Posts by sarahc1984

its funny how all the profiles supporting elenbaastr were made on the same day hmm - anyway it has worked for me in the past i have sometimes ate maintenance calories or above and have found i have lost weight soon after but i guess it may work for everyone differently and i agree it is fun too i do it a few times a month normally.

You should definitely see a new doctor. I am where you are right now and i know how low it can make you feel. You need help understanding and coping with these thoughts and feelings - that takes time and most importantly understanding. What makes me angry is that you can almost expect to feel that way if you try and talk to someone who doesn't understand your issues but when it comes to a supposed professional? There is no excuse for what she is doing to you or making you feel. I am fortunate to have someone who understands suicidal thoughts and severe depression and treats it with compassion. Please i urge you find someone new they are not all like that i promise.

And never feel ashamed for what you are feeling - now i just need to take my own advice it does get better though - honestly xxx

sorry you had to go through that i have been through it twice . I weighed about 180 pounds but i was a very typical apple shape then with a larger belly and thinner legs. The first time it happened was with someone i had not seen for years who gave me a hug in front of my new boyfriend and a couple of my friends and said "looks like someone has a bun in the oven". I was mortified and everyone pretended not to hear and the guy was embarrassed but still! The second time was when i started a new job and my boss weighed a good 300 pounds or more. He took me to one side and asked me and looked shocked when i said no. This though was not enough to spur me on but 6 years later i decided after seeing a picture where i was sat next to a large friend that i looked the same size or bigger. Since then i have dropped over 50 pounds and now weigh 128 pounds at 5ft 7 which puts me in a size 4-6 and luckily the apple shape has disappeared since then lol. I looked at your pics and you look gorgeous don't let what other people say destroy your self confidence because if you do it doesn't matter how much weight you drop you never feel good enough which is what happened to me but i am back on track now and feeling better than ever.

I never feel any different even though i go into shops and buy a size 4 i feel like all of the store clerks are looking at me as if to say "she is far too big to be buying that". I think it just takes time for our minds to catch up with the new you. When everyone tells me how slim i am and how now is the time to think about maintaining i just look at them as if they are crazy.

Well done i know how hard it is to motivate yourself. I started by making small changes so i didnt feel like i was changing my lifestyle to drastically. I was exactly the same lost a little weight then lost my motivation. I was lucky i got myself a dog and he needs to be walked everyday for up to an hour. I also got myself the wii fit which is great fun without seeming like exercise. On top of that got myself and exercise/stability ball and i love doing that because personally i find it a lot of fun especially when i go on youtube and follow the exercises on there and try to keep up lol. It sounds to me that the first step is realising you really want to do it. I am the same height as you i started off weighing 182 pounds in febuary i now weigh 132 pounds and the small changes that didnt take a lot of effort really helped me on my way. Keep it up just try and do a little trial and error so you know what works best for you. 

I agree start out small. I never had any motivation within the first month of eating healthy or working out so at the beginning of this year i made very small changes. I started off by saying no more full fat milk just skim. After a month or so (and this is just me personally mind you i dont suggest cutting things out you cant live without) i said no more butter or spread i can live without it on my toast and i could. Next i introduced water into my daily life, i only used to drink diet coke ever so i made myself a large bottle of water and just tried when i remembered to drink that instead of diet coke. Trust me small changes like these over time start to make a difference without seeming like you are drastically changing your lifestyle. Within about 4 months i realised i had lost 10 pounds without even trying. That is when i decided to step it up a little and introduce exercise. I got a dog and i had to start walking everyday at first for 30 mins then gradually over time more and more. I then found this site and learnt about calories which i never knew before. I started to write down what i was eating so i would know what i could change and i what i really couldn't. I never deprive myself ever. If i want chocolate i will eat it etc i just count it into my daily calorie allowance. I don't think i could of ever personally got down from a bmi of 29 to a bmi of 20 (over 50 pounds lost) unless i had started out small and took my time. Its taken me from January to get here and i don't feel like i have changed my lifestyle too fast. because it has been over a while everything starts to become second nature to me now. But its you that really has to have just a little bit of motivation to really want to change. Its realising if you slip up not to give up just keep on going you are going to get there eventually.

wow my goal is the flat tummy too i know what you mean though ladies its probably a case of learning to love myself flaws and all. I think the problem is the bride is so skinny and she lost the weight in a very unhealthy way of not eating. I was talking to my boyfriend about it last night and he said wouldnt it be great if you could just tell your body to lose the weight from your stomach and your face. I was so annoyed lol to me that said you still need to lose weight from there as those are the places i am most paranoid about. At least this has motivated me to work out even harder thats one good thing i suppose.

I agree that a teenager should be eating no less than about 1800 cals but i have to say looking at your pics you look gorgeous and very slim. I am the same height and weight as you and i wish i looked like that lol.

I can safetly say for me i eat a little chocolate everyday and i have lost weight without any problems. That said though i do account for it in my daily calories but occasionally if i happen to go over i will exercise to help me a little. It has not hurt me yet as long as the rest of your diet is healthy then i see no problems at all.

you know what my bmi is 20.5 and i am a size 6 so what does that make me lol a big fatty? Well not according to my doctor it doesnt so thanks but if it is ok with you i will stick to a professional about whether i am overweight or not.

you sound like me and i have an inch bigger measurements than you. I feel sometimes when we lose weight we start to notice imagined flaws about ourselves. I personally don't feel like you are fishing for complimants as i constantly ask people if i look fat etc yet i am a size 6 going on to size 4. Logically when i think about it i know there is nothing wrong with me sometimes it takes a while for our brains to catch up unfortunately. If you ever want to chat and are having a bad day feel free to message me as i think you sound great and i bet you look great too :)

I think keep it up - maybe try lowering your calories to around 1500 for a week and see how your weight responds then, also make sure you take at least one day of rest from exercise a week ( i just did this and i have been in a plateau for a month and the scale started to drop again). I guess sometimes our bodies needs a break from all the hard work it has been doing so when you come back to it you feel more refreshed and tend to work a little harder.

Have you checked what your bmr is? It looks like you are doing everything so maybe your body is changing inside. You mention you lift weights so maybe muscle can account for the stall in weight loss - have you taken any measurements of yourself? 

sorry but i am confused what is the website about are you the spelling police come on grow up people talk differently some people hate abbreviated words others use them all the time it is matter of opinion i dont personally use it but this is called calorie count not slate me if you dont like the way i spell words

mine sounds a bit daft but since losing 40 pounds i have not been out to see my friends as i have been busy so seeing them as a size 6 and hearing all the guys saying oh my god and smiling at me all night. And all the girls looking concerned trying to make me drink more and get a pizza after and then feeling smug when i turn them down (i know its jealousy a little bit lol )