So basically im fat

I feel like a beast. My mom said she was talking to my dad and he asked if i was still a vegetarian(they all think its stupid that im one) and she said yea and he said 'but she isnt even that skinny'. :( Yea im not, im fat, im a fatass, now i want to go barf! Cant anyone support me and be positive, i hate my life!

My parents say the same thing. I tried becoming a vegetarian when I was 15, but my dad was so against it because he didn't see it as part of who I am, but rather a ploy to lose weight (which was never my intention at the time). Now I am a vegetarian again, and I know that this time I'm doing it and sticking to it for myself, and not for my parents.

You can't choose your relatives, but you can choose your friends! And if they're the right kind of friends, they will support you.

fairydust, you're so tiny!!!

I'm not a vegetarian because I happily eat fish, but I feel for you.
I know so many people who gain weight becoming a vegetarian because they load up on carbs. I hate that people just assume if you're a vegetarian you're going to be stick thin.

You're very small though, your dad's crazy.

Your dad's nuts, and you are beautiful...and very thin.  That was a dumb thing for him to say.  

Sometimes our parents say the wrong stuff.. you are not the only victim out there!

Prove them wrong and show them how gorgeous you are! You are their child - they have no right to bring you down.

From your Nov 16th photo you don't look fat. And, the camera adds 10 pounds, so you are probably 10 pounds less fat than your Dad's comment made you feel :)

Thank you so much guys! You guys made me feel sooo much better! I was really upset after she told me that, not really so much at my dad, cause i know he didnt mean it in that way, he was having a personal convo with her and she told me. Also cause my little sister and my bf's fiance are both REALLY naturally skinny, long and lean so i get insecure, whereas im not, im more average, not skinny. But i dont understand why ppl assume that you become a veg. to lose weight. That is not at all why i became one and also protein is not fattening as far as im concerned, if anything some ppl eat more carbs so im really confused about why ppl think that. Anyway i feel much better to know other ppl can relate, or atleast a little bit.

i'm guessing your dad might have meant skinny, as in that stereotype that vegetarians get sickly looking and malnourished.  you look very slim, healthy and beautiful. most definately not fat or beast in any way shape or form!

i think skinny to most older people means "too thin" and is not something you want to aspire to being called!

You are certainly not fat. Slim, slender, and glowing, yes. Not fat at all.

I should add, though - I realise you may have been just joking, but insinuations of vomiting and purging can be offensive to people that really do struggle with it. Not saying you intended any harm by it but just to let you know for the future, okay?

I'm with the folks saying you look pretty darn slim in your photo. I can't imagine you could be THAT much bigger only a month later...

That being said, people equating vegetarianism/veganism with being thin is just stupid. It's all about the amount of calories you eat, not whether or not the calories came from an animal or not. I used to have a friend who was a morbidly obese vegan, and her girlfriend was a tiny skinny vegan. Go figure. One of them gorged on junky vegan food all day long, the other one ate sensibly.

I also have friends who eat meat and are skinny. I eat it and am fairly slim now.

Nothing wrong at all with being a vegetarian. It's ethical and kind to the earth. It does pose extra challenges for getting adequate nutrition, but if you are up to the challenge, good for you.

Original Post by fairydust125:

I feel like a beast. My mom said she was talking to my dad and he asked if i was still a vegetarian(they all think its stupid that im one) and she said yea and he said 'but she isnt even that skinny'. :( Yea im not, im fat, im a fatass, now i want to go barf! Cant anyone support me and be positive, i hate my life!

OMG Fairydust dont beat yourself up like that! Your so beautiful!!!  And you look pretty skinny to me!!!

YOU. ARE. SKINNY. i had the same thing happen to me! [only i am much bigger than you..so it was appropriate to say]

at college, the lady who works behind the counter in the dining hall knows i am a vegetarian and so she asked me if i eat ANY meat at all and im like..no..so then shes like "but youre not skinny"..i was in such shock..it was really uncalled for. but yeah, it sucks when people say things about your beliefs and whatnot. just try not to let it get to you. you look amazing and you are saving the planet while doing it! :D

Lets face it. Dads just do not know the right thing to say (which would be nothing!) when it comes to their kids and their appearance.

Last time I saw him, he seriously poked me in the my stomach and said "oh my, what's THIS". I was mortified, because i was so self conscious of the weight I'd gained while on medication. I stayed mad at him for the whole week!

But really. You look great.

Hey

I'm almost 50 and my mother gave me loads of crap about being vegan. You got to stick to what's right for you. Think of the animals that you are saving and think of the planet and the great health benefits you are experiencing. Then realize that you don't need the agreement of anyone because you are your own beautiful person. You are the best YOU. And you don't look fat to me.

Now go and be happy!

I would happily love to look like you, you look fantastic.

I'm vegetarian and i have been since i was 10, my mum and sister always tease me admittedly my sister more than my mum. They always complain when I cook myself alternatives to meat, but I know that i'm doing it for myself and what I believe is right.

+ I have always wondered where the thought of being thin linked to being vegetarian ? My peers always used to say to me ' If your vegetarian why arn't you thin ' Sure we don't eat meat, but it doesn't mean we don't gain weight sometimes I wonder if people think of vegetarian's/vegans as some sort of none human specie, haha (:

Anyway chin up, its your life your decision and you are beautiful (:

I think skinny is a stupid thing to aspire to be, it just has negative connotations if you ask me, if you would like to be slimmer, and healthy that is another thing. I think you are getting way too bent out of shape over the comment though, and you need to really take a long hard look at yourself and be honest.

Did you make this post just to get attention?

Because I can guarantee you that if you continue down this sef-bashing road, then you will end up unhealthy mentally and physically. I think that overly-self-conscious people are like the most UNNATTRACTIVE people out there, they are a huge annoyance, and they think that they are bartering good will by being so lame toward themselves, but all they really do is piss people off.

So, please don't be silly, you are in NO way over weight, and if your parents are talking crap its because they are ignorant. Don't worry about it, bc they are human and humans are prone to being idiots every now and then.

Just be confident, and you will look better, even if you don't lose a single OUNCE you will look BETTER. Because you can see that desperation in people's eyes. And they get eaten alive throughout live...

Good, God if I see another thin person calling themselves fat, I think I am going to SCREAM!!!