bad friends

so i just realised my so called best friends are not nice

i invited them over. i said they could bring their boyfriends but then of course their boyfriends bought other people who were really noisy and i dont even know as i've met them once.

i asked them to leave and they stood in my road making a lootttt of noise and then left beer cans in the road. it was horrible and i got so nervous and worried and they ignored me asking them to leave. i hate things like that and i feel awful for the noise they must've made for the neighbours. i wanted a nice night with my friends and a couple of boys and instead it got out of hand and was not a good evening at all

 so then after i asked the boys to leave my 'best friends' left as well leaving me on my own in my house for the night even though they were supposed to stay over as my mum went out for the evening. they all left and stayed at the boys houses.

they leave me out a lottt and make fun out of almost everything i say and do, so i'm not just being really over sensitive it's kind of and ongoing thing.

sorry to have a massive rant it's just nice to get it out and type it out. i think my friendship with them has pretty much fallen apart now

has anyone had similar things or had to make a new start with new friends?

i decided to go to a college with them and turn down a scholarship offer at a better one although i think if i wanted to i could still take up the scholarship. what should i do im so confused adviceee please?!?

You should DEFINITELY take up the scholarship. It's not worth changing yourself/your plans for anyone, especially for people who aren't even your friends!

I second the scholarship.  But no matter where you end up going, you will meet so many people and make many new friends and have many new opportunities.  You will find your groups, and be better for it.  It'll be okay!

i third the scholarship ;p

People who don't care about you should not be worth even spending time with. You'll definitely find better friends at the new college (hopefully the one with the scholarship!) who care about you and are more mature about your feelings.

Hope all goes well!

I had a similar experience in terms of being made fun of by my own buddies - back when I was about to graduate Highschool.  Instead of going to the same college as all of them - I went to the better one I got accepted into.

Today they are all working at retail stores or call center agents - and I am working overseas in Asia managing a BPO.

TAKE THE SCHOLARSHIP - you will make newer friends who will probably respect you a whole lot more in College and afterwards.

Just don't hold any grudges...4-5 years down the line - you might make contact with your old friends (who have probably matured)and laugh it up and stuff with them about old times or whatever good times you had.  That's what I do now with tools like Facebook or Friendster...

Anyways - go the better route for yourself not for others.

thankyou so much for the replies it's lovely having some support

uberman your experience has helped me a lot and i'm going to get in contact with the college this week about it all. it's so hard to decide but maybe i should just do it for myself and not just go the place for my friends when most of them i verrry much doubt i'll stay friends with. i need to be confident and just go for it! and i definitely won't hold grudges- i'm not going to talk about it with them as the friendship seems to be coming to an end without an argument which i would most definitely rather not have

thankyou again :)

You are going through the same thing my granddaughter is going through. She is afraid to not keep her so called friends, but realizes they are bad for her and her life plans.  She had a scholarship to a university and chose to stay in her hometown to attend community college for two years.

It si such a struggle for people at your time of life. It is like leaving the safety and comfort of what you've known. (Like leaving your mum-leaving the "nest").  You will learn that friends change throughout life, more than we ever think they will! If you have one or two really GOOD friends, hang on to them! My really GOOD friends didn't even come my way until I was in my late 40's, so don't despair!

I think your recognizing the fact that those friends are not good for you or to you is  positive step in your favor! Hang in there! You should probably make the choice to go to the better college and give yourself a chance to  a better life!

Sorry to "rant", but I wish my granddaughter would listen. She is really struggling with her friend issues!

Oh lord. Okay. Friends are important, but don't let them get in the way of your future. Of course you should take the scholarship! :) The reality is that college is much more important than other people... for now, focus on yourself and the life ahead of you.

The way I see it, friends are one of the only things in your life that you really control.
I mean, you can't choose your family, you can't really choose your co-workers, etc. But you CHOOSE your friends. & life's difficult enough without choosing bad people to share it with.

So my advice is to find better friends & take that scholarship. I took a full-ride to a school that my friends haven't even heard of- you just don't play around with your future like that.

take the scholarship.  get a fresh start!!!!!