I was called fat by a complete stranger!

so heres the story-I have always had big calves, everyone in my family has huge calves and none of the girls in my family has ever been able to fit in normal boots. I decided to be brave and go to a shoe store to find some chic black boots and I found some that actually managed to go up my leg...and zip! a great victory for women in my family. So i started talking to my mom about how great this is since no boots ever fit us.  While my moment of amazement was still going on, some tall girl not much heavier than me (only with thin calves) prances over and shes wearing the same boots. She turns to her boyfriend (while I'm telling my mom how boots never fit me) and she says "are these boots too big on my legs?" and her boyfriend says shes silly and then she looks at me while still talking to her boyfriend and says "I think they're made for fat people" and they both start laughing!!! I really don't understand why they did that. It was so rude and the part that hurts the most is that I never even said anything to her or even looked at her oddly yet she does this to me! also, I don't even think im fat! Sure I can lose a few pounds here and there but its nothing to be called fat over. I'm 5'3 and 119lbs and pretty active! I personally just don't understand it. But of course, being like any person it hit hard and I was just embarassed and overall ashamed of myself and I still can't get over the comment, even though it was said indirectly to me. 

Has anything ever happened to you that was similar to this instance?

Original Post by marmarl:

I think that she didn't even notice you and is simply clueless.  I did something similar years ago:

I had lost 20 lbs. in 4 weeks from ephedrine and went from a size 12 to a size 8.  I was at a baseball game with my family and proud of my weight loss and I said something like, "I can't believe I was a size 12!"  Sitting right in front of me was a porker who probably was a size 14 or 16 and as soon as the words were out of my mouth, I noticed her and felt like a complete ass.  She probably went home and told everybody that a total stranger called her fat...

Size 14/16 - "a 'porker"?
Better that she heard you then read your mind.

gdb, Im another that has always had wide calves and know what it means not to get into boots so happy that you found a pair that work for you.  I'd welcome my wide calves back in a minute - Ive now severe edema in my calves and my final weight loss wont alter the disproportion.   I sense your confidence but know biting words can still sometimes hurt so consider the source of someone who'd be so rude.  Sport those boots- betting they look great :D.

Ummm... neither of you could remotely be called 'fat' under any circumstances. Enjoy your perfectly-fitting boots and don't let some idiot's casual comment get you down.

Oh...you are anything but fat! I know it still stung though, and she totally messed up your moment! I'm sorry that happend to you...it makes me wanna pounce on something!

Yes, I did have something "kinda" like this happen to me...just the other day too. I was so mortified I even posted it on Craigslist as as rant...however I really am fat:) 

My whole family has been sick, and I was sent to the store for 7up (yuck!). As I was walking into the store, a man (early 30's probly), looked at me and said "Here fatty, fatty, fatty" and then barked and howled at me. He stopped walking as a huge SUV drove by him just the...oh, oh yes was I tempted! But I was also mortified. I was so embaressed I got back in my car, drove to a fast food place and ordered 4 7ups, rather then chance getting out of my car again.

Original Post by nirriti:

Oh...you are anything but fat! I know it still stung though, and she totally messed up your moment! I'm sorry that happend to you...it makes me wanna pounce on something!

 

Yes, I did have something "kinda" like this happen to me...just the other day too. I was so mortified I even posted it on Craigslist as as rant...however I really am fat:) 

 

My whole family has been sick, and I was sent to the store for 7up (yuck!). As I was walking into the store, a man (early 30's probly), looked at me and said "Here fatty, fatty, fatty" and then barked and howled at me. He stopped walking as a huge SUV drove by him just the...oh, oh yes was I tempted! But I was also mortified. I was so embaressed I got back in my car, drove to a fast food place and ordered 4 7ups, rather then chance getting out of my car again.

 

 

 Unfortunately we are never completely insulated from jerks, you happened to  find yourself in the company of one.  Not to worry, being a jerk is much worse than weighing either too much or too little!