Posts by alisha_m

I go back and forth..  I lost 60 pounds first with South Beach diet, then by using calorie counter here.  I think sometimes I look great and sometimes I lost all the weight and I still dont look good.  I think it doesn't matter how much you lose, you can still fall into thinking negative thoughts.  IMO part of the weight loss process is also changing yourself mentally so you are happy with yourself no matter what.  I try to think positive things to myself when I look into the mirror.  Even if I don't really believe it at the time.. I think that part of building a better self-image has to be mechanical at first.  Then it will come natural to think positive things and you will feel more positive about yourself.   No matter how much weight you gain or lose, your body is your own.  You'll be much happier with your body if you learn to be happy with yourself inside and out.   I had a lot of problems with motivation after I lost 25.  I felt like a failure even though I'd tried so hard.  Just keep going and thinking positive thoughts.  Now that I've lost 60, and I'm just 3 pounds away from my goal weight I'm so happy that I've made it this far, but the negative thoughts still come in.  I think it's just part of learning to accept yourself at any weight.

I can also relate to getting a more negative attitude after losing some weight.  I always thought it was because I never paid so much attention before.  It was always, ok I just look like crap, oh well.  Once I started the weight loss process, it was like telling myself I actually cared.  Then the criticism started to get worse.  I just tried to relax those obsessions by thinking about what I would say to a friend who was in my situation.  You are your own harshest critic. 

I wish you the best!  I know you will get through this hurdle if you just keep trying.  :-)

I think that the part that hurts when someone lies to you is the deception which equals abusing trust.  Deception is deception.  Period.  Even if it's not accompanied with a "lie."

I was with someone who was seeing someone else but not telling me about it.  He said that he never lied -- because he never said that we were exclusive.  There were plenty of other things he said that led me to believe that we were exclusive and the fact that he could get out of "lying" by technically not saying a was the stupidest piece of mind-boggling crap I've ever had the priviledge of wrapping my mind around.  A pretty big important part of showing someone that they matter to you is actually being honest.  It's important to be clear that a relationship is not exclusive in order to have that relationship and not hurt peoples' feelings.  Whether or not someone lies, it doesn't mean that they didn't do something deceptive.  Whether or not that deception would be called a lie is irrelevant really.  It should be treated the same as a lie. .... sorry, got long winded there.  When I saw it had to do with a 'complicated' relationship, I could definitely relate.

I'm an atheist and I don't think the ad is in bad taste.  I don't understand all of the commotion about it from religious people.. Riots?  Really?  What's wrong with posing the question?  Any religious person could just think to themselves, "because I believe in god, that's why." And then be done with it.  I just don't get all of the anger.  I get tired of Christian or church ads all over the place, but not angry.  A little bit irritated, but not hostile.  Why can't the angry Christians just be secure in their own beliefs and let others be?  Sorry I'm going crazy with the questions that I'm sure any atheist-minded person is probably going in circles with.  I do believe it is a refreshing change.  I wonder what they hoped to acheive, if anything other than just some visibility and to put it out there that you can be good and godless.  *snicker*

Laughing Cow makes little individual cheeses called Baby Bel in Cheddar.  I love them.  You can even put in your zip code to see what stores sell them - plus get a coupon: http://www.thelaughingcow.com/

I also agree it could be what you are eating and a bland diet for a couple of weeks then reintroducing foods will certainly tell you if it is related to your diet.  I have a friend who has the same reaction to soy milk.  I happen to be fine with soy milk, but if I have regular milk I am running to the bathroom with bad gas.  The best gas medicine I have ever used are the GasX Chewables... or Immodium Anti-Diarrheal and Anti-Gas.  I hope you get better.  It's not only embarrassing but painful too!!

When I first saw this post, I thought it was a joke like some other people did.  To start a flamewar about abortion.  This is ridiculous.  If, in fact, you are really worried about being pregnant, that's a real legitimate fear.  Please see your doctor.  You can get your blood tested to see if you are pregnant.  That test will not be wrong.

There are many different forms of birth control.  You NEED to talk to a health care professional about how they work and when to/when not to worry if you are pregnant.  It's WAY more important to talk to a professional than read this crap.  Yes, abortion is a way to prevent an unwanted pregnancy.  It is a PERSONAL CHOICE.  Don't let anyone make you feel guity about it by spewing religious propaganda.  Your body and your life are YOURS. 

If this is a real post, I hope that you talk to a doctor soon and put your worries to rest.  Good luck

I do the same as kajikit and put the big clothes in a box and drop them off at a charity station or a thrift store.  Fortunately, I still have lots of old smaller clothes in different sizes that I'm starting to work through.  I also let my friends and family know if I have some clothes in their sizes that I can't wear... but they all wear smaller sizes than me - so off to charity it goes.

You could always go to craigslist.org to sell them/give them away without having to pay fees like eBay.  I had a friend who also used to have a swap group for kids clothes on some Yahoo group.

I was told once by someone who has a masters in sports medicine that they are not very accurate, but are a nice guideline.  She said that it's way more important to measure your heart rate and stay within a reasonable range.  Here's a link I found that talks about elliptical calorie counters: http://www.allellipticals.com/elliptical-trai ner-calorie-burn.html

That's a pretty high heart rate.  I am 26 and my BMI says I am overweight.  I've been using the ellipticals at my gym for 10 months.  My heart rate is usually around 72 to 75.  Any higher than that and I get light-headed and sometimes dizzy. 

Here's a link to what your target heart rate should be: http://www.americanheart.org/presenter.jhtml? identifier=4736  She told me that there are no benefits to excersizing above your target rate.  It does the same about of good for your body, but just leaves you even more exhausted.  Good luck!

edit: I meant 172-175

I just want to get to a point where I think I'm healthy.  In the past, I was always so worried about how I looked and scrutinize myself way too much.  I'd be lying if I said I didn't want to look skinny and hot.... but I think most importantly I just want to look back at my diet and lifestyle and have evidence that I'm treating my body as good as I can be.  It's the only body I have so I want it to be the best it can be.