It was the end of the 8th grade and I was overweight! Weighing in at about 179 I was tired of the comments my fellow classmates decided I could endure. Durning the summer I worked out harder than I think anyone should. Now freshman year is here and I weigh 141 pounds! A significant change right? Apparently not.
Not one person noticed! No one said anything. I didn't lose my weight for anyone but myself, but it would have been nice to get some feed back. Oh well I just thought I'd vent!
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you congradulate yourself on YOUR hard work and a job well done! so don't even think about other people.
and maybe they don't want to say anything so as to not put you on the spot.
Hey don't worry. If they were dumb enough to make personal comments before, they're probably just embarrassed or jealous. Who needs those losers anyway, after school you will realised how irrelevant those school years actually were.
Well done for losing all& nbsp;that!
Congratulations on the weight loss!
That's all it is I went from 219 (my all time biggest) to 176lbs no one from my family said anything. (Extended family aunts, cousins, etc...) Why because they are all very over weight (to put it nicely, very nicely) and don't want to do anything about it. Those people notice all right they just don't want to admit you look better now and probably a bit mad that they have to find someone else to tease. Keep up the good work you know you look better. and you know why i think so one has said anything? probably because the people who are nice and would want to compliment you are afraid that saying you lost weight would imply that you NEEDED to lose it in the first place and make you feel bad. and the jerks who used to make fun of you are just that, jerks! they aren't about to say something complimentary to you, they just want to say hurtful things.
keep up a healthy diet and exercise (don't over do it or become obessed), and don't do it for them, do it for you. you'll see when you get older that all those "perfect" people in high school are so insignificant in the rest of your life. i'm nearly 10 years out of HS (wow am i that old?!) now, when i go home for the holidays, the very guys who used to make fun of me now try to ask me out!! how about THEM apples jerks!
First off, congrats on losing that much over the summer!
About your schoolmates, though... People in middle school make fun of people for whatever reason is readily available. If you're overweight, they'll pick that, if you wear an unflattering hairstyle or walk funny, they'll pick that. Now that you're not overweight, they can't make fun of you for that anymore, so they'll probably not say anything at all. And yeah, people who like you or are nice? They're probably not going to say anything because it's awkward. They probably don't want to make a big deal out of it.
And who really cares if they say anything or not? I mean, yeah, it's nice, but you know you're in much better shape now, and they probably do too. Don't expect them to have this huge contrite moment with you and apologize for treating you poorly or something--that never happens in real life. (Well, rarely. I've never had it happen.)
keep up the good work and continue to be healthy!
SUPER CONGRATS on the weight loss!
As for those people who made fun of you last year and teased you because you were a little heavy (I'm at 217 - for me 179 is 4lbs over my current goal), probably didn't say anything this year because they are either jealous, or feel bad about last year or both.
Good for you for doing this FOR YOU - afterall - the only expectations you should try to live up to are YOURS!!!
Your success in losing that weight during the summer before your Freshman Year of Highschool should show you that you can do ANYTHING you put your mind to. (I hope you use the same determination in your education and future).
Keep up the good work - stay healthy! :)
*HUGS*
There are a number of reasons why people have not said anything. Vicki8seekers's post above me is?probably the more feasible one.?I've??even?had?close?friends?confess?to? me?that?they?
felt?that?it?would?be uncomfortable to even bring up the topic with me.?What?more?for?strangers and acquaintances? It was only when I
had dropped hints or have commented about my changed habits that
they gave their input.
In the end, it's all about your health like you've said and the way you feel about your self.
Congratulations! I know it sucks to work so hard for something and then not be recognized for it. Trust me though, they noticed. Maybe no one has said anything to you about it, but in all likelihood, they're talking to each other about it. I used to get made fun of in jr. high because I was too skinny, and I finally filled out in high school. No one seemed to notice then, but now that I've graduated, I've had lots of people come up and tell me about how good I looked. And lots of guys from my class ask me out. Turns out, they were just too shy to do it in high school, or they were afraid that they'd be shot down because they were mean the year before.
Now, also ask yourself if you've been complimenting others that have changed their image. If you start commenting on someone's new hairstyle, or their new style, the compliments will probably come back around.
And congrats again - enjoy wearing your "skinny jeans"!
Congratulations! I know it sucks to work so hard for something and then not be recognized for it. Trust me though, they noticed. Maybe no one has said anything to you about it, but in all likelihood, they're talking to each other about it. I used to get made fun of in jr. high because I was too skinny, and I finally filled out in high school. No one seemed to notice then, but now that I've graduated, I've had lots of people come up and tell me about how good I looked. And lots of guys from my class ask me out. Turns out, they were just too shy to do it in high school, or they were afraid that they'd be shot down because they were mean the year before.
Now, also ask yourself if you've been complimenting others that have changed their image. If you start commenting on someone's new hairstyle, or their new style, the compliments will probably come back around.
And congrats again - enjoy wearing your "skinny jeans"!
thinking about either makes me a little angry and sad.
when i first started getting frustrated with my weight i had just ended a 10 year relationship and was living at my sisters. due to stress and depression i was losing weight, but started reading, learning and slowly changing! :)
then saw my sister had printed out handfuls of ED info and had called a nurse friend and was thinking of an intervention :(
i didn't have an ED!! i was just starting to learn and get happier every day!!
the second was the guy who was amazed that at 32 i had no children... after we had been intimate he asked me again if i was 'sure' i had no kids. i am convinced he was referrring to my tummy being less than perfect.
:(
even good people can say **** things, eh?!?!
CONGRATULATIONS! That's amazing! Keep up the good work! I know middle/high school was a horrible time for everybody's weight where I was. Everybody was either stick-skinny or overweight. It isn't until you can think for yourself that you realize they're all lame anyways and you're not doing this for them anyways! Keep us all updated and we can give you all that kudos you're looking for! ;)
Also, it's true. Most "good looking" kids in middle/high school use up all their beauty right away. It's like they're good looking when it doesn't even really matter in the long run. Then from 30-on they just look old and washed up. Trust me. My mom wasn't exactly a looker. It wasn't until she went to college that she eventually "blossomed" and is STILL (now rockin' her 40s) looking amazing!
If you keep up your healthy habits, your health and beauty will TOTALLY out-do everybody else'. ;)
Original Post by jules817:
you know what i think tiptoe? i think people definitely noticed! you lost 40 lbs!! that is fantastic, and significant!
and you know why i think so one has said anything? probably because the people who are nice and would want to compliment you are afraid that saying you lost weight would imply that you NEEDED to lose it in the first place and make you feel bad. and the jerks who used to make fun of you are just that, jerks! they aren't about to say something complimentary to you, they just want to say hurtful things.
keep up a healthy diet and exercise (don't over do it or become obessed), and don't do it for them, do it for you. you'll see when you get older that all those "perfect" people in high school are so insignificant in the rest of your life. i'm nearly 10 years out of HS (wow am i that old?!) now, when i go home for the holidays, the very guys who used to make fun of me now try to ask me out!! how about THEM apples jerks!
