My boyfriend took my scale hostage.

This morning I woke up and found my scale gone.  I asked my boyfriend about it and he said he hid it and that he will let me have it only once a week.  He says that I'm obsessing about my weight by weighting myself everyday.

I have lost 40 lbs in 2 years.  I'm little over 5'7 and I've been fluctuating around 141-145lbs.  My goal was 145 and then I set a new goal to 140.    I have found that weighing myself everyday helps me maintain better.  With Fall/Winter here I've already started slowing down.  With rainy and cloudy weather it's hard for me to get motivated to workout some days.  I average 3 - 4 a week of work out.  And with the cold weather comes eating heavier food.  I don't expect to lose weight this winter, with all the holidays and all as well  but I would like to maintain.  Next spring I want to set a new goal of 135. 

It just upsets me that he took it.  I don't think I'm obsessing about it by weighing everyday.  I started it to see how certain foods and health issues effected my weight fluctuations.  I was tracking it on the Hackers Diet website and included notes of my time of the month, constipation, or IBS issues that I was having.  I feel that with out the scale I will start obsessing about it because I won't be able to keep track of weight fluctuations and alter my eating or work out for a day or two.

Am I obsessed?  That's a scarey question and thought.

if you want to keep your bf i would just roll with it. if you are not obsessive you will be able to; if you cant then i think hes probably right. i wouldnt choose this battle; i would tell him thanks babe and give him a big hug.

If I were you I'd hide the TV remote.  When he asks about it tell him you hid it for his own good because you thought he was starting to obsess about it.  Maybe then he'll get the message and leave your stuff alone.

(Edited to remove accidental quote.)

I'm not worried about losing him. LOL  We've been together almost 3 years and planning on getting married.  I told him we were past the point of the whole engaged thing.  We  know it's gonna happen so why not just do it.

I guess I'm upset at the fact that if he thinks I have a problem then he should have come and talk to me about it.  I do admit it will be a little hard to break the habit of weighting myself every morning when I get up but we'll see how it goes.

LOL,  good one trhawley. I might have to do that just to get a reaction out of him.  He always love picking on me and getting a reaction out of me. 

Agreed with watergirl... if it's really that hard for you to give up weighing yourself every day, you were probably starting to tread into obsessive territory.

Honestly, your boyfriend knows you and sees you every day, we don't.  If he was worried enough that he took the scale, you might want to really take a look at your behavior to see if you were indeed bordering on obsessing.  Were you weighing yourself more than once a day?  Would you get upset if you couldn't weigh yourself one day?  Were you flipping out/getting upset over very very slight fluctuations in weight?

If, after looking at what you've been doing, you really don't think you were obsessing, tell him to give you the scale back and lay off of your stuff! :)

I weight my self every day, often more than once a day.  I don't get upset if I can't weigh myself on some days and I don't get upset over fluctuations in weight but I would "flip out / get upset" if someone hid my scale from me because they thought I was too obsessive.

Did you try explaining to him as you did to us as your reason for wanting to weigh everyday?

*ahem* i did not interpret this as a control issue ;)

I didn't either... I guess I just assumed that he was worried about you.  He probably didn't handle it in the best way (i.e. stealing your scale rather than talking to you about it), but I was going off of the assumption that he knows you better than we do and would therefore know better than we do whether there was something to be worried about.

Tom - remind me never to take your scale ;)

I weigh myself once a day first thing in the morning.  That's it.  There are days that I don't weight myself and it's not a big deal.  I don't not freak out if the number is higher than I want.  I look at any changes that I may have made or not made and sometimes plan my work out or meals with the number that I see.  For me it has become a tool in helping me maintain for the moment until spring.  Maybe I shouldn't depend on it like I do.  He knows why I do it.  I will have to talk to him again.  I will try a week without it though just so he can't say I didn't try.  That's if he gives it back to me. LOL

No, no control issue, LOL  but I will have to hide the remote now just to pick on him.  He's a goofball and is always picking on me.

Thanks for the feed back.

As a man I am going ot guess that he wouldnt know you were weighing in every day unless he had to hear about it every day.  No offense, but he is probly just tired of hearing it. 

Maybe he read some of that advice that tells you to only weigh once a week. I've heard that advice alot. I personally weigh myself every day. It keeps me accountable and motivated. I don't freak out or get all depressed about it. I weigh myself every morning and it works for me--it just gives me reassurance that I'm still on track every morning. One of the reasons I like weighing every day is because you get a nice average of your week's weight. Sometimes it does fluctuate one or two days a week but if it was the same all week and went up one day and it goes down again the next day I know that it was not a "real" gain.

sokkies

http://www.webmd.com/diet/news/20051118/daily -weigh-in-may-help-dieters-lose

I've been weighing myself daily for at least 5 years.  It keeps me accountable.  I'd say his taking your scale is pretty controlling.

Sokkies - That's what works for me too.

Vermicious -  He doesn't hear about it.  We get up pretty much the same time every morning and he watches me do it.  He's always teasing me about it.  I started CC back in April and he saw me losing weight and then wanted me to count his calories.  When I started doing it and weighting everything that he ate he called me "Food Nazi".  Although he was joking, it just seems that everything I do he See's me as over doing it.  I don't know  He needs to lose some weight but he's also happy with himself where he's at. He always says he liked me better when I was Jolly (he means fat).  I think part of it  is that it's making him have to think about himself and make some better changes for himself and he's just lazy and doesn't want to.

See, post #14 makes me interpret this as a control issue.  I would be highly pissed off if my husband teased me about my weight loss, indicated (however jokingly) that he liked me better fat, and then hid my scale as the cherry on top.  To me, that doesn't sound like concern for you, just petty jealousy and childish insecurity.   

Only going by post #14, obviously you know him better than I do.

I agree that weighing yourself every day is probably futile, since weight can fluctuate a bit on a day to day basis. But I also find hiding and denying someone their personal property a bit too controlling for my tastes.

It's weighing, not weighting.

Original Post by moonikins:

It's weighing, not weighting.

 

 This! I'm so glad someone finally said it! This typo (or whatever it is) absolutely drives me nutso! Go mooni!

"He needs to lose some weight but he's also happy with himself where he's at. He always says he liked me better when I was Jolly (he means fat).  I think part of it  is that it's making him have to think about himself and make some better changes for himself and he's just lazy and doesn't want to."

I think he's worried that you will trade up.

I am having a bit of trouble seeing how it could NOT be a control issue...if it really was genuine concern, a frank discussion would have been in order, not just hiding your scale like a parent hiding the cookie jar. How rude.