Us Versus Them
The #1 biggest problem with dieters, as a whole, is our bad self-image. For many of us, who have been overweight our entire lives, we believe the world sees us as gargoyles, ugly and terrible.
In the end, no one can make you feel better about yourself but you, and you should know one thing: You are not alone. There are hundreds of thousands of people, on this site alone, who are dealing with the same problems as you are. Sometimes, the most important and perhaps even the only thing you need to start yourself off, is knowing that someone out there really cares for you - and this really is the case!
Make sure to set yourself up a support system. Talk to friends, family members, people who you know love you and want to see you succeed, and tell them what your plans are and what you need - that you're looking for someone who cares and wants you to succeed, and kick you in the tush to keep you going. Here on Calorie-Count, we have a marvelous online support system where hundreds of people are just like you and definitely understand what you are going through. Of course, having someone in your offline world who can stand by you makes this challenge even easier.
At this stage, I should discuss unsupportive people. There are a number of people who, purposely or no, act in a way that is unsupportive to your weight loss efforts. Hubbies who bring you chocolate, family members who make cruel comments, or utter strangers you meet. It's important to remember that many people react to weight loss out of jealousy and insecurity, and many of them secretly know they should be doing what you're doing. Some people you may be able to talk things out with and find peace. Some people you'll need to learn to actively ignore, and not let them get in between your health and you. Always remember, this is the right thing for you to be doing. Health is always a good goal.