Boyfriend problems are driving me crazy!

Me and my boyfriend have been together just over a year and a half now,things are going great and i do feel he is 'the one'.We are in love and very close but a part of me feels like hes lost interest in me.

I know that in the beginning of relationships you do tend to have more sex and then it might be a 2/3 times a week kind of thing but whenever i try to be intimate with him he just seems to push me away and it makes me feels unattractive :( We do do other things but i just miss the closeness

Ive tried talking about it with him,asking if hes tired/stressed etc.. and he says no but its not like im asking for it 5 times a day! just 2/3 times a week would be nice

I try everything and i feel like in the end i have to keep asking and then i feel like im forcing him to do it  help?

By the way this isnt affecting out relationship it just upsets me,he is a great guy though.

I think you need to let him know you're upset, that this is uncomfortable, and that you need to know what's going on.

When i try to talk to him though he says fine ok then we will have sex later' so i go and make this big effort and then when the time comes hes says something like 'its not all about sex, you know!'

Its like false promises?!

Correction... if it's upsetting you it is affecting your relationship. It isn't 'all about sex' but physical intimacy is very important no matter how long you've been together.

My suggestion is that you leave him alone from now on.  Be 'close' and act normally but let him be the one to initiate sex.  Some men find it emasculating to have the woman taking the lead and they feel pressurised to 'perform' .... others find it a major turn-on.  Yours may be in the first category

If you leave it to him and you end up going a long time without physical contact then you've probably got a problem. 

Is there an age difference? It's possible to lose interest in sex itself, not the person you're having sex with. If you have the need and he doesn't, then there is an incompatibility and things need to be cleared up.

Original Post by pixie_wings:

When i try to talk to him though he says fine ok then we will have sex later' so i go and make this big effort and then when the time comes hes says something like 'its not all about sex, you know!'

Its like false promises?!

 I had this problem with my ex-bf...turned out he had a porn addiction...he was so "busy" with the girls in the magazines he didn't have any energy left for me. We broke up.