Can't get this out of my head... Stupid names for larger women...

Hello Everyone!

I wasn't originally going to write here but I can't seem to get something that happened at work out of my head. I'm not sure why it's bothering me exactly and thought that this may be an interesting subject to bring up. What happened you asked? Well as I said I was at work (I work behind the scenes in theatre) and the Stage manager was commenting on a larger actress and how they are treated differently and usually unfairly. She told me that I must understand since I am a "FLUFFY" person myself. How stupid is that???!!! First of all what an inappropriate name for being full figured and I hate how I was put inside of a box labeled "Fat" when I'm finally starting to feel good about my body after loosing 27 pounds! Does anyone else have any advice or other odd stories like this? Thanks for reading :-) I already feel better :-)

-Allison

ewwwes not fat ewwwes just fluffy

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more cushin for the pushin



hell they like big butts and they cannot lie.  f@@@ it.  take it as a compliment.  no one says that stuff to people that are over the "prejudice" mark.  it means ur comfortably overweight and not fat anymore.  really, its a compliment and an attempt to be.... close to you.  people are stupid and dont realize what they say.  im sure she was being.... i wanna say friendly but that doesnt seem right.  take it as a good thing and let it go.  again, people are stupid.  i myself look for the fat girls so we can commiserate.... tho i usually start out with a self deprecating comment to break the ice LOL.

at least she didnt say something about fat girls and how they suck.  and girl...

CONGRATS on the weight loss.... catch up with me in about 4 months and I WILL BE THERE TOO!  (hold me to it lol)

As a 'fluffy' person too who has had all kinds if comments in the past ... just let it wash over you & smile sweetly .

27 lbs ... BRILLIENT !!! Well done.  Keep going girl.

In the past when I would be eating a choc bar or something like,  the stick thin girls in the office would wonder over and annouce in a LOUD voice " Gee if I had one piece of choc I just swell up so much I have to do a 5 mile run "  ... eeemmm Gee Thanks !

I hate it when pencil thin girls say how they are going on a diet and then they look at me.  EWWW!

I was talking to some of the women I work with in the office about hauling hay for my horses and how wore out I felt and then a "twiggy" said she couldn't do that type of manual labor but some women are just built for it.  ARGGGGH!!!  

Hey Allison

Many people think the overweight people have a desease and by just talking to the overweight  person they may just get fat too.  This is a sad way to be.  I think people who call overweight people as "fluffy" "fatty" "lardtub" "portley" etc.....are not too bright to start off with.  I actually feel sad for them. 

Contrats on loosing your weight, am so darn proud of anyone who has started to do something about their image.  Loosing weight is hard, keeping the weight off harder still, but the feeling and the compliments you get after you reach your goal weight is worth the long haul.  Keep up with the weight loss and try not to worry about the "fluffy" word or any other label we get placed with.  Live life to the fullest potential, and love every single minute.

Sue

This came up in another thread too.  One day, after finding out I had lost another 8 pounds - a total of 18 since I started working with my doc on this, and someone called me a fatty from their car while I was crossing the street.  I had been feeling so good about what weight I had lost, but that comment messed with my head for the rest of the day.  Then, I woke up the next morning, and noticed my face looked a tad slimmer.  So I thought to myself, "Moron," considered the source as an ignorant person and went on about my business.  It hurts, though.  It's inappropriate to say the least.  I do however think that in this person's own twisted way, they were trying to be sympathetic.  Sounds like it anyway.  People just don't know how to interact with us sometimes, and they trip over their ignorance as they walk through the door to say hello.

I HATE rude people!  Hate hate hate them!  I was on BART (the subway here in SF, for those of you  not in Cali) and this larger woman came on board.  These SUPER irritating dumb stupid and clearly also drunk teenagers walked up to her and said "Oh, when are you due?" and when she looked confused, laughed.  ARGH.  I wish I'd had the guts to tell them off.  Or better yet, call the cops, as they were definately too young to be drinking and most definately had booze with them.

Rude people should be ignored.  Yes, they hurt your feelings and yes, it makes you angry, but they aren't worth the bother.

On the other hand, it kinda sounds like she put her foot in her mouth and didn't mean it in a malicious way.  And anyway, you're doing fabulously, who cares what she thinks?

i've been called every name for fat people out there..  and to be honest the ones that hurt the most are the ones that are said to try and hurt me the most.. some people say things without thinking and i usually am able to forgive them of their ignorance.. but people who are saying these things with the intent to make someone else feel like crap are horrible ugly rotten souls who (i believe) will get their's in the end..

i also have to say that when people say things to me now about how fat i am i get even madder because i'm working on it.. and i'm too polite of a person (and too shy) to say it.. plus anyone who would say something like that doesn't give a flying fig that i'm working on it..

I don't think that everyone sees "fluffy" as derogatory. Where I live there is actually a consignment store for plus sized women and the store is called "Fluffies". I've never heard this term used in a negative way... it's possible she had no intentions of being insulting. (And it's possible that "Fluffies" might have failed in a different market where people have a more negative interpretation of the word... who knows?

~Sisa

I strongly dislike 'chunky'. peanut butter is chunky. people are not.

i always describe myself as well rounded-- in all ways LOL.

I never minded Fat...it's what I was.  But I always referred to myself ad lardass or chubs.

When skinny people say they are going on a diet, it's a setup line for you (or someone else) to say "Oh No! You don't need to diet at all! You're perfect now!"  The reply that you should give (in a perfect world, where you wouldn't be putting your job on the line, etc) is something like "Don't bother, dieting doesn't cure dumbness".

Hello everyone!

Thank you all very much for your replies! and I apologize for taking so long to reply (:-P work).I really appreciated all of the support and encouragement! Thank you also for sharing your stories of others who can be judgemental and ignorant. tiamat_the_red who knows maybe we could get together and kick some ass! We could totally take her! LOL

I know that being called "fluffy" isn't the worst thing in the world to be called by far. I think it just really pissed me off at being judged in the first place, you know to be put inside a box labeled fluffy aka fat. The last couple of months I've realized (maybe some of you have done this as well) but that I was in a huge state of denial. It wasn't until my boyfriends parents called me fat that I even really thought that it might be true. I was so shocked when I finally realized I had weight to loose. Sounds weird doesn't it? Anyways maybe it was just another one of those things. Angry at being judged yet still trying to not live in denial.

Anyonw else ever have the denial sunglases on?

I hope you are all well! Hope to chat soon!

-Allison

You know what I am probably gonna get some backlash for saying this...but I think "skinny" and "fat" are different for everyone.  It's all about perception.  Say that you are 100 lbs over weight...you might think that someone that is 30 or 50 lbs over weight is skinny...or say you weigh 110...you might this 150 is heavy...I think we (women especially) need to support each other.  If someone that you consider skinny says...I'm going on a diet...it might not necessarily be that they are searching for a compliment...they really might not in their perception be happy with their bodies.  And if they are searching for a compliment maybe they have some of the insecurity/body image issues that we ALL face at different points in our lives.  I started here...5'3 154...now I'm down to 128,...I've worked my rear off...been very diligent...b/c I wasn'textremely overweight doesn't mean I didn't need to lose it...or when I talked about it didn't need encouragement.  I think we all should just give each other a break and realize we all have alot of the same self esteem/image problems...regardless of weight. :)

Shana

Name calling of fat or thin people is not ever good!

Another point to add to devwo's comment is that thinner people change clothes sizes faster.  A co-worder is 110 lbs. If she gains 7 lbs she jumps up a clothes size. So while I'm thinking "Oh big deal, 7 whole pounds" it IS a big deal to her!
I was "tubby" in high school.