Bigger IS Happier
When I was alot bigger I thought that I was really unhappy and miserable. What I didn't realise was that acctually, I had a fantastic life. I would go out everyday of the week and have a proper giggle with my friends. I would do things that scared me and learn from every experiance I had. I would never be scared to try new things and make a fool of myself at all! I was happy, until I started to diet and exercise vigorously and start this new lifestyle which isn't too great at all! I know I was big and I didn't get any attention from the male population which I found depressing
I'm starting too wonder what my life would be like now If I didn't change. I was watchingsome home movies last night & I was so happy, bubbly and lovley to everyone. Now I'm miserable, unhappy, grumpy, selfconsious, unsocialble and I neglect myself.
At least before i started this 'lifestyle' change I had a great life and made the most of every single day. Why does It take a huge change like this to make you realise how great you were before & that the only reason I wanted to change was for shallow people that mean absolutly NOTHING in my life? This lifestyle doesn't work for me at all. Why do I lock myself away in my bedroom every single day and scared to walk out of my house? Why am I paranoid that people are talking about me? & Why don't my friends want to know me anymore. Iv'e well and truly had enough. It's not just my excess fat that's dissapeared. It's my whole life!
Does anyone else feel alot more unhappier than they used to now that they have started their 'diet' or 'lifestyle change' ?!?**
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" Don't let food be your only friend." Take your own advice and stop allowing your weight to consume you.
When I was 17 I decided I needed to start losing weight, I was 226lb, a size uk 24 and set myself a goal to get to a size 16. With healthy eating and excersize I managed to reach my goal but by then I couldn't stop, I shut out a lot of friends and became so obsessed with losing weight I developed an eating disorder and with the help of sticking two fingers down my throat for 18 long months I got to a size 10. It wasn't until I finally confided in my best friend as to what I was doing that I realised I hated what I'd become. Men were wolf whistling at me in the street and I just felt like a piece of meat, a cheap one at that. After my friend forced me to see a doctor it was the scare i needed to stop and get back on the right track, I put a stone back on which I'm trying to lose again the healthy way, hence joining this website! I'm almost 21 and I've now found a healthy balance between dieting and my lifestyle, I have a lovely boyfriend who would take me as I am and I have a pretty damn good wardrobe! I know my story is different from your unhappyness but my point is find a balance and there is light at the end of the tunnel!
Being big or being small doesn't change who you are on it's own. Take a look at how you've changed. Being healthy doesn't mean you can't have any fun. Okay, you shouldn't be drinking, but at your age, you shouldn't any way.
Some people change their whole view of the world, and all they thing about is being healthy. Live a little. When you go out with your friends, DON'T bring up what you can and cannot eat. Just find something healthy wherever you go, or bring something of your own. A lot of people get upset when you're talking about your diet all the time.
I would do things that scared me and learn from every experience I had. I would never be scared to try new things and make a fool of myself at all!
It sounds like you've become more self conscious by becoming thin. If you didn't care about making a fool of yourself while you were bigger, why do you care now?
you know i posted a whole response and it didn't actually post. grrrrr
maybe your routine is too strict for you. maybe your not eating enough and that's why your depressed/irritable... if your blood sugar goes too low or your cutting out nutrients you need it can happen! try to find a medium, or maybe a slower goal. maybe you can find workout classes that you will enjoy, you can have fun and meet people... dance classes, yoga, boxing, whatever your style is... go outside for walks instead of a treadmill...
maybe too now that your noticing your weight your realizing that other people notice your weight. maybe when you were heavy and not thinking about it you though tthe same of others. but you couldn't of been as perfectly jolly and happy as you say because then you wouldn't of started dieting in the first place!
besides there are benefits to YOU and not to anyone else that should keep you motivated- like your health, having energy, living longer, reducing disease risks....
don't neglect yourself :) treat yourself right, with the nutrion and exercise and lifestyle that you deserve. you might need to make adjustments and find what works for you, but i think you'll feel better soon enough.
Just so you all know, xprincessdiamondx was (and hopefully still is?) working on recovering from an ED. The new "lifestyle" she is talking about isn't dieting, it's starving.
Princess, I hope you are still working hard to get better. I don't know what to say to help. But read back over some of your old posts. You wrote this on Feb 14th, remember?
To be honest I only found out that I had an eating disorder last Thursday when i had a physciatrist appointment, before that I was in complete denial and wouldn't believe it. I pushed away EVERYONE & felt so alone, but last week at the hospital really hit home how much damage I had already done and that I was heading to an early grave, because of the muscle that I had already lost from starving myself and the fact that my heart would soon be eaten away. Vital organ damage cannot be reversed && why should I lose family, friends and most importantly MY life? Just because of food. I didn't rwalise how sociable food is and how left out you get when you refuse your body it's fuel. That is why I'm trying so hard. Don't get me wrong I still have bad days but so does everyone. I'm just trying to fight what became inside me and make my body happier && I don't want to be lonley anymore!
If someone is very obese and their health is going to be adversely affected by their weight, then I think a diet is vital- not to get super skinny, but to lose about 10% of their weight to get healthier stats....
...However...what's wrong with maintaining a balanced and mostly healthy lifestyle and still being a little plump? A lot of people get super miserable when they gain a lot of weight, because they feel bad about themselves. Why can't the opposite be true? I just think that people equate thinness to happiness, but let's face it. We're not all natural racketball playing-salad eaters! I'm not. I'm a bit plump, I like my food, and I like to stay in rather than going mountain climbing. I'm a Hobbit. So what? The key is finding balance...eating healthy food, going for daily walks, maybe doing a little weight training at the gym..etc etc... There's just no reason to go overboard and make yourself miserable though. You need to negotiate with yourself and find something you can maintain and be happy with! I chose organic, whole foods, fancy cooking with smaller portions, walking , and a little light gym activity because those are things I can DO. I suppose I could weigh 105 pounds and be training for a marathon, but guess what? I'd be MISERABLE and probably divorced.
I am now very thin, but was once very overweight (less than 2 years ago) and sometimes I too think I was much much happier when I was that way....I mean since losing my weight I ended up developing an eating disorder and really a day doesn't go by where I don't think about what goes into my mouth (even though I overcame the ED)....and people around me had/continue to have problems seeing the "old" me in the "new" me (if that makes sense)....they really do treat me as a completely different person, and it isn't always for the better....
I mean I KNOW I am much healthier and I also KNOW that there were times when I was just miserable when I was overweight, hence why I lost it to begin with....I have much more confidence, etc....but I don't know I still, like yourself, wonder too just how happy I am....I feel like I replaced one unhappiness with another in some regards
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