BINGEING support group

Hi everyone.

I'm a very healthy eater from day to day. VERY healthy. And I'm quite proud of my diet and my will power. I eat whole grains, lean meats, fruits and vegetables and low fat dairy products. I also eat portions of nuts and drink lots of water.

But I have a problem. I'm in university, and tend to go out to the bars on the weekends every now and then. Now, I can deal with a night of drinking, because I can control how much I drink and I dont drink really hefty sugary drinks. My problem is my loss of will power to junk food when I drink. I eat so much... SO MUCH chocolate when I'm drunk! So much that sometimes I feel ill the next day, but of course, I get back on track and dont drop my calories the next day because I know it's unhealthy recoil.

After this rant, I propose creating this group to support and track / log how many days myself and any others interested in joining can go binge free. I still dont mind having small portions of chocolate throughout the day because they might be just 5g portions. I just want to be able to motivate myself to stay on track and not destroy my healthy diet every weekend.

So, I'm going to start out. Since I went all out last night, today is...

Days without bingeing: 1 (I know the whole day hasnt gone by, but I know I'll control it today haha)

Thanks! 

Thank you Sharonclaire and bugsylover for the welcome. Guatemala is pretty exotic, and I'm loving it. The bad thing is that I don't get to see my best friend in USA, but I talk to her a lot.

Good job on your 30 days bugsylover. That's amazing.

So I am on day 37 if I make it through tonight which I'm pretty confident I will. Good luck everyone!

kae, bugsy, it's people like you who keep me going.

huge relapse this week. i'm really sick of this, so i'm kicking it into high gear this week. upping calories, eating every 3 hours, with 1 hour exercise a day.

DAY TWO.

Ilovechai, I wish I was on day 37 without binging, but I'm counting backwards from 39 until my birthday. So today is day 36. Way to make it through the first two days. They're always the hardest.

haa i should have read the previous posts! oh, well then we're about in the same place..sort of. The first two days are definitely the hardest, but i'm hoping this will be the last "first two days" for a while. Goodluck!

today should be a piece of cake because i'm going to youth group and i always get motivation and a sense of calm from going and talking to God.

-E

Hi, all!

I am no longer counting days...just sort of letting things go. I know I've had a large roller coaster ride w/family two weeks ago but looking back to the beginning of June, I think I've done fairly well over all.

I do notice some habits that have changed. I am sitting down w/all edibles...large or small, drinking a heck of a lot more water rather than tea/pop/coffee/lemonade, looking for the fruits/veggies that are in season and indulging those more rather than dark chocolate and really weighing out what I want to eat instead of just reaching for nosh.

I pretty much assume that weight loss is going to be a long, grueling process. So, more power to me! lol :  ) Cheers!

Day three overall was perfect. Not easy, but good. I overate a little at lunch, then splurged on a latte. but i was under my cal. limit so i do NOT consider that bingeing.

I will be writing every day. becuase it calms me down, ahah.

im glad you had a perfect day three :D 'splurging on a latte' isn't anything to worry about at all! i 'splurged' on two hot chocolates and two ice lollys yesterday but still eat maintenance so i'm fine with it. today is day 33. i can't believe i'm here. i still feel so vulnerable! eee x

33 days is something to celebrate over, that is so awesome hhaha.

day 4 went great again. I was under cals so i ate frozen raspberries with soy delicious ice cream. Now i am resisting the late night binge voices, and journaling instead. this is so hard.

you're doing so great. i just read your journal, i love that youre being so positive. and that vegan milkshake reward sounds amazing! :)

Risabelle:

Thanks so much for your suggestions on JA... i will def check out her book. In fact i will go look it up on Amazon right after this. As i am getting into Fairburn's book, like i said, i feel like it is catering more towards those with binge/purge issues... whereas me i just restrict myself during the workweek, and then once i'm confronted with a situation -a party, going out to eat, or even just being around food on the weekend and slip up, i have this "all or nothing" mentality where i just go overboard after that, sort of like "oh well i already ruined everything".

I am so angry with myself. Since April, I have put on maybe 8 pounds and I am an inch or so bigger on my waist. I hate the way I feel and look in the mirror knowing that i used to be fitter..  I was doing good last week when this past weekend i had a wedding to go to and also multiple parties= oversplurge on cake, carbs, etc.

I just want this cycle to stop... it seems like the only way i can be at a weight that i want is by restricting myself, but i want to be able to indulge too and "live life" as everyone tells me. I want a balance and i can't seem to get there. I sometimes envy thin people who can eat what they want and stay that way! Probably because they do not go overboard...

Okay sorry for the rant, i'm just really frustrated!

binged again today. 2000 cals before 10 am. I think it was the worst in a while. Um...i really hate this. My mom is taking off work to be with me for the rest of the week to help me get through it.

i'm sixteen. i should be able to take care of myself.

this WILL get better.

