Best Friend problems

My best friend and I weigh about the same (I am 200, she is about 208).  Everytime we get together it seems that she is always saying "...us fat girls...", "...we are big boned..." or "here's a cute shirt, I can't fit into it now, but I bet you can" (when the shirt is a size or two to big for me).  It's kind of getting on my nerves since I started at about 225lb in January and am down to 200 and she has been at 206-210 for the last 6 months.  It just seems so true when I hear her say it to me that I kind of sit back and agree with her and lose track of my diet as we drive into McD's or Wendy's.  I think I just need a little support (and not the food kind) to get me back on track.  I was doing 60min pilates, about 30-60minutes of weight training, and 30-45 minutes of cardio each weekday, now I'm doing maybe 30minutes of workout every other day. Help and motivation please!!!?

look out for number one = you

and you will understand..... i have a friend who we both started out w/ calorie count .. and she wanted me to log in her food wanted me to buy all the healthy stuff

now blames me for not losing weight.... b/c i didnt get her a treadmill or the low cal foods... so basically look out for number one~

go out and do the friends stuff but steer clear of calorie subjects... thats what we are here for!

look out for number one = you

and you will understand..... i have a friend who we both started out w/ calorie count .. and she wanted me to log in her food wanted me to buy all the healthy stuff

now blames me for not losing weight.... b/c i didnt get her a treadmill or the low cal foods... so basically look out for number one~

go out and do the friends stuff but steer clear of calorie subjects... thats what we are here for!

I hear what you are saying. Me and a friend of mine kept complaining about the extra weight we had around the middle - and decided to do something about it. I was actually serious this time around have been logging my food everyday because otherwise you can forget about all of those little snacks that you have. Anyways, she goes out with her friends for food and drinks at a chinese place every week. Now I know how BAD their food and drinks are calorie wise - so I don't go. It's wayyy to much temptation - even if I were going just for a drink or two I am sure I'd end up ordering food. I told her I won't go because of how bad it is and she tells me 'screw that I will never give up my alcohol'. But then we will go out shopping and she'll complain about how things fit on her and what not and it's like what do you expect?? Those drinks are FULL of calories. People try to bring you down about being healthy and really it's just because they don't have the motivation themselves to go through with it. Mariyumm is right, you gotta focus on yourself, no one else can lose the weight for you. Keep your head up, put yourself and your goals first!

You can either try to make your best friend see the error of her ways by trying to get her to be active by losing weight, or you can say screw that and continue on by yourself and become too small that she secretly hates you.

My best friend wanted to lose weight, so I introduced her to this site, got her a scale (apparently cause she wanted the workout tape that was with it), and told her everything she needed to do.  She didn't listen (cause she doesn't buy the food in her house, or cook), and gets upset that I lose faster than her.  But she's now wise to if she eats a burger, it's more calories than she should have in a day.  (The Jack in the box burgers she likes is over 1000 calories I believe.)

But Like Mariyumm said, you have to look out for you.  What's best for you.  You know those are bad choices, so don't do it.  She wants McD's, let her and you grab something from Subway and eat together.  Don't let her bring you down.  Regardless of how great of a friend she is, this change is for you.

JUST THINK ABOUT HOW WE'LL YOU'VE DONE SO FAR! how will you feel when you get back up to 225 just because she needed someone else to feel "fat is ok" with?

Keep up the work and focus on you as you've only got one body in this lifetime!

I remember having a similar situation which I used as motivation. I started at about 205 lbs. I came to university and met up with a bigger girl (I'd say about 250-275 lbs) during frosh week. We got a long pretty good but she kept mentioning 'us big girls' and 'look at those twigs' in reference to all the skinny girls around us. She's what first made me realize I'd become overweight. As the year wore on (I didn't start losing weight til the following summer) she always refered to me in some way as her 'fellow fatty' or the like.

I decided I didn't want to be a 'fellow fatty' any more, and it helped me to put down the extra serving of dinner, the chocolate bar I wanted to buy or whatever.

Just tell yourself you don't want to be 'one of the fat girls' anymore. Don't let your friend drag you down. You've come so far (Congrats btw) and you have it in you to reach your goals! Just think in the future she'll be calling you her skinny friend instead and it will feel soooo good!

First of all congratulations on the weight loss so far.  Do not let your "friend" sabotage your efforts.

Let her know that you're not going to be one of the" fat girls" for much longer It's your life to do with as you choose.

  Always keep some low cal snacks with you so you're not that hungry when you hit the drive thru, you can get a large diet soda or a water and let her eat.  She'll get the idea.  If you need to eat just make sure you're prepared and research your choices and be strong that is why we are here.