Why can't friends be quiet sometimes?

So I have two male friends, both gay, and we have a habit of watching reality tv together on Wednesday nights.  We were watching Workout last night. In case you don't know, it is a show about the "drama" involved in an elite exercise club. Anyway, a girl was on it and I thought she was WAY out of shape....I mean she was a playboy bunny and she had a baby. She had about 25 pounds to lose.  She carried her weight differently from me, too. Hers was all around her stomach and arms and a pooch. Mine is in my butt and thighs, mostly. So my one friend says to me, "Hey Suzanne, you're about that size, right?" And I say, "I sure hope I'm fitter than that!" and then the other friend says, "Oh Suzanne.  Who cares if you have pounds to lose? Something extra on a girl is cute."

CUTE?

CUTE?

And this is said right after I ate a 2nd piece of pizza. (I was only about 200 over for my calories. I had budgeted. But still, you know?) 

So my gay friends are the vainest two men in the world. They workout all the time and wear beautiful clothes. Calling my "something extra" CUTE pissed me off to no end.  And, most of all, it made me question my progress.  I have been doing this program for about a month. I feel better. I think my clothes fit better. I don't weigh myself, but I would guess that I am down about 4-5 pounds. 

So now I'm depressed. If my best friends don't see it (and I know they look at EVERYBODY's body critically), then is it really happening?  *sigh*

I'm sure they were trying to be positive and nice. They love you for you and I think that's what they care about. To them it doesn't matter what you look like because they always see you in a positive light. Just think about how proud they'll be of you when you reach your goal!
(I had an experience with a gay guy on my Freshman hall who was asking me about the contact information for nude modelling (my roommate and I were going to try it. We didn't end up doing it.) and then asked me when I was going to start working out. That REALLY pissed me off because I work out every day hardcore and I took massive offense. Especially because he looks like a praying mantis with a beer belly. GRR)

when you make yourself a slave to the opinions of others, you will often feel ... like a slave... (outraged, angry, sad, put upon)

Decide who you're trying to please. (I hope yourself) Then dedicate yourself to that and only that and just let these kinds of comments from others roll off of you. 

If you are doing this for them, and not you, then ask them what you should do to please them.  That will make a good game for you to play until you decide you are singularly responsible for your life in each and every moment.

Once, after I had lost about 60 pounds a close male friend (not a boyfriend) said "You don't look fat to me any more". To which I replied "Thanks, I guess", because it hadn't occurred to me to care whether he thought I was fat or not.

"Feedback is a gift," someone has said. So, like any other gift, say thank you and decide privately whether to heed it or discard it.