Anyone who's 18+ and not had sex ?

Cos i haven't. Dont think the fact that I have been slightly overweight for my teens has exactly helped.
But theres just not been the opertunity to be honest! I'm not one of those people who loves going out friday n saturday nights though.

I've been mates with lots of guys but nothing more. Its kinda getting to me now as am 18 and would like someone to share things with.

Having sex isnt the biggest thing in the world i know but when your not getting any it sure feels like it is ! lol.

How could I get me a guy then? Any tips?? hehe 

Would really appriciate some feedback from others in the same situation/those who were etc.

xx

I'm twenty & a virgin.. I am waiting until I am married though...

Baker, what made you decide to wait ?

stop looking for a guy and you'll get one... honestly, the minute i decided to give on up looking for some and just be happy with myself i found the one.. so my advice would be to stop trying to find someone and let them find you.

I didn't lose my virginity until I was eighteen.  But to me, it wasn't a big deal.  My friends were all, "Just relax, have sex, get it done and over with, you'll feel better."  I wasn't like them, though, and waited until I found someone I was interested in, not someone who made me embarrassed.

Just hang in there.  It may seem like the biggest thing in the world to miss out on, but sex is just sex.  Makin' love is what it's all about, and that takes a lot of patience.

I'm 19 and a virgin for 2 reasons... the first is that any sex is going to be really bad anyway unless I'm with someone who actually cares enough about me to make it good (and especially not painful, the first time). The second is that I want my first time (and all times actually!) to be with someone who *I* really care about and is special to me. IMO if there is no emotional connection then you may as well masturbate.

So yeah. the "physical" and "emotional" parts have to both be there.

Well im not quiiiite happy with myself yet, lifeizsweet so maybe once i've sorted that it'll happen for me!

Cellulitedelight, i dont mind the waiting its just when friends are talking about boufriends etc i cant even comment and it sucks. Im hanging in there tho dont worry.

thanks xx

I was 19 before I got a bf and did it...I was very anti-social for a couple years, ended up meeting him when he randomly instant messaged me on Yahoo. It's pretty easy to find guys interested in you online I find lol (and yes they are normal).

Feanor, wow go you!! I so agree i mean im not looking for a guy just to have sex with them, i'm after a partner as well so to speak. But at the same time i do feel that i've missed out on something...

Vicereine, I've met people online before but never had the guts to meet them in real life.

Theres this guy whos 19 who i met on myspace. Turns out we both went to the same highschool and have some of the same mates! He is really sweet (not to mention gorgeous) and hes been really interested.
Maybe too interested though, really flirty etc and it kinda put me off cos i got embarrased!! So i didnt meet with him even though i wanted to and im sure it could have gone on to be something.

Maybe im too afraid, and thats why nothings happened for me yet.

i waited till i was 24... people place wayyy too much importance on sex.

I met my guy online, too.  ;)  I thought he was a wimpy little girl and wanted to pick on him, then he showed me his MySpace and he turned out to be a guy.  He still looked wimpy, so I invited him over to pick on him.

He just never went back home.

Lucy one of the problems at this age is that many of the guys are not looking for life partners. Lets get real, hehe. Maybe some are, but the majority are after sex!

And the girls that go out with them/have sex with lots of guys.. well, some people can enjoy it and that's fine. But it's not the kind of sex I'm looking for anyway... that's why I don't envy them. Even if I put myself out there I would not be able to enjoy it... short term (sexual) relationship after short term (sexual) relationship, you know?

I know that there is a lot of unspoken peer pressure to have a guy but be true to your own belief's and standards. There will be guys coming along! You have more time than you think.. and everything can change instantly at any point. ^^

I didnt say a life partner, im waaay to young for that. But if i have sex with a guy i want it to be with someone whos gunna be there in the morning kind of thing thats all i meant by a partner.

I dont think that there will be guys coming along though, sure doesnt feel like it.

girls, the only reason i know to wait for a commited relationship is that most young guys don't have a clue what they're doing.  unless you're prepared to put in the time to train him, it's not really worth the effort of getting out of your jeans ;)

Original Post by lucydawn:

Vicereine, I've met people online before but never had the guts to meet them in real life.

Theres this guy whos 19 who i met on myspace. Turns out we both went to the same highschool and have some of the same mates! He is really sweet (not to mention gorgeous) and hes been really interested.
Maybe too interested though, really flirty etc and it kinda put me off cos i got embarrased!! So i didnt meet with him even though i wanted to and im sure it could have gone on to be something.

Maybe im too afraid, and thats why nothings happened for me yet.

Meeting guys from online is no big deal if you do it right - bring a friend with you (if that makes you more comfy), meet in a public place, and do something that is easy to get out of like have a cup of coffee (that way if he's weird or you don't feel right for whatever reason you can leave).  Once you do it you will feel like it's no big deal (it as in meeting onliners - not it as in sex :) )

I've done it so many times I barely get nervous anymore...I used to get soooo anxious before meeting someone, then I'd barely talk lol. I even stayed with online friends in Europe (one is now my bf). I know some people think a movie is a bad date because you don't talk, but I actually found it easier to have some time being around them, you get more comfortable and then you can talk after the movie (and it gives a topic to talk about).

its not so much the fact that ive met him online its that i'll act an idiot or something. That he wont like me or i dont even know to be honest!

Like the suggestion of a film, never really thought of it like that but its a gd point!

xx

I understand that you didn't mean a lifelong partner but yeah.

I don't see a problem with meeting a guy online..(assuming you take all the proper precautions)

I'm 18 and a virgin although I'm staying one till marriage. Sometimes committed relationships fail and I just want it to be with the person that I know I truly love. I don't see how giving it out to other men will get me anywhere, in my opinion it takes all of the meaning out of it. I don't think its anything you should feel you've missed out on, thats like saying you feel like you've missed out on marriage, having kids, etc. Its all comes when its the right time, it shouldn't be something that you're trying to pursue.

I'm 18 and I haven't. I'm waiting for a guy that I connect with and could have fun with. If it were with a guy I didn't know very well, I'd probably laugh or something. (not very mature.. :P)

But yeah. I feel like sex is Mount Everest of the sexual world. You can climb it again and again and take a different path, but either way, you are just climbing it. So make the first time worth it. (did I just compare sex to a mountain..?)