BINGEING support group

Hi everyone.

I'm a very healthy eater from day to day. VERY healthy. And I'm quite proud of my diet and my will power. I eat whole grains, lean meats, fruits and vegetables and low fat dairy products. I also eat portions of nuts and drink lots of water.

But I have a problem. I'm in university, and tend to go out to the bars on the weekends every now and then. Now, I can deal with a night of drinking, because I can control how much I drink and I dont drink really hefty sugary drinks. My problem is my loss of will power to junk food when I drink. I eat so much... SO MUCH chocolate when I'm drunk! So much that sometimes I feel ill the next day, but of course, I get back on track and dont drop my calories the next day because I know it's unhealthy recoil.

After this rant, I propose creating this group to support and track / log how many days myself and any others interested in joining can go binge free. I still dont mind having small portions of chocolate throughout the day because they might be just 5g portions. I just want to be able to motivate myself to stay on track and not destroy my healthy diet every weekend.

So, I'm going to start out. Since I went all out last night, today is...

Days without bingeing: 1 (I know the whole day hasnt gone by, but I know I'll control it today haha)

Thanks! 

sharonclaire - You should be happy that the donut wasn't good!  Now you can put that craving behind you and next time you want it, remind yourself of how little you enjoyed it this time and how it probably isn't worth it again =)  Also be happy you only had 1 haha  I don't know that I could have stopped at 1 =P

As for how I've been...well..I was doing well while I had my anti-binge puzzle to do but I have yet to pick up another and have nothing to distract me.  It's like I just sit around all day and eat.  I haven't even been exercising lately and I'm probably still putting on weight.  I made it a few days without binging and felt awesome, now I haven't made a binge-free day in..a while.  I was too ashamed for the longest time to come back to this thread and post but I'm making myself do it now..just for the sake of saying that tomorrow is my DAY  1 and I'm going to stick with it!!!! 

I will plan my meals and meal times and FOLLOW IT!  I don't seem to have a problem not eating, but it's like once I start I can't stop.  I need to just stick with a meal and its planned time.  At times when I try this, I will plan the times and then end up eating everything within an hour.  It's awful =(  BUT I WILL FIX IT!  Tomorrow I'm getting up early to exercise, then showering and going to check on a possible job, then going to work and coming home.  I WILL BE BINGE-FREE ALL DAY!!!  I will eat my preworkout snack, breakfast after the workout, lunch when I get back from checking on the job, a snack on my break at work (if I actually get one), dinner when I get home, and a snack later if I'm hungry and only if I'm hungry.  Now you know my plans, I know my plans, and I can't make excuses. 

TOMORROW I WILL ONLY EAT WHEN I'M HUNGRY AND I WILL NOT BINGE! 

Sorry for the repeats in there, the more I say it the more pumped I get and the more it sticks in my brain =P

Ehh I've eaten ONCE today (just woke up) and I've already strayed =\ haha but I'll get back on and adjust my other foods. to make up for it.

How's everyone else doing??

deflepfan, the first thing to learn, is that if you punish yourself w/feelings of guilt you will only feed the behavior. So, NO GUILT! Also, you have to realize that everyone hear goes through the same behavior. No matter how awful you think your day or week was, there are some of us out there who can relate at any given time! You are not alone.

So, make up your mind to look at it objectively. This is only a process of changing bad behavior into beneficial behavior. Stop punishing yourself w/guilt and stop feeding the monster...he thrives on guilt!

The next trick is to start loving your fruits and veggies and whole grains! Learn to really love the preparation and the textures and the tastes and their origins and relationships. You can really change your taste preferences. Get away from processed foods.

All of this is a process that takes time, deflepfan. Give yourself a break! you are headed in the right direction!  

hi all! just checking in, and asking a question.

i've been good. i'm maintaining now, which i'm sort of happy about...i really need to tone up though. i'm all jiggly. my question is, though, today for snack i was CRAVING peanuts/PB so i bought a pay day and ate some PB out of the jar. it wasn't mindless or extreme, but it was a lot of calories. i didn't count it as a binge...it was an indulgence...right? it's almost been 2 months since i've used behaviors, and i'm feeling pretty confident. still grieving, but confident.

Hi everyone,

 

I used to have a huge problem with bingeing for years , I couldn't stop once I started eating treats. I have stopped eating sugar (white bread or white pasta, potatoes, chips and of course deserts and such). It's not been a long time, I have only been sugar-free for a week and a half but I find that food doesn't call to me like it did, and I have not had a binge since then, or craving for that matter. For some reason, fruit seems not to produce cravings, even if I eat a lot of it. 

 

I'm really pround and happy and I hope it's going to last!

Original Post by allyferr:

I have the same problem.

Drinking KILLS my diet. Plus after a large meal, I tend to binge. I find that weird since I"m already so full. The last time I went out to eat (a little bit of a cheat meal) I came home and ate a whole tub of ice cream, a danish, and half a bag of chips. I don't get it, I wasn't even hungry.

