Anyone wanting to get pregnant?

Hey. Not sure if there are others out there that are losing weight WHILE hoping to get pregnant. Thought I'd check.

It feels weird, knowing that once I do, I'll have to deal with gaining (or at least not losing) weight. Also, I know that this is probably messing with my cycles at least a bit and I hope it won't make things harder.

I'm 32 - I've had all 'my' kids at this point. Hubby actually got word from the doc that his SECOND vasectomy finally worked! LOL! Poor guy. But I'm in the process of becoming a surrogate so I just keep thinking that all of this will ultimately be good for the pregnancy, but difficult to hold onto.

But hey, it was IMPOSSIBLE to find nice plus sized maternity clothing so I'm looking forward to some cute little maternity items from 'normal' maternity stores!

Alas, I need to wait until I am done with school.

I'll be 34 or 35 when I start trying... It freaks me out sometimes, thinking I might be too late, but intellectually I know that the odds are on my side. I'm healthy, I come from a fertile family, and I know people who started their families in their mid-to-late thirties with no physical problems... But I also know a few people who couldn't conceive. And of course they have a disproportionate influence on my emotions...

I'm on my fourth icsi-ivf treatment this fall. Let's just say, I'm starting to get pretty desperate.......

omigod juma you're only 33. I really hope this works for you... (Although since it's ICSI, I'm guessing the problem is sperm quality?)

I've been trying for two years. Actually I was pregnant for three months last year. I'm 43, healthy as an ox, have had two children, no health issues, Docs say age makes it more difficult but not impossible, but this doesnt seem to be wanting to happen for me.

I'm hoping to get pregnant next year, it seems counter productive to be losing 50 pounds and then getting pregnant a few months after I reach my goal, but at least I'll be healthy! Good luck with the babies you guys!

Good luck guys!

Cat, my older sister was in a lot of the same situations as you - healthy, fertile family, 34, and she's had two little girls about 2 years apart with no problems.  Hopefully all will be well.  I know though, until you actually try, there is a lot of uncertainty.

Juma, what is icsi?  I have a friend that is on her 3rd or 4th IVF cycle and I REALLY hope she gets it.  She has been dealing with sperm quality issues.  I have another friend that is just about due with her 2nd baby after needing lots of drugs and IVF to get pregnant.  She did it though!  Good luck to you!

m3lody, I'm so sorry for your loss.  I've been there. I'll be sending you sticky vibes for that baby!

Lottie - I KNOW! I keep sending in my new weight to the fertility group I'm working with to update my papers for the intended parents. (Most parents want not obese people to carry their babies.)  I just hope that I can keep fit and healthy through the whole thing.

I have actually considered donating eggs after I have my children, I'm 27 so I have a little time. I come from a very fertile family, and my cousin used to work at a fertility clinic and the stories she told me would break my heart. I don't think I could carry someone else's child, but I know I could donate some healthy eggs! What you are doing is very brave Robynanne, best of luck!

I am hoping to get prego next spring 2008.....

The whole (well big part of ) reason I am working so hard to lose weight so I can have a couple months at a skinny weight wearing my cute clothes before I start the cycle all over again! (I have a little girl who will be one next month).

I hope all of you ladies can conceive and have healthy babies!

p.s. do any of you have opinions on the spacing of your children and what you felt worked best?

Oooh good question cmama! I'd like to know too. Is it best to lose the weight from your first baby before you have a second?

Lottie, I was going to donate eggs, but I got pregnant first, so I couldn't then.  For this though, I'm not donating the eggs, just the uterus.  The baby won't genetically be mine at all.

