Posts by ily51

As harsh as this might sound: The easier it is for him to let go of what you had, the less he cared about it, and the easier it should be for you to move onto another person who will hopefully care more.

When I was a teen, I couldn`t imagine that the other person could feel differently when in my heart it all seemed perfect. It took me forever to get this lesson through my head, but it was worth it. Now I can go through fall outs without blaming the other person for the rest of eternity, regardless of how much it tears me up inside.

I wish you all the best and hope you learn as much from the experience as you possibly can.

I always thought it was because a much greater majority of vegetarians are better educated in terms of nutrition (research most likely comes along with the choice, you know?). As opposed to many meat eaters who will just eat anything being marketed as edible.

What I think is that your weight loss has helped you become more confident. Men (well, human beings in general) who are looking purely for sex will shamelessly go for people who appear insecure and play on their weaknesses in order to get what they want with little to no effort.

On the other hand, those who are not scared to invest in something deep and complex will probably enjoy the challenge and gratification that an assertive partner provides.

Dairy also is pretty rich in protein (and the low or no fat kind has less calories).

Even beans on whole wheat toast is yummy with a bit of salsa. Or your own homemade hummus (if you want to make it low cal use as little oil as possible).

Another thing I do is add a lot of soy flour to my morning homemade pancakes/pita bread. I even go as far as 50% soy flour, though it does make things more dense and chewy, so if you`re a fan of fluffness I would recommend sticking to a couple tablespoons per cup of wheat flour or something along those lines.

My approach to this issue is quite logical: if I`m working out in the AM, breakfast will be my most consistent meal; conversely, if I exercise in the afternoon, it`s lunch; and if it`s in the evening, I`ll have a large dinner. If I have my physical activity evenly spread out through the day (for instance, walking around sightseeing) I will also spread out my meals evenly.

Once you think about it, it makes perfect sense. I mean, why have a huge breakfast if you go to the gym after work? By the time you get there, the energy boost will be long gone, and your performance will be affected accordingly.

It`s not that difficult to plan as it sounds, either, especially if you are planning your meals and activity in advance. You can eat the same 3 meals you normally would and just rotate them, like having lunch for dinner and dinner for lunch instead.

My gym also has a swimming pool, so there usually are some people who are just sitting around in the water, watching the people in the gym as if they were putting on a show or something. Sometimes they will even make sarcastic comments or hit on me. I find it sad and funny at the same time.

Also, I have NEVER seen a girl in the locker shower without their bathing suit on, even at peak times. And most look at me funny when I take all my clothes off. What`s up with that? We`re all women and share the same anatomy last time I checked. I mean, it`s not like I prance around and do the shin splits or something, just take my clothes off in front of the shower, get in, get out, towel dry, put my clothes back on. Is that the ultimate faux pas?

Thanks for the helpful info, everyone! My own fresh mozzarella does sound lovely, but I`m a bit worried as I can`t seem to master portion control when it comes to cheese.. However, I usually have just one cup of milk a day, in the morning, and I`m guessing that the 60 extra calories of fat won`t make or break my day. Especially if there are a lot of added benefits when it comes to nutrition and taste.

Shake your booty and dance those calories off. ;) Works like a charm.

Maybe the reason she fits you in so easily is that you seem satisfied with work of poorer quality than other customers? Being too nice about such services can only guarantee no improvements, unfortunately. Been there.

As the saying goes, the best exercise routine is the one you stick to. ;)

Some people prefer to do roughly the same exercise over and over, usually for a well determined purpose (couch25k, marathon runners etc.). Others, who are just focused on improving overall fitness, might or might not get bored easily, and thus need variety and switching it up.

And running in the rain is absolutely positively awesome. Walking and cycling too, for that matter. It actually feels better than being one of those regular people caught in the rain, as the mess doesn`t scare me, `cause after the workout I was going to wash my clothes anyhow.

If you`re that worried, best thing to do is get most of your nutrition from foods that are "obviously" healthy. And by that I mean it hasn`t been contested so far. Most of the stuff that`s been given a bad rep is not essential to fulfill your dietary needs anyhow.

The calories are not that far off from each other, as far as I remember.

My suggestion as a top secret alternative to chocolate is.. *drum roll* chocolate! Only the high cocoa content one. A general consensus around here is to aim for more than 70% cocoa. For me personally the rule is to have sugar as far down the list of ingredients as possible.

Don`t worry that the calorie content for this kind of chocolate is slightly higher, it is because the refined sugar, which is bad for you, actually lowers the calorie count, but brings you no nutritional value.

After getting used to the taste, you won`t find yourself going back to regular milk chocolate. And a piece or two will be enough to satisfy your cravings, not to mention that the splurge on fine, high quality chocolate will make it feel like a real classy treat, as opposed to a sugary guilt trip.

Harsh as it may sound, I think that if he`s a keeper and the relationship is going anywhere,  1. you should be able to openly (but calmly and respectfully) voice your concerns and 2. he should be willing to go the extra mile to reach a place where you are both happy.

Mind you, this should also work the other way around as well. ;)

Original Post by snowfence:

now that i'm maintaining, i like to say, 'it takes 3500 to make a pound.'  :D

Haha! That is so funny, I am exactly the same.. but I do tend to forget that all those calories add up in the end, rather than 'expire' after a certain amount of time. (that would be great, wouldn`t it? :D)Haha! That is so funny, I am exactly the same.. but I do tend to forget that all those calories add up in the end, rather than 'expire' after a certain amount of time. (that would be great, wouldn`t it? :D)

But anyway, back to the original question. I`ve found I am most tempted to eat foods I am not allowing myself, or that I restrict to very small portions. So now I just tell myself 'Yes, you can have it, as much as you want of it. But you`re smarter than that. Still want it?' This most likely does the trick, I mean, who wants to be considered stupid?

In the event that it doesn`t work I`ll have the tiniest little bite possible and if I am tempted to eat more I tell myself 'I already know what it tastes like, and it`s not good for me, so there`s no real reason to eat more.'.

Hi! CC`s calculator is not devised for teens (people under 21), so I believe the bare minimum for you would be 1500 cals/day (when absolutely sedentary, i.e. at bed rest). Obviously the need for less calories doesn`t happen overnight on your 21st birthday, so this is a bit iffy.

But what I can tell you for sure is that as a 23 year old who is 5'3 and weighs 115ish, also exercising for 1h/day, I need about 2200-2300 to maintain. You are taller, heavier and younger than me, which all equate to you needing more calories. My personal opinion is that you could lose weight steadily and nicely at around 2000/day.