Do "Beautiful People" get better treatment?
I thought of this over the past 2 days due to a couple things I saw:
I was at a card tournament and at the first table there was a very large woman (25-300lb) and another woman that was petite except for a very nice chest that appeared very likely to be fake. I had talked to larger woman before the tournament started and she was very nice and talkative. She was unmarried and talked alot about her family. While playing, the other woman was a bit more stand-offish and didn't seem to have much of a personality. She had a boyfriend playing at another table, he was about 20 years youger than her and looked to be a slick, good looking guy. But what I noticed around the table (because poker is a lot about noticing behaviors around the table) was that the men were much nicer to the attractive woman. They'd say "flirty" things, laugh at her comments, stare at her chest, etc... They were cordial with the larger woman as well, but didn't really stay engaged in her conversation. It also sort of gave the more attractive woman (Kim) an advantage over the players at the table because she sort of intimidated and distracted them. And I realized that I was not above this "poor behavior" because despite talking to the larger woman for a good 15 minutes and the other woman not more than 3 sentences...I can't remember the larger woman's name...
Second story...on the following day I was on a plane to California and sitting in front of me was a good looking guy. He looked sort of like Brian Urlacher but with a smaller body, sort of shaped like a swimmer. He was probably 6'3", A little over 200 pounds. He had a shaved head, nice clothes, and a V-shaped torso. He wasn't like a body builder with bulgin muscles...but was obviously very fit. He had a petite girl with him...big chest...young...very much into him. But what I noticed was, the stewardesses went out of their way to be nice to him and sort of flirt with him. He got free drinks...both stewardesses would go out if their way to stop by him and play with their hair, smile, laugh at whatever he said...being someone that travels alot, I've just never seen that type of behavior before.
Since I noticed it on both occasions, once with a girl, once with a guy...I just thought I'd see if this is something anyone else has noticed.
I've been both obese (165.4 lbs at 5'2") and slim (127ish, for the past year) and I must say that lately everyone is treating me way nicer than before. I get free stuff, guys get flirty even when my husband is wt me...so yeah, hate to admit it but the better you look the more attention you draw.
Some people act a lot more shy around people they find attractive. So they end up not looking at them or not talking to them or not being close to them as much as they would someone else.
It is sad, but true. Attractive people TYPICALLY get better treatment at least in the beginning.
Definitely. People will definitely treat someone they see as a potential mate better. But this may be inverse for same-sex because of jealously. But generally, people who look better have more friends, are more confident etcetera, thus are treated well by those in the same gender anyhow.
Man this is nothing new, it's the same as racism I guess they would call it attractiveism or weightism LOL PPL get treated unfairly for numerous reason this is how the majority of America is (and probably other countries too). Ignorance really is bliss. Didn't Tyra Banks dress up in a fat suit to prove this very point. It's like when ppl say "racism doesn't still exist" Well if you aren't experiencing it then you wouldn't think it exists duh.
I believe to some extent this may be true, but I also think it has a lot to do with the confidence level of the person. when I was very overweight I felt dumpy and like a wallflower so I projected that energy and what you put out you attract. Once I lost the weight I felt confidence and that showed I think and therefore people were friendlier with me. I never have worn a lot of makeup or anything like that and when I go out I wear average clothes I don't go all out trying to glam up or anything - neither heavy nor thin so I think a lot of how you are treated is how you project yourself. I had an overweight friend in high school who was always being flirted with and people were friendly with her because she had an incredibly high level of self-confidence and she was very outgoing and beautiful (despite the weight issue).. I think part of the problem is we associate our weight as a direct link to how attractive we are and therefore when we are heavy we feel less attractive etc.
Not saying that beautiful people don't get some more attention or whatever, but I'd rather have positive attention for my brains than stares at my breasts etc any day.
it has been scientifially proven that attractive people get more attention...they've done it with babies: show them pictures of "traditionally" pretty people and "traditionally" ugly people. The pretty people win everytime. They've done studies that revealed that attractive children tend to get better grades in school because they get more attention from their teachers. We all know how it goes...prettiest girl in class gets all the guys and the girls wanna be just like her.
Whilst I would agree that yes "beautiful" people tend to get more attention I believe it is also down to confidence. Good looking people tend to have the idea that they are and therefore are much more confident in themselves, which does play a part.
Original Post by andie-joe:
Whilst I would agree that yes "beautiful" people tend to get more attention I believe it is also down to confidence. Good looking people tend to have the idea that they are and therefore are much more confident in themselves, which does play a part.
I very much agree with Andie, attractiveness is part physical but also part "attitude". But there is also one other aspect that people tend to forget, attractiveness is defined by those that are attracted. Although at a most primal level we seek certain attributes in a mate that will most likely perpetuate our species, in practice it is each persons unique psychological makeup that ultimately defines what is attractive and what is not. Once we have "defined" what attractive is then yes we will pay more attention to those individuals who hold those qualities. In fact you might say that the whole reason for the psychological cue of "attractiveness" is to gain attention ;-)
yes, beautiful people get better treatment, more opportunities, more positive attention, etc. they are also attributed with being more intelligent, more talented, more generous, etc.
there's also a self-fulfilling prophesy; all that positive reinforcement and attention can result in beautiful children having better social skills than ordinary-looking or homely ones. better social skills are often interpreted as more intelligent, talented, generous, etc. and if they aren't really more intelligent, talented, and generous, they're likely to be a whole lot better at faking it.