Joni, I have A LOT of opinions on that! LOL!  First, when I was young and just starting my family, I believed that having kids close was best.  I was 4 years from both my sisters, younger and older, and I hated it.  I vowed that I would have 'irish' twins if not real twins.  Well, then I had Gavin and thought anyone that had a baby and a toddler at the same time was insane.  SO, we waited a bit.  By the time we were ready to try again, Gavin was almost 3 and I was stressing that that was the same 4 years that I thought was too much, so we started trying to adopt a toddler.  Well, that didn't work out so we waited for my cycle to end so we could try getting pregnant again but the cycle never ended because I had accidentally gotten pregnant while trying to adopt.  SO, we thought it would be a little less then 4 years and I was bummed about that.  Then Anily died.  Then we couldn't get pregnant for 9 cycles.  Then I was expecting a baby pretty much right ON Gavin's 5th birthday.  By this time, the spacing bit wasn't the end all be all of family happiness - having a live baby was more important.  Also by this time, I had learned a very hard lesson in that you just don't always get to pick, no matter what you think. Still, on some level, I was very dissapointed.  We tried to get pregnant again pretty much as soon as we got home with Jessie but due to nursing I didn't start my cycles again until she was 14 months old.  SO, when she was 15 months old, we were due with Asher who is now 23 months younger then Jessie.  I have to say, I am very glad that I have seen siblings far apart in age AND siblings close in age.  Gavin is THE most awesome big brother that ever existed.  He totally dotes on his siblings and plays really well with them.  I don't like that I often feel that he is lonely since the younger two can't really relate to him with everything, but all in all, it is an awesome age gap.  Jessie and Asher are SO CUTE together!  Ash will pat Jessie's head and kiss her and she likes to help him with all sorts of things.  They follow each other around and mirror each other with everything.  Granted, sometimes the dissagreements escalate to fights, but for the most part, it is an awesome age gap.

We have what we have because that's what life threw us.  I love the age gaps though either way.  Remember, you will love your children and your family no matter what and it isn't worth stressing over the age thing because it isn't even always under your control.  The only thing I'd change is to have my Anily back.

Lottie - hehe!  Either way, you gotta lose it.  Actually, I found being pregnant and obese VERY tireing.  Everything ached.   I'm really hoping that being at a healthy weight and STAYING there during this next pregnancy will relieve me of a lot of the little aches and pains that go along with being 7-9 months pregnant.  Plus, like i said, maternity clothing looks LOADS better in the smaller sizes!

one of the reasons I really want to lose weight is so that I can be healthy and then get pregnant.  

Hey Avacadogrl, do you have a timeframe you are looking at?  3 of my babies were born in late May / early July timeframe so I got preggers with them all around late August / Early october timeframe.   Those were pretty good times to have my maternity leave in the summer.  It wasn't TOO hot to be 9 months along either.  The only drawback is the summer birthdays are hard to get people to attend and really hard to invite school friends to.

I am 32, I have been trying to get pregnant for the past 2 and a half years, and I've been counting calories since mid January. In june I'd lost 40 pounds, and I got pregnant (YAY!). I'm now trying to walk the line between eating enough and gaining weight for the baby, while not letting my own weight skyrocket.

Congrats GH!

gh-ontario- Congrats on your pregnancy!  :)

Thanks robyn and under!

I"m still here... I'm still counting... still trying to be healthy...

How far along are you GH?

I trying to lose weight to increase our chances of having a baby.  I am 31, soon to be 32 yrs old and have been married for 8 years now.  I am hoping to be to a good enough weight by next fall to start seriously trying.  For now I am seeing my doctor, taking the pill to regulate my cycles.  My husband was tested and he is great so its all on me now.  I have lost 95 lbs so far, but have a long long way to go. I want to lose another 75 before trying seriously.  That would put me at around 200lbs.  Which is still obese, but alot better than 371!  I wish all you ladies luck and happiness with your kids and efforts.  Its long and hard, but I know the reward will be worth it!

Congrats GH!

We've been trying for 3 years now- sperm issues.  I'm a healthy weight, but would still like to lose a few pounds before having to gain 30.  At 5'4",  30 lbs will be a pretty big deal physically and psychologically!  DH has started exercising and eating A LOT better so I am hoping that will have a positive effect.  We go to a specialist next month to see what to do next. 

I'm so excited for you guys getting to wear the cute maternity clothes!  How fun is that?! :)