Anyone willing to give me advice? (Women only plz)

How should a man intiate conversation with a woman, or should the woman initaite a conversation? I ask, because I have been single all my life, and college is a good opportunity to form a lasting relationship. I'm totally clueless about this subject so any insight you can give will be appreciated.

P.S. I am going to bed right now, its getting late, so dont expect any responses until tommorrow. TY. =)

Well, if you notice she's into something you are, or that you have similar interests, ask her what her thoughts are on whatever topic that might be. Just always remember to be yourself. The more honest and open you are about you (no pretenses), the more likely it is that IF she finds you interesting enough to befriend you to begin with, it sets some sort of solid foundation :) Like - don't pretend to like something if the girl is hot and she's interested in it; and to my personal experience, the more forceful a guy is in trying to force his attentions on a woman, the more likely he is to push her away. Subtlety is key! OK, good luck deciphering this one...women clearly think differently than men in general, so i hope you get it :D

As far as I know, there's no rule that says "who" should initiate conversation. Personally, I like it when people near me randomly start conversations about stuff (like, if we're waiting in line, about the service of the place, of the products (make recommendations), or even start off with the weather, or crack a funny about whatever is going on around us).

Then you just smile, stick out your hand and say, "Hi name is ____, nice to meet you".  

I'm in college also. It IS a great time to meet new people-- but don't shirk your work to do this. =P And bother girls when they are studying!

Either person can initiate the conversation. Obviously if there is a certain girl you like, and she doesn't even know it, you will have to be the one to do it.  If they are in a class of yours, even better-- you already have a ton of shared material to talk about. If not, ask her what classes she IS in. Asking questions is a great way to start a conversation, because they usually require an answer. =P

Don't stalk people.

Smile.

See if striking up a relaxed friendship first will get you anywhere. If not, at least you have another friend. 

hi! im a female college student, so i thought i'd be a good source for this.

either party can initiate conversation! but here's the tricky, vicious cyle that causes problems: lots of girls think that if a guy is interested, he will come to her, which is almost NEVER true! boys are so shy when it comes to a girl they're interested in! therefore, dont assume a  girl isn't interested if she's not talking to you! she might not be, true, but she also might be waiting for YOU to talk to HER! so annoying. so i always try to keep in mind that if a guy shows interest in me and initiates conversation with me, he's got courage, and thats a great trait!

ok, so now that we've established that you should initiate...if you want to talk to a girl but you arent sure what about, its really easy. just pick something you know about her, anything: if she's wearing a band shirt, say something about the band: if you like the same band great, if not, ask her why she does, lol. do you have the same class with her? pretend you forgot the assignment thats due next and ask her what it is, and if she was having trouble with it. ask her what year she is and if shes older, what professors you should avoid. if you are both freshman ask her how she likes the school so far, how she's getting along with her roomate, how far from home she is. if you see her in the cafeteria alot, suggest something that's really yummy that she should try or, more likely, something gross she should avoid. if she plays a sport ask how long shes been playing. ask her what her major is, why she chose it, if she likes it. you can also always ask about her weekend, past and future. where she's from, what are her favorite classes, how often she goes home, what shes doing over winter break. if she likes the food there (at school), if not where does she eat, if she has a kitchen, does she like to cook, if she has a work study job or off campus job, if shes seen any good movies lately, if she can suggest any...

 sorry that was kind of long but i just wanted to give you lots of options for different situations! just remember try not to get too personal (money, who her friends are, grades) the first time you talk to someone. and dont ever ask her out the first time you ever talk to her! good luck and if you need any more advice feel free to ask!!

Guys should start the conversation, or you will just end up waiting :)

I guess the best way to initiate conversation with a female would be to approach it the same way as you would with a guy.  We're all human.  Also, try not to think of college as "a convenient time to form a lasting relationship."  That puts an awful lot of weight on things that can make something akward even more so.  You'll meet people throughout your whole life.  And I read your bio page, you sound like you have alot of interests.  Talk about the things you're comfortable with.  If the person you're talking to is interesting in the same things as you, there might be potential. 

