boys with dolls

My cousin posted a picture on facebook of her son kissing a doll he got for Chrismas (I think he's about 1.5 years old). My other cousin, her brother, wrote a dumb comment about calling social services. It's not even a 'girly' doll, it's dressed in an Eeyore costume.

In my opinion I don't see why it matters what toys a boy or girl plays with, as long as it makes them happy. When I was 7, I had a best friend who was a boy, he would play Barbies with me and I would play GI Joes with him. I did and still do play video games, not 'girly' ones either.

If he calls social services, Im sure he'll get an earful from them.

Hard to believe today still people get unnerved by such innocence.

Well it was a joke I'm sure...but yes, your second line sums it up well.

I was wondering that - I could see posting something like that as a joke but would be concerned about being taken seriously or enforcing those who are uptight.

I thought I'd post because I read "1.5 years old" accidentally as "15 years old" and laughed for about 30 minutes at my own stupidity.

Haha. That said...

I agree with sun123. A friend of mine's dad won't really cuddle his 5 month old son, ( and her baby brother), kiss him, or bathe with him because he believes it would teach him...um..."bad" habits. (I didn't want to come out and say it, I hope everyone gets what I mean by "bad" though.) Its kind of ridiculous.

I think its a "man" thing, in all honesty.

Original Post by luhluhlovesongs:

I thought I'd post because I read "1.5 years old" accidentally as "15 years old" and laughed for about 30 minutes at my own stupidity.

 

lol...yeah that would be a bit odd.

Original Post by luhluhlovesongs:

I think its a "man" thing, in all honesty.

It is definitely more of a man thing, at least in the sense they would make a bigger deal out of it or be more uncomfortable about it...but how many women do you know would buy a doll for their son? Or a Tonka truck for their daughter for that matter?

Goodness knows what your cousin would think of my friends boy then.  He's 2 years old and loves wearing his fairy wings and waving round his wand!!  At that age I don't think kids associate any gender to their toys unless influenced by their parents and he has as much fun pretending to fly around as he does playing with his train set!

My husbands step-sister had a son about a week before my daughter was born.  They are both two.  When we got together for Christmas her son picked up the doll that my girl recieved as a Christmas present.  The grandfather practically screamed at the boy and said he wasn't allowed to play with it.  I don't understand this attitued.  It is natural for children to want to do things that their parents do, like feed or dress a baby doll.  Some people are just silly. 

When my son was 2 I got him a Dora doll, and he loved it. The next year his baby sister was old enough to get dolls and they would play dolls together. Even now, they all occasionally play dolls together, even the 11 y/o son (the dolls tend to go on a war rampage and get run over by huge Tonkas or blown to bits though)

A friend of my son is...oh, I don't know how to describe it- he's got 3 brothers, no sisters, but has a collection of ladies costume jewelry, fake nails (girly style, not Freddy Krueger style) and more often than not is a princess for halloween. When they play games on the school yard, he's always the "damsel in distress" instead of the "brave sir knight" that all of the other boys are.

But to my knowledge, he doesn't have any dolls :P

Jeez, are people still thinking that way?   My mom baby-sat when I was a small kid.   All the younger boys would play with the baby dolls, and were happy pretending to be baby Carrie when we played "Little House on the Prairie (yes, I'm dating myself).   And the girls played Batman & Robin, cowboys and indians, and jumped off the garage roof (oops, did I say that mom? haha) with the boys. We stayed family friends with a lot of them, so I still know some of these boys, now in their late 30's, and none of the boys are sissies, or the girls butch.

I'm looking forward to living in a time where kids aren't forced into gender stereotypes.

Meh, i never got into the doll thing...

Stuffed animals though! thats a different story! Who doesnt like those? I still have a bunch around! haha

people are so strange, why should it be a problem for a boy to be loving and nurturing? I worked at a kindergarden and the kids (boys and girls) loved the dolls, and the boys naturally grow out of it around age 4

 

People can be so sexist, a friend came over with her daughter who is about 6 and the girl asked about a chess set we had, and our friend said " oh dont worry about that, thats a boys game" imagine!

The more people freak out about making sure everyone adheres to constrictive gender roles, the more I think THEY'RE the ones in denial about...something.

Honestly, both me and my brother played games with stuffed dolls, as well as Tonka trucks and Matchbox cars. And the world didn't come crashing to an end. (And chess is a "boy's game"?! How ridiculous! What piece has the most ability to move all over the board? The QUEEN!!!!!)

I had a friend in college who said his parents actually beat him as a child when they caught him playing with a girl cousin's doll. Beating a child for that? Now THOSE are the kinds of people you need to call social services on!

I have a son who just turned three whose favorite color is pink and my family is mortified.  Big whoop!  I think it's great that he can like a color just because he likes a color.  In fact, since he likes pink, I actually went out and bought him a cute boys pink polo shirt with a brown stripe and he loves it.  At least my hubby is in total agreement with me.

So, I totally understand the doll thing.  My son loves to play housekeeping and to play with his stuffed tiger like its his baby doll.  He also loves dinosaurs, trains, and crayons.  Gender stereotypes suck.  In fact, if he asked for a Barbie or even a dress up tiara, I'd probably get it for him for his birthday or whatever.  When we visit my parents, his favorite toy to play with is my old cabbage patch doll from 25 years ago.  Good for him!

hey - gay kids need toys, too ;)

Original Post by pgeorgian:

hey - gay kids need toys, too ;)

 *watches pg attempt to poke the snake*

Original Post by pgeorgian:

hey - gay kids need toys, too ;)

No they don't, they need bibles, duh. 

Original Post by pgeorgian:

hey - gay kids need toys, too ;)

 I think your confused... the toys are needed to make the kids gay! Its all the gay movements plan to lower the human population so they can take our jobs!

pink + dolls = lisps and man secks

Original Post by pgeorgian:

hey - gay kids need toys, too ;)

 *thanks pg I just snorted tea out my nose*

Original Post by peaches0405:

Original Post by pgeorgian:

hey - gay kids need toys, too ;)

 *watches pg attempt to poke the snake*

i'm not poking anything!