my brothers girlfriend is my age!

my brothers girlfriend is my age and it really bothers me!  ok so i am 20 years old and i have 2 brothers. one is 27 and the other just turned 31. I dont know why it bothers me so much! is it the fact that he thinks shes sooo mature? or because shes good looking? or becuase its all for easy sex?  i met her a couple weekends ago and this past weekend she slept over our house wiht him.  she looks like  a 12 year old! my other brother thinks its creepy too. he also dislikes her because the first night they met it was her bday(just turned20) and she slrpt over for 3NIGHTS at his apartment! so my other brother(27yr) this the older one is stupid. just today he was telling our mom how they met, at some club he thought she was older but, and i said that he was a creep too. then he goes off saying how mature she is and how shes such a nice girl.

meh i dont think shes mature at all and when i met her i couldnt even have a conversation with her without having to repeat myself or give examples of what i meant.

i know we are on different levels and have been brought up differently, ( MY parents would kill me if i dated a guy 10 yrs older than me, and never mind stay at his house!, and i am in university. she on the other hand just got some reception job couple months ago and goes clubbing 4 times a week.)

i dont know. it just bothers me!

im sorry i just had to vent!

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Sounds like he is a lucky guy >< you should be happy for him!

If they are having fun and are safe...whats the problem?

And when you say she looks like a 12 year old. Are you saying people who look young should never be able to have sex?!

i agree, sounds like you might be a little jealous from your up-bringing, remember dear not everyone was raised like you...thank God for that!

My brother is 25 (4 years older than me) and his girlfriend is a year younger than me. At first it did feel weird just because he's my older brother and I couldn't imagine him dating someone a year younger than me in high school. Really a 5 year difference isn't that much, and she does look a lot older than 20.

If the relationship lasts I'm sure you'll get used to it. It might just take some time to adjust.

jblarghp- i guess ur right may just take time, since shes a totally douchebag maybe it wont last too long lol

Original Post by bootser1:

i agree, sounds like you might be a little jealous from your up-bringing, remember dear not everyone was raised like you...thank God for that!

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Original Post by loriklorik:

Sounds like he is a lucky guy >< you should be happy for him!

If they are having fun and are safe...whats the problem?

And when you say she looks like a 12 year old. Are you saying people who look young should never be able to have sex?!

it was sarcasm. i just find it gross. i think if she was older, or he was younger it wouldnt bother me. just casue his past gshave been his age. this is quite the difference

Not sure how upbringing plays into it, but basically, both your brother and his girlfriend are adults (even if she doesn't look it!) and it's their choice to date each other if they wish. I'd just try to put it out of your mind and enjoy yourself.

she is 20 she can do what she likes, I think it would be really good not that 30 year olds are bleak and dull but hes got a 20 year  old woo,. if it was a 17 year old dating a 27 year old it might be different, but I dont think this age difference is stange at all

They are both of legal age so I don't understand why you are making such a big deal about this.

I was 18 my now husband was 35 when we met. The only person in my whole family that had an issue with it was my dad. Everyone else it was no big shock because I had always dated people older than me.

We have been together over 10 years and married for for almost 8 years. We have 3 great kids together.

I think you have just proved her maturity over yours!

I personally would be a little concerned that I was so up set that my "Brother" wasn't saying affectionate things about me and had the audacity to be sleeping with another woman!

Cut the poor bloke a bit of slack.  He's met someone at a club and he likes her.... and she likes him.  Not an intellectual, looks younger than 20, quite pretty, willing to sleep with him.   In many a 30-something man's eyes that's the definition of the perfect woman.  LOL!   She's not your girlfriend, she's his.  The world is full of older men dating younger women... calling him 'creepy' makes it sound like you think he has paedophile tendencies. 

Trust it's OK for your family to be mega-critical about the next man you bring home.... be prepared.  They sound like a tough crowd.

I don't see the problem...they are both adults...

The age difference will become less of an issue as everyone gets older. I've always dated older guys and it's no biggie. My fiancee is 9 years older than me but you would never know it.

And yeah, there can be some differences in maturity levels. Just like I say to myself, "woah, I can't believe I did that when I was 20". But they can still grow together and she'll eventually settle down.

If you treat this girl like she doesn't belong, you may end up losing your brother.

Yeah, I think you are a little overly concerned about your brother's sex life. It's really none of your business how many nights she slept over. And unless they get married or engaged, I don't really see why you are so up in arms over her.

It's not a competition. You are his sister, she is his love interest. Sheesh.