boy problems! confusion! ahhhhh!

helloooo all. please bear with me but i would love some boy advice:)

there is this guy who i've known a little bit for awhile, not very well (we had student government together at school for 2 years but didn't talk that much). recently, i've started to like him, and last weekend we hung out with a couple of other people and he was pretty flirty (for example i was wearing short shorts and when i said i was cold he was like "well you aren't wearing any pants!" and just in general kind of joking around). and after he dropped me off at home he texted me to ask about hanging out the next weekend.

but this week, he asked a girl talia who he is friends with (and i guess he knows better than he knows me) to homecoming. he's a junior, and talia's a junior, but i'm a senior so idk if that is an issue.

we're still hanging out this weekend, but i'm a little confused about where i stand with him? is it possible that he likes me but just felt more comfortable asking talia to homecoming? any ideas on what i should do from here?

sorry about the rant, and thanks for any input!

he probably wants to do u and now has that in mind cuz ur short shorts..and thats why he wanted to hang...but he wants to date talia

haha i hope that's not the case.....any other ideas?

Two words:  Kill Talia.

ahhhh lets try to stay away from murder....

He probably just felt more comfortable inviting Talia since he knows her better and she is also a Junior. Since you are senior he might also be intimidated a bit.

UD

He might just like Talia now. If you two have only had a bit of flirting, maybe he's not sure if he's interested yet. Give it time. It may work out, it may not. Just be yourself and see where it goes.

Original Post by dnrothx:

Two words:  Kill Talia.

 i'll do it!!  how much moneh you got?

*fumbles around in her stash of poisons*

oh... and how you want me to do it?

*puts scope on her gun and polishes her baby ever-so-gently*

Original Post by moodymomma1977:

Original Post by dnrothx:

Two words: Kill Talia.

i'll do it!! how much moneh you got?

*fumbles around in her stash of poisons*

oh... and how you want me to do it?

*puts scope on her gun and polishes her baby ever-so-gently*

Get to know him and let him get to know you, without the flirting and no expectations.  Then if there is anything there it will develop all by itself.  You might find that after you get to know him better, you don't like him as much (or the opposite) who knows?

Original Post by moodymomma1977:

Original Post by dnrothx:

Two words:  Kill Talia.

 i'll do it!!  how much moneh you got?

*fumbles around in her stash of poisons*

oh... and how you want me to do it?

*puts scope on her gun and polishes her baby ever-so-gently*

Haha...I got an image of Stephen Colbert and Sweetness!

I'm gonna go with...

He probably likes you.  I doubt that he would have asked you to hang out one on one otherwise.

He's probably a little intimidated (especially if he really does like you), and was afraid that you would say no if he asked you to homecoming.  Boys are absolutely terrified of being rejected.

Also, if he liked Tallia more than you, why would he be asking you to hang out?  Why wouldn't he be asking her to hang out?

Worst case scenario, he's a total a**hole and thinks he can get some from you...but if that's the case, he's so not worth your time.

Personally I think homecoming really has nothing to do with it. Society puts so much pressure on school dances when they are really not that important, especially to dudes.

He going with Talia to homecoming a. becuase they are the same age, and b. because he knows her better (he most likely knows her better because they are the same age).

He probably wants to get to know you better. The last thing you want to do is put yourself and your emotions on the line by assuming that he likes you because he wants to hang out. Don't do that to yourself. Take it slow. Hang out with him, don't think about homecoming and take it one step at a time.

:)

thanks everyone for your input!

(i like carrie and shuber's interpretations best...haha). I think there definitely is a factor of him being a junior and me being a senior (though actually he is older than me since i'm really young for my grade), so maybe that explains the homecoming thing? *looks hopeful*

i actually heard him sort of moaning about homecoming a couple days before he asked her, so maybe he felt like he needed a date and since she was a good friend it would be convenient? hmm

we hung out again this weekend, but unfortunately it ended up being in a group and talia was there. i'd say he paid equal attention to both of us, though it's hard to be a fair judge haha. i think i'm going to wait until homecoming is over and see what happens, then just try to spend some more time with him and see where it goes!

Everyone needs to quit beign so nice and be real.

He asked Talia to the dance because he LIKES her.... age has NOTHING to do with it. When did age ever matter?

If he's hanging out with her, then its not to get to know her, especially since it was in a group. He would have hung out with her one on one to get to konw her i na group if he had a genuine interest. If anything..he wants to do her. Did anyone forget he's a 17 year old guy?? You dont wanna spend a whole night having to converse with someone who you dont have any real interest in..but if you do have interest in her you will jump at the chance to spend that night together.

Hell.i'd be more willing to go to a dance with someone I liked even if  I didnt know him well because it would be a great icebreaker and if things got awkward hey..your at a dance..come on.

"when did age ever matter?" umm always? there is always the stereotype that the guy has to be older than the girl....

Well, I think the age gap becomes less of an issue once you're out of high school (I'm 2 1/2 years older than my husband).  When I was in school, I liked a guy that was one grade lower than me, but it mattered to him that I was older.  Things like that seemed to matter more that age.

In this case, I agree with what some of the previous responses have been - he's just getting to know you and might just be testing the water a little bit, but doesn't know you well enough to ask you to something as big as homecoming.  Don't worry about it too much, take your opportunities to get to know him, and be sure to be your fun self - do NOT come across as desparate to date him, or jealous of this other girl!

Ok, it's pretty much impossible for any of us to tell you whether he "likes you likes you" or just likes you based on your post. Sorry!  Not knowing either of you, and not having seen you together leaves all of us pretty much guessing based on our own experiences, which really isn't going to do you much good.

What we have:

He acts flirty with you when you're hanging out in a group - He could really like you and this is how he shows it, he could be a player, or he could just be a friendly, flirty type of guy.

He wants to hang out with you - Again, he could really like you and want to spend time with you to get to know you...  He could also think he can get something from you, or he could just think you're a cool girl who would be fun to get to know (this doesn't mean he's interested, he may have you pegged as a friend)

He asked somebody else to the dance - He could really like Talia.  He could really like you but be intimidated so he asked somebody he felt more "safe" with.  He could just have thought "hey, I'd like to go to the dance with my friend Talia" because it didn't even occur to him to ask you since he doesn't know you all that well...

My point:

If you like him, hang out with him and try not to stir up all the drama.  If you REALLY like him, at some point you should probably tell him since he may not have a clue.  Be yourself.  If something comes of it, great, if it doesn't, oh well.  Don't start driving yourself nuts about a boy who may or may not possibly have friendship/more than friendship feelings for you.