Posts by bambiscarredme

Thank you all so much again. I'm in my late teens so I'm hoping i'm just a late bloomer. In the past the only sexual experiences I've had were because I self medicated (I was always pretty smashed). I will definatly try to find a therapist, but I don't want to tell my family. And I really don't want to lie to them.

Thank you all so much,its nice to know that i'm not alone. In the future I thing you're right, I should talk to my boyfriend about it when we're getting serious instead of just pushing them away.

Thanks!

Original Post by jblarghp:

Okay, this is a sensitive question, and by no means do you have to answer.

The first thing that comes to my mind though is the possibility of past sexual abuse?

If not that, maybe you're just not ready...everyone's different.

I was, but I never told my parents until it was too late.

Original Post by igottapi4:

my mom makes comments all the time "oh your eating too much" or "that's too much fat". never mind the fact that I've lost 8 lb in 2 weeks. she is always making recommendations. today i just got tired and told her to stop, that the way i was doing it is working.

My mom says the EXACT same things to me.....yesterday we got in a huge fight about it. And this isnt the first time...

Thanks :) That makes me feel a little better

I concur, why though?

I would also love it if my bikini would fit me again....and i wouldnt have that awkward bone and fat combo ( aka my ribs and stomach)

Original Post by imolde_nuf:

I'd watch it over a few days to be sure.  Log it for sure, because it helps you see the trend.  But yeah, I gain quite a bit of water weight durning that time (and the week before).  And don't stress, your at my goal weight!

Ya I think I'll do that....I just want to be sure its not a fluke :)

Hello?

Original Post by jackattack07:

So I just got a new doctor because I moved to a new state. I have hypothyroidism and I have to get blood drawn regularly to check it. I got my blood results back today and my doctor told me I was on too much medication because I was actually showing signs of HYPERthyroid now.

I definitely understand that it takes some tweaking to get the meds right. I understand that he needs to lower it so I can go back down into a normal range.. but what I don't understand is this:

He bluntly told me to my face "You WILL gain weight". Not that I MIGHT gain weight, not that I COULD gain weight, I WILL. How is this even POSSIBLE? How can I gain weight when he's just lowering the dosage so I will be in a normal range? It's not like my thyroid will be working too slow, it will just be normal. So if I'm normal and I genuinly follow my diet plan, am I really going to gain weight? This doesn't make any sense to me. Please tell me this quack is wrong. I really can't handle gaining weight, AT ALL.

I have hyperthyroidism too. It was really hard the first few weeks when I gain six pounds ( I have a smaller bone structure so it shows very easily). I was very depressed but my doctor recommended an excellent nutritionist and she put me on a great diet and excercise plan. It's been working so far ( kindof slow, but picking up). Maybe you should see if there are any nutritionists in your area?

I want to be able to wear a skirt and not have cherub knees

"Goes both ways dear very sorry. I wasn't justifying anything, just pointing out it is very clearly not a one sided issue. Where I come from, and in many urban areas, I am the minority in town, and yea, I see it every day."

I think that the sad thing about this election is that it has brought out racism from both blacks and whites. I met a woman the other day who told me that whites invented cancer, and a man who gave me a pamphlet of statistics that "proved" that people with darker skin were more violent by nature.Hate is hate, and racism is a two way street, it doesnt matter who says it its WRONG!

Did you not read when I wrote that? I am saying that point exactly!

Original Post by peaches0405:

you know what's weird?  When people are racist agains their own race.  I have a friend who is biracial.  Physically, she looks more African American than white....she said to me once that she doesn't date black men.  I was curious so I asked her why.  She said that her daddy was black, but he was smart and educated, and that's what she has come to expect from a man.  Then she went on to say that most black men she meets aren't like that.

I wasn't sure what to say to that....Some people would call that racist.

Ya I know exactly what your talking about. I know people who are that way, its rather strange but not uncommon. After my aunt's husband left her on my mothers side she started dating white men exclusivly. She said black men were irresponisble and she wanted nothing to do with them( her husband was a total douche).

The problem is alot of black or mixed girls who grow up with a black positive father figure who has done well for himself, think men like him are very rare. What they don't realize is that skin color doesn't affect what you make out of yourself.My father is very sucessful( he's a retired pilot) but he always tells me the only way he got there was because he was drafted. Growing u oor i the south, his greatest aspiration was to be a mail man lol.But after he got his pilots liscence he decided to become the best, and he did. Alot of men who are viewed as uneducated or unsuccessful are that way because of their upbringing, they were raised thinking there was no "way out" other that entertainment or sports. Also the "thug life" is so glorified by the media that many young boys( of any race) without good father figuires look up to these men

Alot of women assume that just because a guy is black he is uneducated or lacks ambition. For me personally a good man is hard to find no matter the race lol. But you shouldnt rule out any race due to stereotypes, even your own.

I would tell my 12 year old self that no one needs to eat a whole tin of brownies and I'm getting fat. :)

I would tell my 13 year old self to tell my best friend to quit riding while she has the chance( she passed away when I was 15, trampled to death)

I would tell my 15 year old self to date that spanish exchange student even though my parents are against it. He will grow up to be an international soccer sensation ( he plays for FC Barcelona and has a nike endorsment now)

I would tell my 16 year old self that going to you science teachers house to play video games is creepppyyy, and people will assume your sleeping with him(especially since you have a key)

I would tell my 17 year old self that I look beautiful just the way I am and I dont need to starve myself.