Attraction....

So, I've been caught in a conundrum.   Since I was a very young age, I have been very aware that a "nice guy" has always been the best choice.  However, I have fallen for a sex-obsessed guy.  I don't know what to do.  I've never been attracted to a person in this way.  He is so attractive to me.  Any words of wisdom?  I know it can't possibly be true, but every spare minute is spent on this person.  He wants to marry me, but you can't marry simply on love and attraction, right?

I've been in this relationship before, it lasted a year and a half. I think I actually dragged out the last half just because the sex was so GOOD. But it was never meant to last.

How is your compatability with eachother? Do you two enjoy the same things, have the same views, and have a good relationship otherwise?

Sorry to pry, but what exactly do you mean by sex-obsessed? If he's only obsessed with having sex with you (as opposed to with other people also) I wouldn't say that means he's not a nice guy. If you can't marry for love, why are you marrying? I'd say that's the best reason to marry of them all.

Wait wait wait....liking sex makes you a not nice guy?!

Let me elaborate.  He's slept with quite a few women in the past.  He is an extremely outgoing person and definitely a flirt.  He is my best friend and says so himself, but he cheated on his girlfriend to be with me.  That concerns me.  I guess I've always gone with a safe bet in the past.  This time it is different.  I can't tear myself away though, I feel like a foolish child for going with my heart instead of my head.

Original Post by fallingstars27:

 but he cheated on his girlfriend to be with me. 

 And he will cheat on you when he finds someone he is more interested in (or when you start to bore him)... i mean... what kind of person cheats on the person they are with? If they lose interest, thats fine, it happens... at LEAST they could is end it and move on...

But, if you are having fun, go with it and use him as long as you want (then dump him like he would you when your bored). But, i really wouldnt get attached...thats just asking for trouble (because you KNOW he is the type that behaves like that...its not a question of "if"...its a question of "when").

Original Post by loriklorik:

Original Post by fallingstars27:

 but he cheated on his girlfriend to be with me. 

 And he will cheat on you when he finds someone he is more interested in (or when you start to bore him)... i mean... what kind of person cheats on the person they are with? If they lose interest, thats fine, it happens... at LEAST they could is end it and move on...

But, if you are having fun, go with it and use him as long as you want (then dump him like he would you when your bored). But, i really wouldnt get attached...thats just asking for trouble (because you KNOW he is the type that behaves like that...its not a question of "if"...its a question of "when").

 Hmmm....be careful!

I wonder how much easier my life would be if I could just use someone for sex....

I need to work on that.

There's a great thread on here recently about nice guys finishing last...

beware fallingstars...all that glitters is not gold.

Yeah he might be very attractive on the outside but if he cheated on someone to be with you, is he on the inside as well? He will most likely do it again.

You dont say how old you are? But please consider all things before you marry the guy!? Give it time, if your relationship develops, share interests and you feel you can trust him, then in time maybe...

But it sounds like it might just be better for your self esteem in the long run if you unhooked yourself now.

Original Post by jblarghp:

I wonder how much easier my life would be if I could just use someone for sex....

I need to work on that.

 practice makes perfect! :D

I was in the same sort of situation. The guy wanted me to marry him (or at least said he did) not only that, he would ask me during sex if he could get me pregnant.  I was 20ish at the time and he was 27ish, I guess he felt his biological clock was ticking.  Make sure it's for real before you consider marrying the guy. Try to look at the situation from somone else perspective, is it lust or love?  In my situation, I knew it was only sex becasue I couldn't really stand the guy, we had some common intrest and could get along well enough but after a day or so, my only thought was "get me the eff outta here".

Original Post by loriklorik:

Original Post by jblarghp:

I wonder how much easier my life would be if I could just use someone for sex....

I need to work on that.

 practice makes perfect! :D

 Plus the more practice you have the better chances you have of catching an STD or getting knocked up!!! Yay!

Original Post by jblarghp:

Original Post by loriklorik:

Original Post by jblarghp:

I wonder how much easier my life would be if I could just use someone for sex....

I need to work on that.

 practice makes perfect! :D

 Plus the more practice you have the better chances you have of catching an STD or getting knocked up!!! Yay!

 Details details!

Haha...you're crazy.