Hey, everybody's jittery the couple times... but have confidence.  Confidence is SEXY!

It's simple...You like some...You talk to them. From there possibly sparks fly!

I agree with youheartme. 

A major way of creating a comfort level for someone who doesnt know you is engaging in a nonthreatening converstaion of shared interest.  Pick up on something about them. 

Like I said Heart has great ideas so I would add to remember  to listen as well as talk.  Pick up on her comments and ask or comment futher on them rather then trying to direct the conversation because lets face it we all like to talk about what interest us which will increase her interest in the conversation.  

Also picking up on something she feels strongly on during this is a great way to find a shared belief or opinion that tends to bond individuals in a comman belief.  Throw in an honest compliment that is more of an acknowledgement then blatant flattery and especially not cliche. 

WOW! Thank you all for your advice, It should help me alot, at least i hope it will. Keep any suggestions you have coming, so I can build up my relationship starting repitiore. =)

This is written from the perspective of someone who graduated from college the year you were born!

If by "lasting relationship" you mean find someone to marry, I disagree that college is the right time for this. College is a time to date around, test your wings, learn what you like and don't like in a relationship, build your social confidence, and have fun.

With that said, my parents met in college. My dad and mom had a class together. My dad was shy, and he'd been watching her all semester long. She was going steady with someone else. They had just had an argument in the library, and my mom was angry. It was her birthday, and she wanted her boyfriend to take her home to her family and have birthday cake. As she was fuming because her boyfriend declined to go with her, my dad walked up and asked her if she had the class notes. My mom asked, "huh, what class?"

My dad explained that they'd been in the same english class all semester... my mom had never even noticed him. My mom then said, "Yes, I have the notes, but first, would you like to come home with me to have birthday cake, since it's my birthday?"

And my dad said yes!! Their first date was a week later on my dad's birthday! That was in May, and they were married in December of the same year. They've been happily married for 45 years.

Anyway... I looked at your photo, and you reminded me of a guy I dated my entire Junior year. He was very, very shy, but OH so cute! The tall, dark, silently mysterious kind.....

All sophomore year, we'd pass each other once a day as I was walking to class and he was walking back to his dorm. He'd smile at me. I'd smile back. This went on ALL YEAR LONG... sometimes I'd be brave and wink at him. We flirted like this without ever saying hi or Boo to each other... just smiling, winking, etc. i never felt stalked or anything - since we were passing each other. It was a delicious extended flirtation. He really got my curiousity up. I don't know why I never just stopped him and tried to talk to him - I think it was too fun to simply flirt with our eyes, and wonder when he would finally say hello to me.

Then at the beginning of Junior year, I was at a party and there he was! I still don't know if that was accidental, or maneuvered on his part. As we were introduced by a mutual friend, we both started laughing, since we already knew each other. We talked the entire party, and he walked me home, giving me a kiss on the cheek goodnight and asking for my phone number. He called the very next day to make a date - no putting me through a waiting and guessing game. Very gentlemanly. As I said, we went on to date for a whole year, until he graduated (he was one year ahead of me).

Nearly forgot to add: when he graduated, he asked me to marry him. I was definetly in love with him, but at that point in my life, I couldn't possibly imagine being married to anyone!!! I wanted to finish my degree first, start my career, etc. I wasn't thinking about marriage at all. So I said no, and while I thought I'd let him down gently, that was the end of it... I guess I hurt his feelings very badly, by saying no, because I've never heard from him again. I still wonder whatever happened to him.

'Sigh' what a nice story. I can only hope it happens like that, the relationship part, not the let down =P.

Dude, don't exclude the men from this question.  Seriously, get their perspective too.  Good men though, not jerks, make sure you know the difference before you take their advice.

start with a joke! be funny! even if its lame i'd give u points for trying to make me smile

 I suggest you watch the movie " Hitch. " There are wise tidbits in that movie that would give you some pointers. Even though it's basically a romantic comedy. Will Smith is just right on the money with his logic. Girls like it when you not only listen. But, you listen and then have something to contribute. Regardless if it's in disagreement with them. ( or not. ) Seriously though. Just watch that movie. =-P