Posts by ndmama

Original Post by kathygator:

People openly carrying weapons in protest are not the ones to worry about for the most part. I would wager that they didn't even have ammo.

But that point aside - if the law in Arizona protects their right to mingle outside the 'safe zone' specified by the Secret Service, then they are perfectly within their rights as citizens.

Bush wouldn't allow protestors to be within view of the media in his day - talk about facism.

I wouldn't bet on the ammo thought-the idiot that had the gun strapped to his leg the other day made a point of saying "how stupid it would be to carry it if it weren't loaded" when asked that question.  And it was that in connection with his scary "tree of liberty" sign he held-the same quote Timothy McVay wore on his shirt the day of the OKC bombing.  

Moonikins is spot on-and I, as very middle aged gray haired woman (Ok -with a streak of pink) know about Burning Man- only because my children followed in my semi hippie footsteps.

Oh-in response to what makes a life form lower-

Must....gasp....  resist .....  snarky ..gasp  ..reply..   

I also just ditched the scale.  Made long term recovery more of a lifestyle plan instead of a hourly/daily "playing with the numbers" game...it's hard though.  Arrange to go somewhere-a friend's or a doctor's office where you can weigh once a week or even better, just once a month.

It's good you vent here but may I give you a few things to think about.  Tread very lightly and try a little compassion, even if she is a witch (with a "b") .....

Even though your fiance' may "hate" her , there is a lot to family dynamics that take a while to understand, and some things are more felt than explained, so don't think your fiance's feelings for his mother are so simple, cut and dry and totally in line with your own all the time.  Mother/ child issues are complicated and often very dynamic; tinged with guilt and frustration but sometimes, even in the worst of times, there is love.  He is responding to her, isn't he?  Try not to add to his anger and resentment toward her as sometimes that can come back to bite you in the bum.  

Also-remember she is an older woman whose life has, until now, probably revolved around her husband taking care of her and the raising of her kids (even if she did it badly-or at least they think so-I'm guessing you kinda like your fiance'?).  This may be a great time to distract her and take the pressure off her son..she probably could benefit from a lunch out, a friend (you?) or some help finding a hobby or a place to volunteer etc...all of that would be gifts to all involved, especially if it takes the pressure of you and her sons.

I have no patience with racism, but this might be a chance to prove her wrong by becoming even a reluctant ally.  You can't really count on changing her archaic views, but you can try to understand that she must be a sad, undereducated and now very lonely woman who is without the family support we would all need at a time like that.  I'm not saying she "deserves" it, necessarily-just that that is probably what is behind her behavior.  It may be wise for you personally, and very admirable at the same time, to try to help her address some of these voids in her life.  It may pay off and you've lost nothing, except maybe a little bit of your anger.  Again, it's understandable that you are angry and you have my sympathy, but there may be some ways that might make the mater better instead of just hating her.

I remember Graham-and I believe he is dead now....

Decadent and butter laden desserts are what I save for holidays!  And I love Paula, who always says "everything in moderation"-with a wink...

Your body is probably holding on to water.  When I have been used to eating well and then go off my body seems to not know what to do with the extra calories, fat,salt etc...and it takes a couple of days back on track to assess the real damage, if any.

Drink a lot of water and carry on as usual (before the weekend!).  And I bet you'll see the bulk of it, if not all of the extra weight off in a day or two