Posts by petitechick

Well I am similar to you in weight and height but I am 29 years old and have never had an eating disorder just a very tiny small frame. I weighed 85 lbs. all the way until I was almost 28 and then gained up to my current weight of 90-92 lbs.

I am not sure what kind of body frame you have but 85 lbs. is tiny....I know and I hated it all my life. Also I have no medical issues. I made sure to have a good doctor check me out to make sure I was healthy.

I have tried to gain only for vanity reasons because I don't like being so little. It is very hard because I am naturally this tiny and what I gain will probably just be fat and will not be healthy for me.

I don't have any great advice for you like the others. I just eat a lot and very healthy foods and get a little excersice which helped me gain where I am now.

I get told quite often that I look like a celebrity or a friend or relative.

I've only been told  once I looked like Renee Zellweger and the Olson twins.

Twice I have been told I look like Tara Reid

And the most common one I hear a lot is Ivanka Trump (Donald Trump's daughter). I am in told in the face I look resemble her. Not sure if that is a compliment or not. I've looked her up.

Original Post by r4eboxer:

you know women don't just report these things to get people in trouble.You have to get out of your own world and realize everyone is not like you. It does really upset some women. Certain life experiences, I believe, cause women or men to feel sensitive to sexual attention, however small. I personally don't get upset at all over comments, dirty jokes, or even the swipe across the bottom, now other kinds of touching etc. would make me unnerved but not really panicked, but it DOES to many women. So you have to look at the population as a whole when protecting a company or an individual. It shouldn't be up to the individual to have to find other work, what if it's a great job with good benefits for his/her family and he/she is forced to give it up because of someone else inappropriate behavior? So then children go without health insurance? Poor argument.

 I understand what you are saying and I agree that anything should be reported if the woman is feeling sexually violated even by the tiniest bit. I simply stated I am a woman who would take a lot before I would report it. I never stated or implied that all woman are like me.

One of the things she asked in her original post was how other woman here would handle sexual harrassment and I gave how I would and do. 

Are you sure it is really harassment or just attention? I am just asking because a lot of men are friendly, complimentary (even sexually), like to joke around and are not trying (or don't think they are) to be inappropriate but you maybe taking it that way or just not used to that kind of attention and it is making you uncomfortable.  I also work in a restaurant. It is a very expensive high end place and most of the men who come in their are with their wives, family, friends and are not going to sexually come on to anyone in there in front of these people but occasionally some make remarks but I just smile and don't give them any extra attention for it or say anything to encourage them to say or do more.

To me (male) sexual harassment is when a man inappropriately is giving unwanted sexual attention and has been made aware that the woman is not comfortable with it and they still keep doing it....like over an inappropriate period of time. I think men will generally flirt and they are mostly harmless even the idiots who just don't know when they have crossed the line.

Definitely touching inappropriate I would not tolerate but you have to decide what is inappropriate to you. Use your instinct. A woman knows when a man is just friendly touching (like telling you are doing a good job and a pat on the back) or if he is making a sexual move.

As far as dressing I think men are more attractive to a female NOT dressed provocative than one who is. Their are so many young girls and woman dressing so inappropriate and it is beginning to be a turn off for the decent men out there because they look desperate for attention even if that is not what they are trying to give off. A lot of men will say a woman looks the sexiest in a t-shirt and jeans. Because of all the woman out their who love and gladly accept all the sexual attention from men they make it uncomfortable for those woman who don't want any of that.

I would just be careful how you accept attention you receive and are not comfortable with.  Any kind of friendliness some men can interpret as a cue that you want the attention or more of it. I understand you need to be friendly to all guests in a restaurant but in a professional manner. Depending on the type of restaurant you work in playing their sexual game make help you get tipped better but if that is not how you want to make money and are not comfortable then I would find a restaurant that doesn't condone sexuality for more business. Their are always going to be those men that take any woman being friendly and think it is acceptable to be inappropriate. If you are not comfortable and if it gets out of hand report it to someone.

I think the media puts a lot of attention on skinny celebrities because everybody makes such a big deal over it. If they only talked about overweight celebrities...nobody would be "so" concerned and feel violated.  I am a naturally thin person and very short. 120 lbs. would definitly be to big for me but I also think it could be too skinny for someone else my height. I think the more attention society gives towards this the more it is going to be out there for young females to see. the media is in it for the money. A lot of young teenage females around this particular actresses age are thin and it doesn't mean they have an ED. I think the word ED is so over used now. We might as well just say everyone has an ED no matter what their weight because everyone has different dieting and eating habits. Everyone thinks all of hollywood had an ED because that is what the media shows is just skinny actresses. Whenever they show an actress that is overweight nobody cares or talks about the "number" their weight is.

I'm a shopaholic for sure. I know the feeling of "must have it". My household income was greater a few years ago and spending wasn't to bad on my finances then. I still wasted a lot of money on stuff I didn't need instead of saving it but my bills were still paid.

Now my the income coming in has dropped dramatically because of less work and changing my shpooing habits has been very difficult. Bills have gone unpaid because of clothes, shoes, you name it.

I am trying to train myself to not spend like I used to. I go to the mall a lot with a friend of mine but she only spends a tiny bit every week like $8 for a shirt or something and that is it while I spend way more. She knows I have a problem and she is helping me to shop like her. I was at the point where sales didn't matter...I would spend full price on items I wanted.

Black Friday was awful though. I went to the mall with my sister and everything was 50% off or spend $50 to get $10 off. Deals like that will break a person because in Aeropostle the week before I was going to buy a pair of jeans for $14.99 and didn't because I told myself I didn't need them, then on Black Friday all the jeans were $60 but 50% off. All the stores really jacked up the prices in order to give consumers a percentage off and some consumers who don't shop often at certain stores got totally ripped off because they don't know the regular sale prices prior to black friday.

