Big time relationship problem...

So, my boyfriend of a little less than 2 months took me out on Friday night. When he dropped me off he said "You are what has been missing in my life. You make me a better person. Honest to God, I love you." and I sat there with my mouth wide open and said nothing. I so wanted to say it back, but the words would not come! Instead, I said 'Thanks for telling me', kissed him and went inside. Why can't I say I love you?! I do NOT want to screw this relationship up just because I'm stupid and can't say how I feel!!!! Someone with more life experience PLEASE tell me what to do!!!!!!!

if you really do care for him, tell him...even if you tell him that you have a hard time telling him..write a love letter...it's worth getting over that hurdle!

well if u love him come to terms with it and give it all u got... if u dont love him then the worst thing u can do is say that u do

If you care for him tell him so.  If you honestly don't love him right now or not for certain yet don't tell him that you love him.  Be honest.  You can always tell him that "i want to be able to tell you i love you when I really mean it and not when I'm just caught up in the moment or when someone opens themselves up to me" or something like that.

But if you do care for him...it might be hard for you to open up because of past situations or something, but its important to let those go and learn to take risky steps.  He has already opened himself up to you so really you should have no fears of rejection...the ball is in your court!

For me, the admission of love would be too soon and I would feel suffocated. Infatuation is awesome, love is a promise. It sounds like you did the right thing! Waiting is better than having to take something back later. 

If you cant say it to his face, I wouldn't say it at all.  Wait until you are comfortable and ready to say it.  You should not feel pressured to say it back just because he said it to you.  If he really feels how he says he feels about you then he should be willing to wait until you are ready.  Plus, I am sure he would rather have an "I love you" that came from the heart not something you said because you felt like you had to.

Just have fun and try not to stress, when the time comes to say it you will know.  Let it come form the heart.

He actually said it once before on our second date after we kissed for the first time and I knew he was just caught up in the moment so I told him I didn't want to say it until I was sure I meant it and, being the wonderful person he is, he understood perfectly. This time, though, I know he really meant it. I do feel like I should say it to his face when it is the right time. I don't know if I love him yet, but I do know that I'm getting there. It's also that time of the month, so I figure it's not the best time to make an important decision like that. Lol

If you honestly dont love him, dont tell him you do. I had a bf once that said ' i think i love you' lol i said i 'think' i love you too. It was so stupid, i def. didnt love him,  and he didnt love me. We just said it cause we were young and stupid and thats what everyone did after going out for like 3 months. I told him after that when we had broken up that i def. didnt love him, he said he still loved me but that was b.s. he didnt act like it

Original Post by pinklady1709:

So, my boyfriend of a little less than 2 months took me out on Friday night. When he dropped me off he said "You are what has been missing in my life. You make me a better person. Honest to God, I love you." and I sat there with my mouth wide open and said nothing. I so wanted to say it back, but the words would not come! Instead, I said 'Thanks for telling me', kissed him and went inside. Why can't I say I love you?! I do NOT want to screw this relationship up just because I'm stupid and can't say how I feel!!!! Someone with more life experience PLEASE tell me what to do!!!!!!!

It is not a big deal that your reaction did not come suddenly. We all humans r different and our responses are supposed to be different in similar situation.

just because u didnt say "i love you" right on that moment, doesnt mean you dont love him. it might mean that you were so overcome with emotions that words were hard to find :p

so cheer up... tell that to him another day (y)

Give it time and tell him when the moment is right.

I've got a situation with slight similarities and I'll tell you how I acted.

I'm seeing a girl I like a lot and I wanted to let her know that - because I like to open with how I feel and affectionate. I was trying to tell her that I really like her and for some reason I couldn't get the words out. With no active thought the words that came out were "I think you're really beautiful". They came out in a whisper. I was kinda shocked that what I planned to say didn't come out and instead something else that I believe came out. It was really odd. It got me a kiss though, hehe.

I tried again a week later and I was able to say I really liked her. I'm not sure what was different, but I wanted to tell her and I did. I guess it had to be at the right moment.

My only thought is that when you're ready you'll be able to say. Or maybe you won't exactly be able to say it and you'll force yourself to do it. Either way, you'll find a way to make it known when you want it to/you need it to. Life has funny ways of working out like that and I think you shouldn't force your feelings. Don't reciprocate the idea of love just because it's nice to be in love. Find your own. It's worth it.

Original Post by pinklady1709:

He actually said it once before on our second date after we kissed for the first time and I knew he was just caught up in the moment so I told him I didn't want to say it until I was sure I meant it and, being the wonderful person he is, he understood perfectly. This time, though, I know he really meant it. I do feel like I should say it to his face when it is the right time. I don't know if I love him yet, but I do know that I'm getting there. It's also that time of the month, so I figure it's not the best time to make an important decision like that. Lol

 That is the most honest thing you can say to him. He sounds like a keeper, so tell him the line you told us, and I'm sure he'll give you a big hug and kiss!