Which bit do you dislike about you?

Hiya. I have an apple shape. My hips now measure 36". My chest 36" and my tummy 30" I hate my tummy despite loosing 12" from it. it looks blobby lol! I have lost my bum, much to my daughters amusement!

Which bit do dislike about you and why?

Look foreward to your comments,

elttiks.x.

Too many odd bumps and freckles. No weight loss will help that unfortunately.

-jf-

No. I don't like this post.
So many of us are so filled with self-loathing enough as it is.

Let's try this the OTHER way.
What part of you do you LOVE about yourself?

I love me. I love being en potentiate. I love knowing that I'm about to go from someone who felt ugly to someone who will be and does feel handsome and studly. I love my arms. I love my muscles. I even love my nose. I love me.

***winks at HK***

I love myself in pictures now.  I used to avoid the camera, but no more!  I know I have a long way to go, but it feels so good to have come this far.

no, no. A bit of both, i say! or its arrogent!

1. I dislike my little bit of flab left on my tummy, that only moves if i jump.
2. i dont like my small boobs very much
3. I dislike my feet (i pick them).
4. i hate photos of my face

1. I love my arms, they are getting toned
2. i love my body type, as i build muscle easy
3. I love being able to maintain and embrase my body for what it looks like now
4. My main thing about me? My abilty to NOT be jealous of Anyone. Everyone is sexy in their own right, no matter what size and should not feel down or bad about how they look. If i see someone who is a size i want to be, i dont get jealous. I go and ASK them how they stay that size or got there - and COMPLAMENT THEM

I agree with han - sometimes it can be healthy to admit what you dislike about yourself, especially if it is something you can change.  If I refused to think about what I disliked about myself I would have never started losing weight in the first place.  :)

So - I am not happy with my stomach area and my inner thighs.  And I am very not happy with my current body fat %.  Not a lot of weight left to lose, but a lot of body fat still.  Something to keep working on!

But - I love love love how awesomely muscular my legs are getting from running, weight lifting, and pilates.  Lose the extra body fat and I'll be able to stop traffic with these legs!  :)  And I love the endurance I've built and the I-can-do-anything attitude I have towards health and fitness now.

I disagree, han. Why is it arrogant? Why is it arrogant to love yourself and know that you are... powerful and beautiful?

that was the wrong word for me to use HK, Panda said what i ment.. im just not good with words :)

Hiya, btw, panda :) Nice to see you again :)

I agree it's good to accept your faults, but I don't think it's good to.. concentrate on them over your positives.

well we have both on here now :) hehe sorry HK ^.^ but hay, sumones looking sexa right now ah? *pokes you*

If'n you say so. :)

*waves at HK* - You are right, one should not focus on the negative only! 

Now I have that old song stuck in my head about accentuating the positive...

Well, I'm not really one for filling my head with a cloud of positives. Nobody is that perfect and nobody is without personal dislikes. It definitely won't get rid of my bumps and weird freckles. Some things are just there to be uncomfortable with. I'm totally fine with that though. I think everyone should be secure enough to say they are dissatisfied with things about themselves, as long as there can be something you can take away from that.

Did anyone see that WTC movie with Nick Cage? I know this is a way extreme comparison, but they had this moment of dialogue that was like a "you tell 'em" situation...the two men were trapped and one started yelling out all his frustration, hopelessness, and guilt and the other guy would tell him the other side of the coin...the things he couldn't be responsible for, the things that he had no control over, etc. And then they reversed roles and now the guy who was conforting was letting out all his anger and frustration and the first guy now was giving him the forgiving viewpoint. It was a real interesting moment for me.

Anyway, I look at this not as self-loathing but more of a "you tell 'em" kind of thing. You can become really empowered and confident once you have decided what dislikes you can and can't change about yourself.

-jf-

You know, I've been thinking about this all day long and I have to vehemently disagree.

I don't think it's arrogant to say "I'm beautiful. I'm intelligent. I'm funny. People love me." I think it's arrogant to say "I'm more beautiful than you. I'm more intelligent than you. I'm funnier than you."

I think it's positive to say "I'm beautiful." without the but. I think we should all aim to say that.
No, we're not perfect. We never will be. But, I think, true beauty comes with imperfections.

Now, as far as healthy goes.. I think it's healthy to recognize you aren't perfecr, after all arrogance ISN'T good.  However, the moment you say "but..." it's not good anymore.
"I'm beautiful BUT I have a big nose" isn't healthy. It's puting the spotlight on big nose. It's putting the spotlight on "But"
Being aware, good. Saying it, thinking it, making it part of your daily oral regime, bad. Very bad.
Because eventually you say "Well, god, my big nose is so ugly! I wish I could do something about my big nose! I HATE my big nose!" instead of "I'm beautiful, exactly as I am, imperfections and all."

My $1.32.

LEGS/THIGHS

I WANT TO CUT THEM OFF AND ADD ON NEW ONES EEWWW.

:) cheers.

I wish I could honestly post something I love about myself.  I totally agree that focusing on what we don't like is a form of self hate.   However, I wouldn't be in this forum if I had a healthy body image.   I don't like myself, and I don't know how to change myself without help.

I dislike my legs, my stomach, and the back fat that I suddenly have.   I dislike that I have been gaining weight every month for the last year.

I like that that I'm trying to loose in a healthy and sustainable way this time. 

I like:

- My flat stomach from dance
- My eyes
- My behind, suprisingly.

I dislike:

- My legs in proportion to the rest of my body
- My chest size in proportion to the rest of my body
- My acne

I would like to improve:

- My legs. I would like to tone them
- My upper body strength. I'm weak.
- My "love handles"

Yay. Goals makes me happy. =]

I hate:

• My stomach. It pudges over my jeans no matter how loose they are, on the sides and in front, and I kind of doubt it will ever be flat, no matter how much weight I lose.
• My cheeks. They are ALWAYS bright pink, but in a gross way. Always. And they always have at least one zit, which I have to pop even though I know it's terrible for my skin.

And actually, that's really it. I can live with any other flaws I might have, but my stomach and my cheeks just piss me off.

I love:

• My breasts. They're not too big but they're not small. They fit into shirts that fit the rest of me too.
• My LEGS. I adore my legs. They're muscular and long and people envy them. They lose weight first, except maybe my upper thighs but nobody ever sees those anyway.
• My nose. It's very average, not too big or too curved or anything, which I love because so many noses are unattractive. I get a few freckles across it when I'm out in the sun for a loooong time, and it's pierced, which I think looks really good.
• My butt. It's small and surprisingly firm! My lower body is amazing in its ability to lose quickly. The upper needs work.

Basically, I love everything about myself that's just average. Anything that makes me stick out just annoys me, but I like being mediocre. It makes me feel safe, I guess. I like feeling attractive sometimes, but what I like more is being able to blend in.

Sorry I didn't mean to offend with this post. It was to be light hearted fun, as most of us have a little something thats is disliked.

Sorry again, elttiks :o( (holds head in shame)