when I had to have an ultrasound at 8 weeks to see if my baby was still alive. In the end, not only was I able to carry my son to (almost) full term, I went on to have another baby 18 months later. They are now 5 1/2 and 4!

I really had begun to feel that I would never be able to have another child, yet my 5 1/2 y/o was born 11 months after my last miscarriage.

Feel free to PM me if you have any questions or just want to talk! :)

I am sorry to hear about this. It is a sad thing. I lost my identical twin girls at 23 1/2 weeks. My sack broke on one of the twins and we thought we might be able to save the other. Then her sack broke too. I know that she did not want to live without her sister and now they are two little angels in heaven. They don't know why it happened. I delivered them and we could not save them. I got to hold them and they died in my arms. Some days I am ok, and some days I feel like crawling into a hole and never coming out. I had three other children while this happened. At the time I just kept going for them. I would get up everyday with such a hole in my heart, but I would have to be strong for my children.

Then I got pregnant again and I was TERRIFIED. I packed on alot of weight with emotional eating and stress. Everything went great even though I was plagued with anxiety attacks and stress. Every little discomfort caused me extreme anxiety. However....everything went great and I delivered a healthy beautiful baby girl. I even had to be induced because we were at the due date! Good luck to you and never lose faith or hope.

Just like everyone else I wanted to let you know I am sorry for you loss. I had a miscarriage on my first pregnancy as well. I then went on to have two healthy pregnancies. I had a second miscarriage after the two healthy pregnancies and now 20 weeks pregnant after that. As you can see with all the posts, there is a lot of happy endings after a miscarriage.... all the best!!

Hi I wish I had good news for you. I had 2 consecutive miscarraiges. The first at 5.5 weeks which was natural. The 2nd, i got pregnant immediately after and lost that one too. I found out at my 9 week ultra sound that hte baby stopped growing after 6 weeks. i had to have a D&C. I'm still waiting for my period to show up from the surgery.  It's tough. I'm trying to lose some of the extra weight when I was pregnant and that I gained after the surgery for comfort.  =(  I'm so obsessed with getting pregnant that I was driving myself crazy.  I want to try on focus on being healthy instead.

Thanks for all the replies! It's good to know I'm not alone. I'm sorry for anyone else that's gone through this as well. It's good to know that I still have a good change at having a healthy pregnancy!

Hello!  Last year I had  2 miscarraiges...one at 10 weeks and the other at 12 weeks 2days (it was a girl).  I know how you feel!  It is hard.  Just not being able to have held them at least once to tell them you love them. 

I know that you will have a child when it's meant to happen.  I have 3 already and am expecting my fourth.  I am at 11 weeks but it's not easy.  Everyday is a struggle.  Every minute I wonder if something happened.  I want an ultrasound every week just to ease the stress.  I haven't told hardly anyone outside of family just in case.  but I am keeping hope alive as much as I can.  That's all I can do.  I rub my belly everychance I get.  And this time, I am taking it easy!  I am litterally off my feet at any chance.  I will sacrifice my  sanity & housework if it means this baby will stay strong for the nine months and thereafter!!  I don't care if I gain 100 pounds (well, maybe not that much)!!

I will keep you in my thoughts and don't give up!  Keep making yourself healthier and take prenatals to prepare your body for when your baby is ready to meet you!