This binging thing is definately something.  I have always been pretty healthy, except when I went on a medication that did not help to control my appetite and in addition helped me to gain 80lbs.  I have lost 50 of them, now just need to loose the other 30 and then 15 more, but I have noticed that i binge.  I think I am borderline bulimic.  It is kinda scary, or maybe I have just seen to many movies.  I just know I need to get this under control. I hope this helps.  Does 1300 calories seem like enough??//

kae1106- you are completely inspirational.  I'm using you as a challenge almost..if you can do it, so can I :)

So i'm starting over with today being day 1.  My bingeing has been horrible and out of control these past few weeks, and I think I know why.  But, the same thing that is causing me to binge so much more frequently is a HUGE motivator for me to stop binging. What a complicated situation.

I almost lost it even on day 1, but I didn't.  It makes me more confident for tomorrow. I've put on weight from this..but not a terrible amount.  It's an amount I can deal with. ugh.

Anyway day 1 has been a success, even when going out to eat with friends at TGI Friday's :)

jyngeer,

If you are bingeing, then you are not getting enough good calories when your body needs them.

If you ignore your body's hunger signals long enough you will have the urge to binge.  Then you will be in that awful battle with your body, trying to resist a binge.  Your body is really at war with your mind when it wants you to eat, and you keep resisting.  When you binge, your body has won the battle.  This is your survival instinct at work, which keeps you alive.

ilovechai (is it ok to keep calling you that?? im sorry i don't know your name!!) don't fret about it too much. you almost got through 5 days, and each of those 5 days is a step towards getting over this so you should be proud of them! :) just keep going and try again and maybe this time you'll get further, and gradually the days between the binges will become more and more and more...

i was stuck on day 6 for ages. 6 days, binge, 6 days, binge, but then i broke though it. youve just got to build it up and be proud of every single day that you succeed. keep going :) 

bugsy: My name is Emilie. And thank you for your encouraging words. It's so hard to break the pattern, but I'm going to keep trying. Thank God for the supportive people in my life. How are you doing?

Day 1 went great. I ended up running 4 miles! i'm still up 5 pounds, but I don't care. Today I plan to keep busy, work out, and relaxxx baby.

sydney: Resisting a binge at TGI Fridays? You are my hero.

ilovechai- it was not easily done.  My friend got one of those brownie ice cream pie things and I only had one bite of it.  Now that was empowering.

Yesterday almost went badly..I ended up eating 2000 cals before 10:30 am, but I made myself stop.  That was a small victory right there :)  I went to the gym and ran about 3 miles and did weights.  It was an active day in general so I just counted it as a maintanence day and didn't beat myself up for it.

I'm on day 3 now and I feel really good! I don't have the urge to binge. 

New here...I binged last night...ended up eating over 3000 cals yesterday, and got on the scale this morning a whoping 4 lb heavier than I did yesterday!!! Reading over some of the posts in this forum...it looks like I might be in the same boat as a lot of people, eat well during the week at work...then end up binging on the weekends when I go drinking/out to eat with friends...even that a couple times during the week. I am a social eater, leave me alone, and I would probably nail my last 20lb in a couple months. Too bad I'm a social person.
Basically, I topped out at 227lb, and have been up and down over the years, started kicking my butt last sept (est. good workout routine), and have dropped from 207 to 183 (it was 177 a week ago!) since then. Looking to hit about 160. I KNOW it's the binging that's getting me. I get crazy drunken munchies (drunchies!) Have switched my booze intake to primarily wine and light beer, occassionally hard booze with diet whatever, and this seems to be helping...but I think I need a support group too!

Days without binging...0
It's friday...so the weekend will be a challenge as per usual. Hope everyone has a good weekend!

I have no idea where I'm at...this is new territory to me but it feels right. Since June 1 I have lost my binge appetite. It showed up for a couple of days in July but over all, I have lost the urge to binge, the desire, even the know-how. Other habits seem to have replaced it. I'm drinking a lot more water and doing hobbies/more active. Always a big veggie/fruit eater, I am consuming a much bigger variety now of both. Also, when I overeat (like 4 slices of bakery bread instead of one) I compensate by not having another splurge.

Life this way is really weird. It feels as natural as bingeing did in...May? I am sure that what pulled it all together for me (because I've been working on this myself for a long time) is reading Shrink Yourself, the psychological approach to end the binge.  

I'm going to assume that THIS is now my norm. I was scarfing it down, too, pretty recently. Sometimes not able to figure how many cals I was consuming. Now I just know that I will stop when I'm hungry and if I overdo occassionally, not to worry because it won't continue. Keep plugging away, people. Every little move you make is a move in the right direction. And that's just it. It's a process.

Hey everyone,

sorry this week has been horrid in terms of work and energy, I havent been keeping up.

However, I'll note that im on day 27 sans bingeing and that's one of the few great things in life right now it seems. I think I'm just tired and a little pessimistic right now haha.

Anyway I hope everything is going amazingly for everyone and that the support never dies here, because it is fantastic.

Take care everyone, will drop by on a sunnier day!