Boyfriend & Friends Peer Presuring Me to Eat Poorly

Hi all!

I'm not sure what to do because my boyfriend has cravings for the worst kinds of foods when he gets the munchies and will bring them over to my house.  I'll make a healthy dinner for the two of us and then he'll crave icecream and go out and buy Ben & Jerrys for dessert.  Or he'll bring over a bag of bbq chips and leave them at my house.

I'll tell him that I don't want any, but he'll get upset with me because I'm a healthy weight and he thinks I can "afford it and am being a party pooper".   Problem is, I would like to STAY at a healthy weight, and the 1/2 cup of ice cream I had was 260 calories that I didn't need.  Afterall, it wasn't MY junk food craving.

But it IS hard to avoid having some if he is there eating it infront of me, in addition to silently accusing me of being one of those "weight obssessed" girls who can't let loose.  

I have thought about making healthy desserts to have ready when he wants something sweet.  But you know, if he gets a craving for icecream, he'll want icecream, not cinnamon apples.

What do you all do when you are peer pressured into desserts or other junk food?

Remember that it is is your body not his. Don't let him pressure you to eat foods that you dont want. Its a form of peer pressure that you shouldn't have to give into. If you really want to eat with him though, there are healthy or lower calories alternatives to things like ice cream. a 1/2 cup of Edy's Slow Churned Ice Cream is only 100 calories and they have a lot of different flavors that taste the same as the high calorie ice creams like ben & jerry. or you can find 40 calorie popsicles.

What I do is leave the room when food like that are around. So when he wants to eat that stuff. Go to your room or somewhere else and try reading or watching tv or something to get your mind off of the fact that there is food in the other room that will make you feel bad later.

I make my husband almost twice as much healthy dinner as I make myself, he really does need more calories than me and I want him to fill up on healthy food.  Even so, he usually goes for a HUGE bowl of ice cream later in the evening.  I keep 100 calorie ice cream packs for me, and on nights when I want to join in, I eat one of those really slowly.  I am very proud to say that it takes me almost as long to eat my 1/2 cup as it takes for him to eat the whole bowl.

Good luck. 

PS. That's MEAN of him to call you names :(

There are prepackaged desserts out there that don't "seem" healthy...like Skinny Cow.  It's a huge ice cream sandwich that you can offer to him or just say that's what you'd prefer when he indulges.  Or, make a shake with fruit and protein powder.

Also, like my children looking for a response when they challenge me with their remarks, ignore him.  That will stop the ping-pong-challenge-and-defense-match right away.

Some day he, or some other partner will thank you for treating your body like the temple it is.  In the meantime, thank yourself.

Yeah my man does this too.  He'll literally go to the fridge and totally pick out two ice cream bars and hand one to me with out even asking if I wanted one!  As if its not hard enough! And I know I'd feel bad if I turned it down because he's just being sweet (hahaha) and thoughtful.  He's tall and skinny and I'm pretty 'curvvy' and so I feel stupid telling him I don't want one because it will make me fatter lol! So when we buy stuff like that, I convince him to atleast get sugar free or something.

I think your boyfriend should be a little more supportive of what you are trying to do. I'm not saying he is a bad boyfriend, I just think that he isnt thinking from inside of your shoes. Tell him that its hard with him eating that around you. Even ask him to hide it from you if it gets bad! I have my family hide any kind of dessert that is in the house away from me and if I see it out, I tell them that if they want that last brownie, they best be hiding it before I eat it!

I think after telling him that you are not one of those being skinny obsessed girls and that you want to maintain a healthy life style, he will understand! Good Luck:)

I don't have that problem with my Hubby because he is extremely supportive of what I'm doing.

But my mom will sometimes say "What can 1 hurt?" Sister's hubby will say "Ok more for us!"

People at school like to offer me sugary treats. I have a ready made reply. I pull out my bag of cut veggies or nuts/seeds. "No thank you, would you like some of this?" They usually get a very strange look on their face and don't offer me sweets again haha. Maybe you could try this for the people in your life who are trying to pressure you? It might work. Good luck!

While my significant other is very supportive, he is trying to gain weight…ugggg. He eats everything in site, healthy or not and still barely gains a pound. Because of this, when I go grocery shopping I buy reduced fat and healthy options for me and full fat options for him. I recently bought 2 sour creams, one fat-free and one original. I bought ice cream for him and skinny cow ice cream sandwiches for me. We have regular cheese and 2% milk cheese in the fridge for me. I bought him flour tortillas and me smaller corn ones. When he eats cookies I grab a healthy snack if I am hungry.  When we both indulge I eat slower and he ends up eating most of it!  Let him eat what he wants and you eat what you want.  :)