I agree. It's because people are visual. They've even done studies showing people pictures of beautiful people and ugly people and asked others to rate several factors about the person in the photograph everything from politeness, intelligence, motivation, etc. The prettier people came out with better scores.
I agree that beautiful get more attention and even better service at first. But if those people treat the weight staff poorly or act like a jerk, the door quickly gets slammed shut.
It also sort of gave the more attractive woman (Kim) an advantage over the players at the table because she sort of intimidated and distracted them.
This I find funny. She's using her body and looks to do better at poker. If men didn't allow themselves to be distracted, they wouldn't fall for this crap, but in this case, I don't mind the woman doing it. I do hate to see pretty women act stupid and helpless just to get guys to do stuff for them or to get out of work. They are keeping all women down and they are using men.
Yes attractive people are treated better. When I was 260 while only for a few months I was invisible. I would be right behind someone and they wouldnt even push a door open. People would look down at the floor when I entered. Or even would excuse my weight for other people by saying she just had a baby or something. Now that I am 169 people are tripping over themselves to kiss my a**. For example Ive had a few guys want me to be their Domme. The other day at the gym I was holding a door open for a group of soldiers ( I go to the gym on base) and then one of em held on to my hand and wouldnt let go. I had to tell him I was married and I was just being nice.
About the woman being stand off ish. Ive noticed Ive become that way too. It honest to God is because if I smile at a male then they think I am hitting on them. If I smiled while heavier it was seen as what it was, just being friendly. I dont want to give off the wrong attention so I give off none. It happened yesterday at the mall. I was walking past the food court and the guys that worked at the pizza shoppe beckoned me with free pizza, the mall was about to close so I thought they were giving it away to everyone. So when I walked over they said it was free for me, but when another women came into the line they told her it was regular price. I was heavier so I know what its like to be treated like that. I called them on it and rather than admit they were being rude they offered to charge me a dollar for the pizza, then when I glared at them they just said they wanted me to come over and talk...the pizza wasnt really free. So I wasted about 5 min of my life while I should of just ignored them and walked out the mall. I understand both sides now...
Yes, but I deserve it.
Yes.
It remains that beautiful people have an enormous advantage. Especially in situations where a good first impression is decisive, beautiful people benefit from their attractivity. And this is just because we are trapped by the simple false conclusion: "what is beautiful is also good".
It's interesting that the larger woman wouldn't have been able to derive a benefit from 'flying below the radar' while all the men paid attention to Petite Busty.
DEFINITELY true. i have two examples, one is a study and one is personal-ish
1) a psych study performed i don't remember when, but it was with school-aged kids (elementary school). the teachers were found to be much more lenient and forgiving of the attractive/cute kids bad behaviour, whereas the uglier/fatter/less cute kids were harshly treated for their bad behaviour and much mroe often punished for it. when ti came time for them to give evaluations of their students, the uglier kids always fared worse, but the cute kids where forgiven for their behaviour (stuff like «he was just having a bad day», etc)
2) i have a friend who is really pretty. as long as i have known her, she has always gotten when she wanted whenever she asked for it. things ALWAYS worked out for her. for me, not so much. but one day she DIDN'T get what she wanted and totally flipped out (not at me or anyone else, but in general) and was crying about how it was unfair, she didn't deserve this kind of snub, bla bla. don't get me wrong, she's a nice girl and i love her, but that reaction both shocked me (because i've never seen ehr get upset) and made me realize that in a way, i'm better off because i know how to deal with hardship/not getting everything i want. i'm not ugly or anything, but i'm average i guess u could say. i guess what i'm saying is that while they maybe treated better, they can also tend to be brats (hello hollywood bratty ppl--paris, lindsay, etc) and have difficulty dealing with not getting what they want (throw tantrums, even if they ARE in their mid twenties, which i amd my friends are)
Original Post by juleroo:
i guess what i'm saying is that while they maybe treated better, they can also tend to be brats (hello hollywood bratty ppl--paris, lindsay, etc) and have difficulty dealing with not getting what they want (throw tantrums, even if they ARE in their mid twenties, which i amd my friends are)
well they can afford to be brats! lol
I get b**chy when I don't get what i want; I was like that when I was fat too lol But now I throw way wittier comments b/c I know they won't snap back; when i was fat i used to be really ironic wt ppl and they snaped back like crazy; well, not now!:)
there's a mountain of evidence for this (real evidence, not anecdotal). i don't think anyone would dispute it.
I remember that video Ali. I saw a whole documentary on this topic on Discovery Health. Must of been at least a year ago. They also described what was usually considered pretty or beautiful. I remember a lot of it had to do with symmetry.
I remember another video clip I saw, about the same scenario as you described, only this time they compared the same slim woman, in one part she was well-dressed and in the other she was shabbily dressed. She got much more attention when well-dressed. It's not just weight related.
^^ *nods*
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