I do think the term mentally ill gets tossed around to loosely. I think everyone "thinks" differently and has different addictions, hobbies, fixations. Most of these are very mild but when they become severe enough to cause immediate harm to one self or others then there needs to be some intervention through a mental facility or therapy but I would not say that person is mentally ill for life. Most people can control these things with their mind or completely stop them although sometimes another addiction, hobby, or whatever you want to say takes its place. Most of us have enough control of our mind even when we do crazy and unrational things, we realize it at some point later on and try not to do it again or control our behavior better. A person who needs professional mental help has no control over some part of their mind and will do crazy or unrational activity over and over and not know it at the time or later on that their behavior is abnormal. When that behavior becomes life threating to one self or others a mental facilty or under supervision (usually for life) with medication is needed. My father in law is mentally ill and has to be in custody of a family member for the rest of his life to supervise his meds and behavior.  He is schizophrenic. He is fine with his meds but without them could do serious harm to the public. His true self is a very kind and sweet man that would not do any harm to any one.

As far as ED's, I don't believe most people who have an ED have a mental illness. Most people have control or eventually gain control over their eating or know something is maybe not quite right with their eating. They may come here for support to eat healthier and get more education on proper nutrition. They may have thought they were eating fine and come to find out they are not and then try to change their diet to become healthier.  I think a true mentally ill person with an ED thinks they have control of their eating habits when in fact they are harming themselves. They are the ones that are not going to be on a forum saying they have an ED because they don't believe they do have a problem even when told so by others. They need someone else in real life (not internet) to help them control their eating habits with them throughout their life.

 I also don't no why most people only think thin people have ED's. People of every size can have an ED weather it is not eating enough, overeating or any other harmful dieting.

Bambi- If you are a teenager or very young female with not a lot of (or none) sexual experience then I would think it would be normal to be somewhat scared of being touched sexually. If you are not used to that kind of touch then it may take some time to get comfortable with it. Are your boyfriends just moving to fast and not giving you a chance to get comfortable with them first?

 Also, I agree to get see a therapist if you feel it is your past causing this. Remember your past is your past. It does not define you and don't let it control any part of your life.

huggitbear- I get what you are saying and I am a very petite size 0 woman. I don't think society and men think a certain weight is beautiful. Men all have different tastes and I think what attracts them is not just weight but a woman who looks like she takes care of herself at whatever weight. A woman with beautiful eyes, skin, or certain features attract men regardless of the woman's size and to keep a man a woman needs way more than just their looks.  I think it is pretty obvious if someone doesn't take good care of themsleves (male or female). I have known very tall woman who are naturally thin and they do look healthy and are attractive and I also know plus size woman who are extremely gorgeous and take good care of their body and attract many men. Who cares what the fashion industry thinks is a perfect body.....maybe for their clothes but certainly all the runway models I have seen may have been really skinny but not all of them I would consider beautiful. I think weight and how attractive a woman is....is two completely different things. If a person looks unhealthy at whatever size/weight...I don't think they would look to attractive.

All I have to say is make sure you have done all your research. I have wanted implants so bad. I hate having small breasts but I will never get implants. Take a look at this website www.breastimplantsupport.org . Then if you decide to get implants at least you will have had this information before doing so.

I definetly wear padded bras. I am a 32b and I hate it. I am so jealous of women with bigger breasts. I have always wanted to be bigger. My husband likes them though. He is not a boob man. I really want to order this bra from www.bitasaviss.com . I don't care about false advertising because I don't plan on showing them to anyone any way but I would like to look a little curvier on my small frame.

Original Post by agruskin:

my point of gaining weight and my q of why youd want to gfain if you were "healthy" was geared towards PETITE  TUFFSTUFF-your reason for gaining is EXACTLY what i was going for so yop, agreed!!

 I guess this was reffered to me. Not sure why the need to be called "PETITE TUFFSTUFF" though. I think that is uncalled for....not sure why the harshness towards me, maybe because I have different views regarding weight and why I am here?

To answer your question, I just want to simply gain 5-10 lbs. just be a little bigger and filled out. It is really just to look better to myself. I have always been a very small naturally thin person.....underweight....NO. Healthy....YES with a BMI of 18.  I am not sure why but so often I get the impression that a lot people think that naturally thin means underweight. I have been sick before and have lost a few pounds during sickness but it didn't put me on my death bed and I gained those pounds right back after being sick.

I just mentioned yesterday to a co-worked that I have been trying to gain weight for a long time. She said "Why, you look just fine to me". I told her my reason I stated above. My point is that I am healthy and healthy looking, I don't have bones poking out or a sickly gaunt look, I get my period every single month, and my annual doctor exams come out that I am very healthy....so is possible to be below the minimum BMI and still be healthy. I am not sure why people are so dead set against believing this. I am not the average size person in bone structure so the BMI chart is not accurate for me and that is why I don't go by that.

I don't know. I don't believe in BMI charts. They are not something I would go by to determine if my weight is healthy or not. There is a lot it doesn't take into account.

I visit:

Calorie Count

the skinny website

Petite Fashionista (Petite Blog)

Livejournal

Myspace-but not everyday

I have also thought about doing this for a long time but after researching I decided not to. To many health risks and problems associated with them. Google breast implant support. There is a website full of women who are very ill from implants. The saline ones also have silicone. The outer shell is made of silicone. No doctor will tell you that of course.