Days without bingeing: 3

 I don't drink whatsoever, but I have the same problem after I've eaten a big or satisfying meal. If I eat a single bowl of food e.g. a pasta dish instead of several small courses e.g. a sandwich and salad, I'll want another course and start craving pudding. And if I just have a small cheat, I start thinking that I've ruined my diet for the day anyway and binge uncontrollably. I can't just have one biscuit, I always eat the whole pack. And if I don't reward myself within 1 month, I'll eat everything in sight, even if I don't like it which makes me gain half the weight I lost for that month. GRRRRRRRRRR!!! >.<

Days without bingeing: 4

ilovechai...I'm not hearing binge in your behavior! It's kosher! Enjoy the pb on occassion. It's okay to eat a little more one day than another, too. your body's needs will fluctuate one day to another. you are doing great!

shoot...I just had an out and out total binge day. this was one big stressor gone wild.

I'm sorry, sharonclaire. I know how you feel. I just ate.

For three hours.

I'm so ashamed.

nooooooooo i just binged after 52 days of being binge-free. UGHHHHH this feeling sucks. and it's all because im stressing out over someone who continually uses me, over and over again

tothestars, don't be ashamed. that's the pits. Let yourself get right back up on it...reclaim the healthy behaviors, move in that general direction that makes you feel a lot of self-love. do everything you can do get over that hump because you can't change yesterday but you can challenge tomorrow.

these down-turns are going to happen...to EVERYBODY. It's what you DO w/them that makes the difference.

emrldfantasy...I know what that feels like. I've decided to back away from my 'friend'. he has tried it once, shame on him. if I allow it to happen again, shame on me. do you know that saying? get yourself away from the situation...find a supportive, communicative counselor if you have to. don't let it happen again. you can change your behaviors anytime.

today's a new day, people! I have lost 6# this month and I am NOT going back. I will post a lot in the next few days, tracking how I do in committing to this. Take care ALL!

Sharonclaire that is great! congrats on your weight loss!!! I am working on losing some weight myself, starting this week i cut out diet soda. Hopefully it will help me to feel less bloated/unhealthy... i have been doing so well this week but i am afraid as the weekend approaches, thats usually when i binge! wish me luck...

hi, i suppose i'm new on this thread.
but i think i belong here, as i have binged on over 6000 calories and it's only 11:30 in the morning.
i need help bigtime.

I definitely need to be on this thread! I'm also at University and have major bingeing problems on the weekends, mostly when I drink. The other (and I think bigger) binge trend I have is at buffets, holiday gathering, parties with lots of snacks spread out. For some reason my mind thinks, must try one of everything! So I do..and then I feel bad so I keep going. My goal is to learn better habits by the winter holiday season (which starts very soon).
Days without bingeing: 1.5 (since today is not over yet.)

jenny...wondering how your weekend is going? weekends can be tough. sometimes I think that it helps to have a weekend committment...I do my volunteer work on the weekend.

gotta run...but hope to hear from you, Jenny! there are others out there who have tough time on weekend...you aren't alone!

Hi all.

I joined calorie count just because of this post! It describes me exactly. I am pretty controlled about my eating during the day (I consume around 1500 calories a day and work out 45-60 min a day 5 days a week- 5'5" 115 lbs), but then when I have a lot of food in front of me, or after drinking when my friends buy pizza or candy, I lose all control. I go into shame and guilt spirals and keep eating. I feel like it totally consumes me. All I think about is food, partly because I'm bored a lot of the time and my anxiety needs something to latch on to. If it's not food, it's something else.

I want to work on self-control so that I can be around food and not feel like I have to finish all of it. Right now, I can't keep food that I don't have to prepare in the house, because I will eat it when I'm bored, stressed, or drunk. I am the scrape my plate clean type- the amount of food in front of me is the amount of food I will eat.

I'm thinking about trying to let myself indulge a little more- like saving up calories so I can eat a whole 800 calorie broccoli-cheddar breadbowl from Panera or a half pint of lite Phish Food and not hate myself afterwards. I think that might help with the "forbidden food" trigger. What do you think about that?

So I'm on day 3 of not bingeing. I am so grateful for this post! Nice to meet you all!

Emily

 

two months binge-free

Day 7. Yippee!

Hey Emily, you're probably not eating enough. It depends on your age, but working out that often and only eating 1500 per day is probably not enough, and that could be triggering your binges. Have you used the Burn Meter on this site to see how much you burn per day?

ilovechai- that's amazing, congratulations!

I think emotions have EVERYTHING to do w/my overeating. That's my final decision. I think my emotions (especially guilt feelings that I find really confusing when they hit!) undermine healthy choices/determine my purchases. Once I'm on that track where I've purchased something unhealthy, then I'm sliding downhill from there...NOT eating the veggies/fruit/whole grains and THAT leads me to the overeating.

Anyone else out there think their binge behavior is at least in part controlled by their emotions?

And, on the flipside, anyone out there that believes emotions have nothing to do with their binge behavior?

I'm just looking for input/discussion. All comments welcome.

It definitely is for me.  Food is kind of a reward for me after a stressful day, (I deserve a treat!)That combined with opportunities to eat a lot, or eat poorly, like (entire)family dinners.  I'm so good all week and then the weekend hits and I don't have as much control over the food choices.